The Ministry of Civil Affairs released marriage registration statistics, and in the first three quarters of this year, 1.466 million couples went through divorce procedures nationwide. The number of divorces in Jiangsu ranks second in the country after Sichuan. And Nanjing ranked first in the province in the number of divorces.
Sample data shows that the largest number of people divorced after 3-5 years of marriage, and 25-35 years old are the “main force” of divorce, accounting for 35%.
The number of divorced people is getting younger, with the “post-80s” accounting for 25% of all divorces.
35% of divorcees are 25-35 years old
The data from the first three quarters of the survey shows that 8% of divorcees are under 25 years old, 35% are 25-35 years old, 30% are 36-45 years old, and 30% are 46-55 years old. The city’s first three quarters of the sample survey data show that among the divorcees, 8% are under 25, 35% are 25-35, 36-45, 20% are 46-55, and 7% are 60 or older. In terms of educational background, the level of education is inversely related to the high divorce rate, the lower the education, the higher the divorce rate, and the higher the education, the lower the divorce rate.
In addition, the sample survey data also shows that half of the total number of divorces are for marriages lasting less than 10 years, with the peak period of divorce being 3-5 years after marriage. The number of divorces among the “post-80s” is on the rise, accounting for 25% of all divorces. In the Xuanwu District Marriage Registry, the reporter interviewed a young couple who came to divorce. Both of them are 28 years old this year, and it was love at first sight. After a month of passionate love, they received a marriage license. After the marriage, the two live together in a rented room. The man goes back to his parents’ house for dinner every day, and the woman resents it, thinking that she should eat together as a couple. To accommodate the woman, the two often eat out, and occasionally go home to cook for themselves. But the man’s mother was not happy, and the son did not come home for dinner also blamed on his daughter-in-law. The two of them escalated their conflict and went through a divorce.
The person in charge of the marriage registry in Shimonoseki district said that they have found in their work that the divorce rate among young people is getting higher and higher, with a particularly high number of divorces 3-5 years after marriage. In addition, the divorce rate is also high during the period when children are 1-2 years old. These young couples are new parents and are somewhat overwhelmed in taking care of their children and arranging their work. Some of the older people who come to help with childcare are “involved” in the education of their grandchildren, and family conflicts can increase.
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Extra-marital affairs are the main reason for divorce
A questionnaire survey conducted by the city’s marriage registries showed that 28.11% of divorces were due to discord, while 37.2% were due to extramarital affairs. In addition, parental intervention in marriage, domestic violence, unemployment, economic reasons, and policy fake divorce also accounted for a certain percentage respectively.
Chen Ying, a citizen who got divorced only last month, said in an interview, “I once cherished my marriage very much because it was not easy for him and I to come together. I quit my job in Beijing to come to Nanjing back then, and we had a happy life for more than four years.” But all that was shattered that night six months ago. That night, Chen Ying found the secret of his cheating on her ex-husband’s Facebook page. The ex-husband repeatedly admitted his mistake and promised not to do it again. “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem,” said Chen Ying, “but I can’t get over the hurdle in my heart, and I finally chose to divorce.
The head of the Gulou District Marriage Registry told reporters that many divorces due to extramarital affairs are insisted on by women. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Experts: Society can’t be tolerant of extramarital affairs
Chen Yi, director of the Institute of Sociology at the provincial Academy of Social Sciences, believes that divorce rates are on the rise for a variety of reasons, as society develops and the times progress, giving everyone more choices in life, but also bringing emotional risks. Nowadays, marriage is about reciprocity, and both spouses must be compatible psychologically, culturally and sexually, for example, if one partner is progressing after marriage and the other is still standing still, such a marriage is potentially dangerous. The increase in divorce rate among young people is due to their insufficient level of knowledge about marriage and family. There are more and more couples with only one child, and their shortcomings such as lack of understanding and self-centeredness have become a “trigger” for discord between them. They have higher expectations of the quality of marriage, and believe that marriage does not need to last forever, so if they are not satisfied, they choose to separate and find another half.
For the nearly 40% of divorces caused by extramarital affairs, Chen Yi said this is because some people have distorted values and traditional moral boundaries are being challenged. The company’s main business is to promote the development of the company’s products and services. According to Chen Yi, extramarital affairs are against traditional moral concepts and social morality, and are denied and opposed by most people in both traditional China and Western countries. Therefore, society cannot be tolerant of extra-marital affairs.