We all think people who don’t say a word and work hard probably don’t get promoted, but a recent U.S. survey says that quiet women in the workplace are more likely to succeed.
Survey shows that quiet women and talkative men are more likely to get promoted
A US study shows that quiet women and talkative men are more likely to succeed in the workplace.
Yale University researchers asked 156 volunteers to read an article featuring a virtual leader who was set up as one of four types of leaders: talkative male, quiet male, talkative female, and quiet female. The researchers asked the volunteers to rate this leader’s leadership skills, and the average score was 5.64 for talkative males, 5.11 for quiet males, 4.83 for talkative females, and 5.62 for reticent females.
In the second test, researchers asked volunteers whether gender influenced how senators were judged when they spoke. The results showed that the number of times male senators spoke was positively related to leadership ability, while female senators were not affected.
Workplace success is not about talking a lot, but about talking appropriately
As the saying goes, “disease comes from the mouth, trouble comes from the mouth. “Although everyone understands this simple truth, in real life, some people can’t help but get involved in “
They are the most popular and most popular of all, but they are the most popular.
“Things come in groups, people come in groups. The study by American occupational psychologists found that at the top of the organization, i.e. at the level of the CEO, introverts account for more than 53%; perhaps you will be surprised at this finding, but on second thought you will be relieved. Typically, exceptional managers are able to show their personality in meetings: they don’t say much, but show calmness and focus through their eyes, listening quietly and attentively to what everyone has to say; they sit with their arms open and naturally, showing a welcoming and accepting attitude; they always speak at the end, with a low voice but a firm tone, complemented by a confident gaze and clear hand gestures ……
In a competitive workplace, speaking up is not just a statement of your presence, it also serves to show and promote your personal value, so you need to establish the mental position that if you don’t speak up, speak up and speak up!
What can you do to avoid the negative effect of “it’s better to say it than not to say it”?
Better not to say #1: Chatter
Not long ago, I was hiring a sales training manager for a company, and my initial interviewer suggested that I focus on one of the candidates, who had an attractive career history from his resume. So, I started the interview with pleasantries: How did you think of changing a job? I didn’t expect this simple question to make her talk for nearly half an hour. She first analyzed the pros and cons of the features of the current job for me, and then turned the conversation to her junior son and her child’s school choice for the midterm exams ……
Perhaps this candidate has the professional and
Perhaps this candidate has the professional and managerial skills required for the job and would make a good sales training manager, but I still eliminated her after 15 minutes of the interview – because she would answer questions with endless chatter, couldn’t focus on the substance, and didn’t know how to interact with the interviewer. The interview is a two-way interactive process, not a “clean slate”.
Why not say 2: Clamoring for attention
Johnson, a procurement executive at a foreign company, is a veteran of the company, and whenever his boss jumps ship and leaves, he always says to himself, “It’s my turn to “fill in” this time, right? But the opportunity for promotion always passed him by, and Johnson was frustrated by it.
At the end of the year management training session, I finally found out why Johnson had no hope of getting promoted! Perhaps it was a lack of self-confidence, but he always wanted to get the attention of others and get everyone’s approval. In the training class, when the participants’ participation was low, he would often jump in to say one or two “brainless” words to regulate the atmosphere, which made others laugh; and once or twice, when the participants were required to practice and discuss seriously, he would “run away” and use playful words When he spoke formally as a group representative, his language expression was far less smooth and logical than when he was joking or “gossiping”, and the audience at the bottom naturally went away and “ignored” him. “……Johnson thinks he’s always laughing where he is, and he thinks he’s popular, but in fact, the laughter is just barely there.
Gags at inopportune times and occasions are the fastest way to get noticed. Often, people who like to make a spectacle of themselves have little power, but they want to buy and sell, to get the “attention” of the crowd with a half-barrel of water.
Why not say 3: Straight talk
Privately, Mobel and Johnson are known to their colleagues as “a couple of geeks”.
The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, the “new” product.
