Love incompetence is an epidemic in modern society. If you can truly love someone and are truly suffering for love, then congratulations, your mind and body are sound and your suffering is not yet the despair of a world full of unlovable people. It is impossible to be loved or not to be loved, but first of all, having the ability to love is something to be blessed.
(a) “If men are not bad, women are not loved”
Are women all masochists? In fact, women just don’t like guys who are stereotypical, awkward, and unemotional. In fact, women just don’t like guys who are stereotypical, awkward and uninteresting. Relatively speaking, “bad” men are a bit more interesting. But this “bad” should have a special meaning, the kind of old-fashioned movie where the heroine turns around shyly and pokes the guy in the head with her finger: “You’re a bad guy!”
Truly bad men are scary, and smart women are quick to pick up the scent and escape in time.
The real bad man is very scary, and the smart woman will soon smell the scent and escape in time. The fake bad man, commonly called “cool”, will soon become the woman’s “vomit image”.
And now the “bad” men are OUT, as evidenced by the popularity of the “good man” image of Leo Ku.
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(2) “Men like beautiful, stupid women”
Princess Diana started vomiting after eating to please her prince and keep her slim, which later developed into an unstoppable vomiting disorder. unstoppable vomiting. For this, Charles was not grateful; instead, he recalled with disgust, “My honeymoon smelled of vomit.” When Charles divorced Diana, she was 35-28-35 (inches), described by beauty experts as the “devil’s golden ratio,” a perfectly formed waif.
But Camilla, who was old and ugly but had the prince’s attention for decades, had even acquaintances who condemned her for breaking up the royal marriage to say, “To be fair, no one who knew Camilla well didn’t think she was a delightful woman. Not only was she intelligent, she was also funny.” She was the queen of the party, literature and art, politics and economics, she could talk eloquently about them all, in private she was a passionate and indulgent lover, and when they first met she was not as shy as a schoolgirl asking for a good time, what she said was: “My great-grandmother was your great-grandfather’s mistress, what do you think?”
Beauty is something men value in a woman, but love is not a poster to look at or a one-night stand. When the attraction caused by beauty fades, how can life not be boring and dull if you are faced with a sluggish, awkward lover every day? Of course, those men who need to find self-confidence in front of women, or take beautiful women to show their worth may be yearning for beautiful and stupid women. But what is there to be proud of in the appreciation and admiration of a fool?
(3) “Men shouldn’t make women cry.”
Men are not saviors, and women are not clay dolls. In love, tolerance, understanding is desirable; but unlimited, absolute requirements are also unreasonable. The only way to create a healthy, deep love between people is to be “equal”. Men and women are human beings, they have their own temperaments and habits, and they have their own strengths and weaknesses. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Women’s feelings are more fragile than men’s, and men are a little more big-hearted. To have a man take full care of a woman’s mind, Balzac has an apt metaphor: “It’s like asking a gorilla to play the violin.” The first thing you need to do is to get a little bit of tears and a little bit of anger.
Also, women are sentimental, and a little bit of tears is a catharsis of emotions for women, which is very comfortable. The actual fact is that a woman doesn’t shed tears for love, that’s why she is distressed. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
If the phrase is interpreted as “men can’t be cruel to hurt women”, it should be accompanied by “women can’t be cruel to hurt men either”.
I think it’s a good idea to stop.
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(4) “Not for a long time, but for once”
Third parties often say this when they first become third parties, but then most cry out for “Heaven and earth”. What’s the point of fooling yourself.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one.
Another scenario is the fear of responsibility, saying up front, just for now, not for the future. The most important thing is that the ex-boyfriend always makes it clear that “we don’t have to get married in the future” and “it’s like I have to haunt him”. “don’t even want. Her ex-boyfriend was stimulated by this, and suddenly felt unable to leave her, actually proposed marriage. And she, for one, is head over heels.
(5) “Stay together because you don’t know”
The adage “separate because you know” seems to have been around for a long time.
The motto “Separate because you know” seems to have been around for a long time, based on the theory that “distance creates beauty”.
So this kind of love marriage guidance has also emerged, saying that in a marriage both spouses should also maintain a sense of mystery and not expose themselves naked in front of each other too often. A friend of mine recently got divorced, and his ex-wife followed this dogma. When she was in the shower, the gentleman must not go in, and if he accidentally did, she would scream and cover her body with a bath towel, as if she had met a hooligan. A friend’s comment was, “What’s the use? Where on her body have I not seen?”
Of course, psychological knowledge is said to lead more to boredom and leaving. But I have to ask: Is it that easy to get to know someone? In just a few years of work, you get to know someone of the opposite sex who is very different from you and get tired of her? The axiom in the temple of Delphi: “Know thyself.” The lesson for the ages is that it’s so hard to know yourself, and so easy to know a person of the opposite sex?
On the contrary, love is only deep and lasting when it is based on understanding. In the process of constantly knowing the other person, one also gets to know oneself, and that pleasure is certainly not as intense as an orgasm, but it must be deeper and more tremendous.
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(6) “We broke up because: there was a destiny but no separation.”
Karma is a Buddhist concept, very profound, a kind of karmic incompletion. Now take it to say love, in fact, the meaning is very shallow, that is, how to meet a you in a thousand people ten thousand people. It is not easy to meet and know and love each other; unfortunately, too many irresistible factors make us have to separate, which is the predestined ending, it is not our fault, it is the fault of fate.
It may seem like modern people are talking sense, but in fact it’s no different from ancient people ranking the birth date.
The first time I saw the film, I thought it would be a good idea to take a look at it.
In modern society, love and marriage are autonomous and protected by law. In addition to the very rare cases such as bad diseases and disasters, generally speaking the failure of love marriage is related to the reasons of both parties’ own personalities. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
(7) “Find someone who loves you and forget about the person you love.”
In this sentence, the person who loves you and the person you love are definitely not the same person. “Love to find the person who loves you” is quite affordable, just receive, not give. I just haven’t heard that people who split their lives will be happy. Also, love doesn’t seem to be exactly like business, where you make more profit than you cost.
On the contrary, love is, by itself, more blessed by loving people than by being loved. In his famous book, The Art of Love, psychologist Fromm says, “Good love is first and foremost ‘giving’ rather than ‘getting’ because ‘giving’ is more pleasurable than ‘getting’ is more pleasurable, and ‘giving’ is not a sacrifice, but indicates ‘affluence’ and ‘vitality’. ” It is as if a poor person is miserable not only because he is poor, but also because he is deprived of the ability to “give.
It is sad enough to love and not be loved, but isn’t it too selfish and cruel to put that same sadness on the person who loves you? The first time I saw the film, I was able to see it. It’s a sad “domino”, because the first one fell, all of them fell.
Love incompetence is an epidemic in modern society. If you can truly love someone and truly suffer for love, then congratulations, your body and mind are sound and your pain is not the despair of a world full of people who are unlovable. Being unloved cannot be forced, but first, having the ability to love is a blessing.