Friendship on one side and love on the other, for women, boyfriends and girlfriends are the men and women she is most willing to make friends with and the most attentive. However, once you encounter restless boyfriends and girlfriends, these two most caring people may become the most heartbreaking people for you.
The sad truth
A recent survey shows that as many as 63% of Chinese men have been attracted to their girlfriends’ girlfriends, and if three girlfriends bring their boyfriends to a party, two boyfriends will be attracted to them. Then, 35% of men will take all sorts of flirtatious actions after their heartbeat – 23% play flirtatious and 12% play confessional.
The saddest thing is that up to 10% of men actually confess their love. Don’t shake your hand, only 2% of other boyfriends are rejected by their girlfriends oh, the big head of girlfriends will decisively choose to cross the line, it’s so cruel. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
CASE1 33 Days of Lost Love
This is a post that took Douban by storm, became a best-selling book, and was made into a movie for theaters. The new perfume is the result of a double betrayal of friendship and love, which caused her to break down and begin the “33 days of lost love” healing process.
Every girl who has ever fallen out of love, who has ever been betrayed by her boyfriend and her best friend at the same time, will resonate with the words in the article, the grief and anger that have been knotted up in her heart for a thousand years; the heartfelt humiliation of her ex-boyfriend who betrayed her at the wedding ceremony, just like Wang Xiaobian with Huang Xiaoxianer; the hatred and entanglement that have grown in her heart; the unpleasantness of facing her ex-best friend ex-boyfriend’s current identity again. ……
So delicate it hurts. It was this fact that crushed me.
This fact made me think that I was the one with the problem. There were so many signs that forced me to come to my senses, but I chose to turn a blind eye to them all. And how bad does a person have to be to have something like this happen to them, where the mistress is their best friend?”
There’s no better way to say “BFF” than with your own sisters, and a recent story about sisters sharing a husband is the ultimate in eye-catching.
A 24-year-old Thai man married his beautiful twin sisters, saying he would treat them both fairly and that he would divide the days of sharing a bed. The sisters he loved and couldn’t part with, and one day he told them, “I’m going to marry both of you!” They told the lucky man that they had vowed early on to marry the same man.
CASE2 I’m a pro at being pried
Till that year when I volunteered for counseling and was pushed for a psychoanalysis, the psychiatrist asked me, “Have you ever wondered what caused you to fall out of love twice for the same reason of being pried by a close girlfriend? Why is it always for the same reason?” Before that, I hadn’t even considered the correlation between these things.
The first time I was pried, it was my first love. He and I were at different schools, and a few of the students in their classes were close to me. The first time I saw a girl, I was so hot that I was soon like a sister. The company’s main business is to provide a platform for the development of a new product.
I was miserable and pretended to be fine talking to the girl for a while, but gradually I couldn’t hold on and she found out that I knew about it and started describing to me all the hot details between her and him. ……
It was so vicious, I felt like I wasn’t myself when I was lying in bed every day, and I couldn’t sleep at night. I was so weak that I could only hide and secretly yell and do nothing ……
They made me feel the feeling of “hate” for the first time, and my world has been dark ever since. My world has been dark ever since.
They gave me my first taste of hate, and my world has been dark ever since. Dramatically, a few years later, my classmates happened to tell me that the “she” died, and I didn’t know what was wrong with her.
I had a chill down my spine and stayed up all night, wondering if I should always be compassionate, or if I should think wickedly: God is fair, they don’t get a good end. After all these years, I still never want to see my unpleasant ex-boyfriend again, so I might as well not.
Now that I think about it, even the second time around, I shared small emotions and details with my best friend, who soothed me with my joys and sorrows, and whom I sincerely liked and believed in. Then came the gossip, I didn’t believe it, then all kinds of witnesses appeared, and finally I saw with my own eyes ……
those scars that hadn’t been healed were uncovered again, and they even showed their unruly and special relationship in front of me. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
The funny thing is, I ran into them on a few occasions later. Too many nights I can even hear the sounds of the painful grief eating away at my heart.
The time spent soaking in such emotions and self-doubt lasted for about 5 years. Finally breaking down and asking for psychological support, I began to think about the reasons for what happened to me. Too easy to trust people and believe that everything in the world is good? And perhaps most importantly, I loved too hard and too much, and realizing that this uncontrollable point was enough to make the mistakes I made before reflect on my dreams.
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[from facebook] A long time ago, some friends were singing karaoke together, and when I was bored, I was playing with my girlfriend’s new phone and found a business card holder with my boyfriend’s name on it. The first thing I did was to send a text message: “Honey, I want it tomorrow night.”
The other person replied, “Sure, I’ll put off my date tomorrow first.” A minute later, my phone rang: “Baby, I have a meeting tomorrow and I can’t go to the movies with you.”
