There’s a joke: On a flight, the flight attendant asked a passenger: Sir, what would you like to drink?
There is a joke that a passenger on a flight asks, “Sir, do you want to order something to drink?
There’s a joke about this: In a flight, a passenger asks, “Sir, do you want to order something to drink? The passenger: Oh, then there is no orange juice ah? The flight attendant: yes, then you want orange juice? Passenger: then a glass of apple-flavored orange juice it! The flight attendant immediately fainted.
This is a joke, but there are a lot of people who really want “apple-flavored orange juice,” especially when it comes to choosing a spouse, and they want a glass of apple juice, but they don’t want just the taste of apple. But in fact, that’s often not possible.
Swinging from side to side, the greedier the pain
Qiu Shaobo, a consultant in the marriage and family department of the Chinese Association of Social Workers, said that many leftover women have two psychological states in the relationship process —
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(1) The goal is clear, they know what they want, and when they meet someone they like, they can accept him whether he is an apple, or an orange.
(2) They waver from side to side, unsure whether they want apples or oranges, constantly weighing and comparing, often ending up needing “orange juice with apple flavor”. The reason is that they don’t agree or accept the reality that they are drinking apple juice, but they are thinking about the sweetness of orange juice.
When you’re holding an apple and not eating it, you have to think about the taste of orange! The pain naturally speaks for itself! The reason for this pain is that people put the “reference” of things in a different place, and those who suffer are locked in the “reference”. The painful person has locked the “reference” on “their own extravagant goal”, and as a result, it always feels like the reality is not as “ideal as I want it to be”.
Picking a man is nothing else but to love you
Because of the thought of apple-flavored orange juice, and thus missed countless apple juice or orange juice, so the older leftover women are more and more, not not love, but swinging around; not do not want to be loved, but always meet the perfect one. What kind of man is worth trusting? You may want to learn from S’s “male selection”. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
Sixty S said, “There is no other way to pick a man, but to love you, no matter how rich, talented, handsome, eloquent, intelligent and capable he is, it is useless if he doesn’t love you.” This tiktok resonated with countless netizens.
Qiu Shaobo said that when a woman chooses a spouse, a good partner should have these three items: (1) he has a heart that is willing to learn and listen to others; (2) he has good emotional intelligence and can listen to and touch the feelings of others; (3) he has a heart that does not tolerate hurting others, which is a very good virtue.
Only if these things don’t disappear as life situations change will the marriage between you and him be strong and lasting.
The only way to get the most out of your life is to have a good relationship with a man who has these virtues, and the woman who has these virtues will not be any worse.