Myth #1: Marrying him is not marrying his family.
Many women have encountered the problem that although they knew something about his family when they fell in love, they didn’t pay attention to it and thought that they were marrying him, not his family, so they got the idea that his family had nothing to do with me.
This point of view may seem quite reasonable, but it is important to know that a person’s life always carries the traces of his upbringing, and the habits of the family are the habits of the person’s subconscious throughout his life. The habits he formed as a child are difficult to change throughout his life.
So, to marry someone is not to marry him personally, but to marry his upbringing and all that he is.
Myth 2: He loves me so much and spoils me, he will definitely accept my transformation after marriage.
Two people with different upbringings, different mindsets and different habits are bound to have conflicts over many details when they get together to live. The company’s main goal is to provide a more efficient and effective solution to the problem. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Some women don’t understand this, but take all sorts of approaches to reform their husbands, and men and women therefore start to face each other, and the home becomes a smokeless battlefield, and in the end, women are often helplessly defeated.
This is when women realize that if they want to reform a man, it’s really hard to do so!
When the woman was confronted with the futile transformation, she realized that the man’s acceptance of the transformation had nothing to do with love or not, but with his life trajectory and habits.
So, to marry him, one must know where he comes from. To extend your appreciation from him to where he comes from, that is, his family background. From there, you can see where he is in the present tense and where he is going in the future tense of his marriage.
Misconception #3: Since we are married, our husband should belong to our little family.
Be clear that your he is not your private property; he belongs not only to your little family, but also to his parents, relatives, and friends. So, his heart must necessarily be divided some to them. Not only that, but your love has to extend to them along with him.
So when you fall in love with a man and want to marry him, you must be prepared that you are not just marrying him, you are marrying his habits and family background and social context. It is important to be clear that the man you are dealing with is not an individual, but the group of people behind his family environment and social interactions.