We asked over 5,000 women through our website to figure out why they dumped their boyfriends and what goes through these “evil” heads in the process.
Logan Levkoff, in her doctoral study on gender relationships, found that women don’t have as much fun dumping their boyfriends as they think they do, and in fact, they don’t make that decision easily. Here are our statistical results.
If you don’t want to be dumped by your girlfriend like that, here’s a few pieces of information for you.
Are you a mature man?
61% of women say that a man’s potential as a husband and father is what they value most, with the remaining 33% saying this factor is essential, if not first.
“I once loved a man deeply and ended up breaking up with him because his life was so messy,” says Nicole Beland, a 30-year-old Men’s Health column editor, “His room always His room always stinks, his bank balance is small, and even then he spends five nights a week at the bar.
He doesn’t act like a good husband, like calling me at night to see if it’s safe for me to leave work alone and that my future isn’t in his plans. I was tired of being so unappreciated. So, we broke up.”
A great deal of evidence suggests that the masculine traits that attract women lie in some basic qualities that are often unique to being a father: fraternity, trust, and communication skills. So don’t simply assume that your girlfriend is judging herself by the standards of a husband or a father; they are simply the basic characteristics of a mature man.
Did you know about the 4 to 6 month transition period?
76% of women break up with their boyfriends within the first 4 months of the relationship.
Belland says, “If I felt there was no future for either of us, I definitely wouldn’t have continued with him.” “Four months is usually a milestone for women, a time when they reconsider whether to continue with their boyfriend or stop.”
Ms. Gish said, “It’s a subconscious reaction because by the time we get to 4 months, we know each other better and it’s clearer whether the two of us are going to have fun together or whether there’s a future, so it’s a time to choose again.”
The 4 to 6 month mark is a general turning point, where the heat of the moment is indeed very exciting and all your love cells seem to be mobilized. After that, that enthusiasm cools off and you need to make a choice in the transition from hot love to long-term relationship.