1) “I want to talk about us,” because for men, “we” is the most intimidating word, and when you mention “we,” it implies that you and he are When you mention “we,” it implies that you and he are one and the same, and men find discussing their feelings the most troubling in the world. When a woman brings up the topic, something is probably wrong and it’s about him. So you need to be smart enough to figure out what the problem is and tell him directly, rather than throwing emotional complaints at him, which will only make him baffled or more angry.
2) “If you really love me ……” Men feel that when a woman says this, she must have done something wrong again, which makes him feel full of guilt, and words like these are just a threatening method that doesn’t work, and he will tolerate you at first. But when the guilt turns to anger, he will block your words back, should be suggested in a way to make the atmosphere more moderate, such as “If you love me, spend more time with me …… to “Is it time for you to meet with friends from every day to once a week, so that we have more time together”. This will allow men to understand your thoughts and feel receptive to discussing them.
3) “You’re always ……/you’re never ……” are like time bombs that could blow up your relationship with him at any moment. Because they are always the words of the complainer. If you have a problem, you should sit down and talk about it, let him know how you feel and what you suggest, and then ask him what he thinks, for example, “I have something to say, you watch TV too long and make me feel left out”. There is an art to language, and not speaking the art of language between lovers will only lead to unwarranted misunderstandings and arguments.
4) When it comes to sex, don’t say “I don’t like it” or “You’re so bad”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The “I like it when you take your time,” or “Your tenderness makes me feel good,” politely tell him what you want, and let the happy part give him confidence.
5) “I want to hear about your past girlfriends. If you want to have fun with him, don’t bring up his past because you’ll force him to remember it. Whether it’s nostalgia for a former girlfriend or memories of previous unhappiness, it’s something you don’t want, and the more you know, the more it will trigger your jealousy and make you fall into a vortex you can’t get out of first. So just cherish what you have now and let him have his secrets!
6) “I’m so fat, ugly, and stupid ……” Don’t say anything about your flaws in front of your loved one, whether it’s true or not. Because this will only train him how to criticize you. Since he loves you, he will accept everything about you, let him discover your flaws himself, and if it is not a matter of principle, he will associate it with your strengths, try to see yourself with appreciation! The fact is that your guy isn’t as hard on himself as you are.
7) “It’s pointless to talk to you.” Do you find him uninteresting and tasteless, or cluttered and unfocused. At this point you don’t argue, you might as well let him have the ability to be self-aware. For example, at this point you stop discussing with him, or don’t make any indication, and alert him with your silence.
8) “I don’t want to say anything.” Women are sometimes reluctant to say what they want and expect men to interpret their heart’s expectations. And men are sometimes the same. The fact is that to solve the problem, you have to say it out loud. Figuring out what each other wants is hard and not necessarily correct. So say what you want. The man will not be confused and tell him to communicate with you in the same way, so that instead of always complaining, the two of you will be closer.