In management meetings, she is one of the very few people who dare to speak her mind. The company’s president was a foreigner who had recently arrived in Shanghai from the United States, and some of his ideas and opinions were not in line with national conditions. But Mobel didn’t care about that, and put forward his different views loudly, directly and rightfully.
But in the eyes of the Chinese boss, Mobel was outspoken, as if she didn’t know that her words and behavior would make people feel uncomfortable. In the training session, she would walk around the classroom “talking to herself” and comment on the results of other groups’ discussions, just like a training assistant.
Why not say 4: Whining
Expressing your feelings and opinions honestly and directly is, on the positive side, good for your superiors and colleagues to understand your views, but there are always degrees. The company’s main goal is to provide a more effective and efficient way to improve the quality of its products. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, the “new” product.
Amy is one such person. She is not good at properly summarizing causes and analyzing problems, and everything seems more negative than positive to her, so she can easily draw unpleasant conclusions and complain and nag while doing her job. The American comedian George Kaling, who is a member of the American comedy team, is a very good person. Carlin teases whiners this way: “Have you noticed – anyone who is slower than you is an idiot, and anyone who is faster than you is crazy!”
People who love to whine and complain have a habit of making excuses for themselves and blaming others for their lack of success and unhappiness: they are right all the time and others are wrong in everything they do. In the end, this is an unconfident and insecure masturbation mentality.
Better Not to Say 5: Badmouthing
Many TV shows, in an attempt to get high ratings, always find ways to put professional commentators on the show.
The show’s flawed commentators and self-appointed authorities “speak out of turn”, questioning and criticizing others, but rarely offering constructive advice, such as “angry anchors and toxic judges”.
Penny is recognized by her colleagues as a difficult person to get along with, and no matter how sunny the sky is, she can always find a dark cloud. This is the case when she takes a product brochure designed by a new designer and says, “It’s still from a 4A ad agency, so if I were to design it I’m sure it would be better than yours!” Penny has an extremely exuberant critical spirit and always reacts so negatively to people and things.
Sometimes Penny’s criticism is not without merit, but her aggressive, condescending posture makes her colleagues feel uncomfortable, so they and their bosses see her as a troublemaker.
Workplace Help: Speaking Skills in the Office
Don’t follow the crowd, learn to make your voice heard.
Bosses appreciate employees who have their own minds and opinions. If you often just say what others say and you say it too, you’ll be easily ignored in the office and you won’t have a high status in the office. Having your own mind, regardless of your position in the company, you should make your voice heard and should be bold enough to speak your mind.
Speak up and don’t treat talking to people like a debate match.
Be friendly with people in the office, speak in a kind and friendly manner, and don’t speak to people in a commanding tone, even when you have a certain level. Although sometimes, we can not be unified, but there are opinions can be retained, for those issues that are not very strong in principle, there is no need to fight to the death? Indeed, some people are very eloquent, if you want to play their own eloquence, you can use in the negotiations with customers. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product.
Don’t flaunt yourself in public in the office.
If your expertise is excellent, if you are the red-hot person in the office, if your boss appreciates you very much, can this be your capital to show off? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If the boss gives you an extra bonus one day, you can’t brag about it in the office, others are congratulating you while they are hating you!
The office is a place to work, not a place to tell each other what’s on your mind.
There are always people around us who like to pour out their grievances to others. Although such conversations can quickly bring people closer together and make you friendly and cordial, psychologists have found that only 1 percent of people can actually keep a secret.
So when you have a personal crisis in your life, such as a breakup or a marriage, it’s best not to talk to just anyone in the office; when you have a crisis at work, such as a bad day at work, you have a problem with your boss or colleagues. When your work crisis, such as a bad day at work, the boss, colleagues have opinions and views, you should not reveal your chest to people in the office, any mature white-collar workers will not be so “blunt”. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the company’s business and to provide a platform for the company’s business.
There are occasions to talk, and the key is to be appropriate. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If you use the art of language skillfully, you will be more successful in your workplace career!