Best couple model for men and women: wife 5 years younger than husband
A survey conducted by European scientists shows that age is a key weight in marital stability. Dr. Emanuel Flanier of the University of Bath conducted a follow-up survey of 1,534 couples, showing that the best couple model for a strong marriage is one in which both men and women are highly educated and have no history of divorce, and in which the man is more than five years older than the woman.
The researchers say that wives who are more than 5 years younger than their husbands are the least likely age group to have conflict, and their divorce rate is 1/6th that of other marriages.
The most successful marriages are those where the husband is 15 years older than the wife.
Wang Guorong, a leading marriage therapist in China, agreed. The first of these is to meet the woman’s “needs”. The first point of happiness is to meet the “trinity” of women’s desires. Usually, women dream of a prince charming who has the maturity of a father, the care of an older brother and the energy of a friend. The first point of happiness is to meet the “trinity” of women.
The second point of happiness, older husbands usually have a certain financial base, reducing the chances of disputes over finances. The third point of happiness is that there is less family competition. The third point of happiness is that there is less competition between the husband and wife for power.
If it comes to the disadvantages of such marriages, Zheng Xifu, a professor of psychology at South China Normal University, believes that, in general, the average life expectancy of men is shorter than that of women, and if the husband is much older than the wife, then it is possible that the husband will end up dying and the wife will be left alone.
Women who are big and men who are small are also happy
As the saying goes, “Women who are big hold golden bricks,” and in ancient times in China, there were often big daughters-in-law and small husbands. The company’s main business is to promote the development of the company’s products and services.
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Other sibling families are those in which the husbands both have similar temperamental traits, i.e., the male is less independent and wants to continue to find the feeling of being cared for by his mother. For such families, there are often a number of drawbacks. First, both physically and psychologically, women age faster while men are still in their prime, which tends to make families unstable. Secondly, age has social significance, in the conventional social evaluation, sister-brother relationship is easy to make people uncomfortable and criticism, or derogatory male “unmanly”, or say that women “old cow eat young grass” and so on, these external remarks to a certain extent will also be on the family
These external comments can also have an impact on the walls of the family.
Men and women of the same age communicate well
President Barack Obama, 49, and his wife Michelle, three years apart, have been happily married for 17 years, enough to classify them as an “ideal couple. The Chinese University of Hong Kong’s Department of Social Sciences associate professor Yue Xiaodong believes that same-age romance is not the same age in the narrow sense we understand, but both sides are more or less the same age, basically belonging to the same generation. Wang Guorong pointed out that men and women of the same age are men and women of the same age or men are older than women by less than three years. Suffice it to say, in the modern mindset, this mode of marriage is undoubtedly the most desirable.
Yue suggests that same-age relationships are based on the mental and physical coherence of both lovers, and that such marriages are the most sustainable, with six major benefits. First, it is easy to build intimacy. The second is frequent interaction. Three is synchronized growth. Fourth, the same needs. Five is the support of family and friends. Sixth is equal confidence. In short, same-age lovers have similar social experiences and tend to be of one mind when they encounter life problems, while long-term bonding will make both sides think in parallel and have a common cognitive pattern.
“While there are many advantages to having men and women of the same age, there are also problems that arise precisely because of equality.” Wang said it is easy for same-age couples to compete for power because they are too equal, and may often fight over “who gets to say what.
The more alike you are, the more in love you are
“There are advantages and disadvantages to all three of these marriage models, and age does play an important role in marriage, but it’s not age that really determines whether a marriage is stable or not.” The first is that the English word for “LO” in Chinese is “LO”. First of all, the English word “LOVE” is compressed from a Latin phrase that says “love is an abiding concern for the life of another.
Wang Guorong pointed out that this tells the true meaning of love between couples, which is to love the partner itself, not to focus on external conditions, which we often say “height is not a problem, age is not a problem, looks are not a problem”. The less external conditions are required, the stronger the love is.
Second, research shows that the more similar the personalities, the stronger the love. Wang said that what people often call complementary between couples is that they want to have what they don’t have and their spouse has it, which is a kind of appreciation, not the opposite of their personalities.
Finally, it’s important to have sameness. One, when you get married, you have to have the idea of being one with each other; two, you have to have comparable education and life values. These are the intrinsic factors that determine whether a marriage is stable or not.