Proof your BFF or boyfriend, the adultery is there
Lu Qi once said, “AB two good sisters, A woman met a certain man and had sex with him. A few days later, this man met B woman by the way, so he recognized A woman as his sister and began to chase B. B woman and this man then went out in pairs …… men are very fond of doing this kind of thing, simply put, is to get on one and then on her bosom friend, and then both dumped, let yourselves fall out… …After the incident, public opinion will not blame the man, but will instead say that the girls themselves are bad.”
Why is it always you who gets pried
Why do you often get pried by your BFF’s boyfriend? Men are the main responsible party, they expect every moment to cheat, feet on two boats, left and right, so when you and your bestie two people at the same time with him, your boyfriend subconsciously will rise to the left and right, this is the lust of men, there is no change.
And on the other hand, when you and your boyfriend show off your love in front of your BFF, your BFF is bound to get envious and jealous if she is single.
Why are you and her BFFs? It’s because you have common aesthetics and values, so your aesthetics of men, in some ways, are in common. You show your love, she envies it, and the envy creates good feelings, which is in line with subconscious logic.
So the problem with your habitual boyfriend prying by your girlfriends is that you give them the opportunity to get along and get to know each other and hook up.
What kind of “honey” to guard against
Girls who steal their girlfriends’ boyfriends are not necessarily pretty, and some are not even very pretty.
1. They value emotions above all else, even above moral values.
2. They value themselves more than their friends, which means they tend to be selfish.
3. The vast majority are single or have poor relationships with their boyfriends.
4. Easily gullible and easily fooled by men with a few sweet words.
5. BFFs and you have some, partially similar aesthetics and values (some have similar horoscopes, some have similar personalities, some have similar aesthetic appearance).
Some people start to feel like the enemy when they hear “bestie proof”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
First, you have to determine if your boyfriend is a cheap guy. When the bestie steals your boyfriend, women generally blame the bestie, but in fact, it is not so, the biggest fault, it should be the man. Any man who hooks up with your bestie, 100% is a cheap man. The actual fact is that the actual person is not a person, but a person who is a person, but a person who is a person.
Secondly, you need to determine if your BFF is in a difficult window, and if so, don’t irritate her. Don’t show your love in front of her, let alone talk about how much better your boyfriend is, it’s just like sending your man to her. If your boyfriend is still a bitch, then take the initiative to hook up, it’s hard not to get hooked.
Hate your boyfriend or your bestie
A lot of people feel more hate for their bestie than for their ex-boyfriend after they’ve been pried away by their bestie, and that’s the psychological factor that makes the difference between inside and outside. For example, if you have a dog and this dog smells someone eating a bone outside and then rushes out to ask for food and ends up getting lost, you wouldn’t blame your own dog, but the person eating the bone.
Why? Because the dog is your own person, and the person eating the bone is an outside person.
The reasoning is the same: BFFs are outsiders, boyfriends are your own people. The most important thing is that you can’t be sure that you’re going to be able to get the best out of your boyfriend.
You keep treating the man as your own and implying to yourself that the man is not going to cheat on you voluntarily, so as soon as he does, you help him find the cause and in the end everything is the fault of your bestie.
On the other hand, a bestie is often the person you trust and feel most comfortable with among women, and her being with your boyfriend is a double cheating for you, and you feel that your bestie has also betrayed you and taken away the most important thing to you, which is unforgivable.
But the truth is, you usually don’t want to think about the fact that it was actually the most important thing to you that took your BFF away.
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Q:How do you balance the relationship between your boyfriend and your bestie? What’s the safest way to do it?
Lu Qi: Four people dating.
Q:What kind of emotional relationships are most likely to be pried away from boyfriends by girlfriends?
Lu Qi: It’s easiest when the man is a bitch.
Q:What should I do after my boyfriend is pried away by my bestie? How should I take revenge?
Lu Qi: If you’ve already been pried away, congratulations, you can change your boyfriend and your bestie at the same time. You can enter a new circle and maybe even start a new life. You should be filled with joy, accept a whole new life, and try to live a little more advanced.
(P.S: When we finished this interview, a girl in Lu Qi’s micro-interview “Dialogue with Emotional Dad Lu Qi” just asked a question about this – “My boyfriend cheated on me and got together with my best friend. I find it very difficult to accept. My boyfriend said that he has always had a crush on my best friend, and that is his true love. I was just trying to relieve my loneliness by being with me. The best friend also said that she liked my boyfriend, to continue to be with him, rather than cut off with me. This is still the two of them together for almost half a year, the girl friend himself told me. The first thing I want to do is to get a good idea of what to do. I’m so sad,” the problem is widespread!)
Q: I’ve been pried away from my boyfriend by my bestie, and I’ve been seriously doubting myself ever since, like I’ve been abandoned by the world.
Lu Qi: You can stand with the world and abandon those two bitches. At this point, whoever is pitiful, the world will help. But if you close yourself off, there’s nothing the world can do.
Q:What’s the best solution for a girlfriend to pry her boyfriend? I’m looking for a great solution!
Lu Qi: Know your boyfriend’s brother.