For every love, there is a romantic beginning.
Every love has a romantic beginning, like having the world at your fingertips; looking at your beloved him/her like you’ll never get tired of seeing; every intimate midnight dream, passion lingering between your bodies.
Every love, it seems, also has an uneventful end.
The first time I saw the company, I was able to get to the bottom of it.
Why is romance no more? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing. But perhaps we can take comfort in the fact that this is the kind of love we commonly experience.
Passion is the main element of romance, but as time passes, passion, like a woman’s skin, goes from resilient to dull, and it seems that not even the biggest skincare products can stop it, and there is no way to reverse it.
First of all, the beauty of romance or love is its blindness. We often say that people in love are blind, deaf and stupid. Don’t ever advise people in hot love to calm down, the last thing they are likely to do is calm down. At the beginning of the relationship, we are full of fantasies about each other, about the relationship, we are full of eyes to see each other’s charming, full of ears to hear all the sweet words, full of heart to think of a long time to keep. We see no difficulties, no shortcomings, and no divisions – love makes us dizzy, our intelligence decreases rapidly, and our judgment decreases. But it is matched by our passion and enthusiasm, and we do all sorts of crazy and unbelievable things: we stay together for a whole day without doing anything, without even eating; we kiss or cry in the street, completely ignoring the eyes of others; or we make love together all night long, pushing our bodies to the limit again and again. However, I do not know whether it is a good thing or a bad thing, the fantasy or idealization can not always exist, we can not always in love foolishness, when we finally return to reality, facing the life of the stumbling, each other’s strengths into weaknesses, charm into obstruction, we find all kinds of difficulties in living with another person, and even ask the question: how I was blind to see
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In addition to becoming more rational and realistic over time, the novelty is wearing off. Perhaps you’ve heard of the interesting and famous “Coolidge Effect”. Legend has it that the 30th president of the United States, Cavanaugh Coolidge and his wife together to inspect a chicken farm, the wife saw a rooster repeatedly and tirelessly pounced on the hen “more and more courageous”, feel very interesting, they asked someone to tell the president. After hearing this, Kulich thought for a moment and said, “Please tell your wife that it was not the same hen.” Novelty is an important element in igniting passion, and it’s not just the other person’s body that makes you novel. When we are with a new person, everything seems so new and interesting, their life experiences, their dining habits, their unique charm when they call you baby, every new discovery can be exciting and intriguing. But novelty can’t last forever, and when you’ve lived with someone who makes you feel unique for 30 years, it’s hard to clap your hands on any of the things that make them unique. You’re too used to it, so used to it that you find it boring and unbearable. At this point, the novelty is gone, and don’t expect it to create any romance or passion.
Finally, our bodies follow suit and add to the chaos. We all know that any emotion causes physical changes and arousal, which in turn deepens our emotions. You get teary when you’re sad, you get shaky when you’re angry, and you feel on fire when you’re aroused with desire. But just as you don’t shed a hundred tears over the same tragic movie, your body doesn’t get excited about the same person day in and day out – whether that excitement comes from desire or anger. Our bodies go on strike, and even if you still feel pain, it refuses to get snotty again, and even if you still have desire, it refuses to get excited again.
So it’s normal and difficult to reverse the awkward situation where we become less passionate as fantasies are shattered, novelty fades, and our bodies no longer want to actively arouse. As frustrating as it may sound, there may still be passion in our lives, but it no longer rivals the time we first met each other – and overall, it’s still on the decline. It may be possible to shamelessly make three or two arguments for extramarital relationships, which is one of the reasons why wild flowers always smell better than domestic flowers.
But the gradual disappearance of passion does not mean that love has fallen, let alone that a third party will necessarily emerge. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If we can wake up to the fact that the disappearance of passion is a normal thing, we may be willing to make more efforts in other areas to perfect our love: first of all, it is necessary to correctly understand the passion and romance, and do not think that the other party has ceased to love them when they are not as good as they used to be, think about yourself, the same passion has been sharply reduced, as responsible; secondly, to understand that passion is not the whole of love, and romance is not the only side of love. The familiarity may make you lose the novelty, but it brings the preciousness of being together, caring and understanding each other like friends, being considerate and taking care of each other like relatives, is also an important proposition of love; finally, don’t give up any opportunity to rekindle the passion, seize every wonderful moment of life and create romantic The first thing that we can do is to take advantage of every moment of our lives and the opportunity to create romance, so that we can enjoy another kind of surprise, even though we can’t go back to the original passion.
If your love goes from passionate to heartfelt love, don’t regret it, it’s our blessing.