The progress and pressure of society has led to women taking on more and more social roles. The balance between these roles is not only a problem faced by every working woman, but also a problem that every family, every company and even the whole nation should face squarely. In the opinion of Yan Xiaofeng, the lead author of New Weekly, many professional women have achieved success in the workplace by sacrificing their nature. He said, “70% of male compatriots approve of their partners surpassing themselves at work, but the harsh reality is that when your promotion and childbirth are in conflict, close to 20% of professional women choose to give up having children. The harsh reality has changed women from what used to be called ‘virtuous wives and mothers’ to what are now ‘desperate housewives’.”
He believes that the phenomenon of “leftover women” and the “demonization of strong women” in today’s workplace warrants reflection by society as a whole, “If more and more highly qualified women stop raising the next generation, then the whole nation will have to face the problem of future generations. Then the entire nation will have to face the continuation of future generations and the decline of the overall quality of the situation.” So, Yan Xiaofeng urged that when we calculate the small accounts of families and enterprises, we should calculate the big accounts of the whole nation.
They all gave up having children for their careers
Hai Mei Zhou is 47 years old
Children will make me not care about my career
The actress Hai Mei Zhou, who appeared in “The Lady of Yang Gate”, portrayed the role of
The actress Zhou Haimei was in “Yang Men Women”, and her portrayal of “Yang Wuniang” was impressive despite her small role in the movie. This ambivalence also extends to the off-screen, 47-year-old Zhou Hai Mei, confessed that the idea of getting married and having children has not yet occurred to her, about which she has been in conflict: “I am the kind of person who has a child and has to take care of him 100%, which is the same as giving up his life, too contradictory, I have not thought well.”
Ms. Peng is 31 years old
Two times I gave up having children for my career
“The year before was a job change, this year was a promotion, and both times I chose my career.” The reporter met Peng Hui in a light blue formal dress in a coffee shop last Wednesday, and she told the reporter about her experience, “In 2007, I was doing administration in the company. The first time I was ready to have a child, the leader asked me ‘would you like to go into sales?’ As my husband and I were not earning much at that time, we decided to switch jobs to improve our income after discussion. This year again, I planned to have a child, but then suddenly received a transfer order for promotion. This year I’m 31 years old, already past my prime as a salesman, and this opportunity is really rare, so I chose to postpone having children again.”
Ms. Chen is 34 years old
Too busy to have children
Ms. Chen, the “borrower”, is 34 years old and the owner of a high-tech electronics company.
The company’s sales this year amounted to 400 to 500 million yuan.
An entrepreneur herself, Ms. Chen has a stable family and a husband who is a public official.
The company’s sales reached 400 million yuan this year.
Now, the company’s performance is up, but Ms. Chen believes that the company’s internal operation management still faces a variety of problems, “I am now too busy to take time out, the company’s main decisions still need me to take charge, not to mention that it is impossible to say to leave the company for a long time in order to have children.”
Ms. Lee is 35 years old
Career sprinters are afraid to have children
Ms. Lee is 35 years old and vice president of a foreign hotel chain, earning an annual salary of about 800,000 yuan, not including various allowances and bonuses.
Ms. Li is a returnee with a PhD; after returning from her studies, she successfully worked for a foreign hotel chain and became the vice president of the hotel step by step. Although she has studied abroad for many years, Ms. Li and her husband are still very “traditional” people, hoping to have children of their own soon and start a complete family. It’s not that she doesn’t have confidence in her own abilities, but because she feels she is a part-time worker after all and is in the midst of a career sprint, Ms. Lee was once very troubled.
Women give up the advantages and disadvantages of childbirth
Netizens say: all kinds of reality told me not to have children
1, if the normal birth, certainly reduce the future of
1. If you have a normal birth, you will definitely reduce your sex life afterwards, after all, you have had a child, so it will affect your sex life more or less.
2, if the Ministry of abdominal birth, I heard that there is also a tube, just like the American film inside the human experimental apparatus, pain and after too terrible, many people online more than said their own childbirth Department of the experience of resumed birth ……
3, October pregnancy, how to work? If you want to work, you have to do the bus every day, and every day you have to leave work with a large group of people with big bellies squeezing the bus, and almost every day you see such pregnant women, get on the bus, but also others have to give a seat, can not stand such “treatment”, if you do not work, but ask, now there are a few families very rich? The company’s main goal is to provide a good service to its customers.
4. When you have a child, who will be waiting for you during the month, your own mother can’t come, and there is a saying that if your mother is far away, where will you live in a small house? Mother-in-law can not come, there have been few mothers-in-law like daughter-in-law, to serve you? Most women do not like to let the mother-in-law wait for the month, after all, is not a biological, there will always be conflicts. The nanny should not be young, because the young one is equal to the wolf in the house to steal the husband, please a 40-year-old, can really take care of it? It also depends on luck, right?
5. The problem of children’s schooling, the professional ethics of school teachers are very low nowadays, if other people’s children’s parents invite teachers to dinner, if you don’t, your children are not going to be bullied by teachers at school?
6. If you go abroad, the biggest problem with having a child is still sitting on the moon, but the child after all, you need to worry about raising him, you have to prepare his clothes, eat these do not worry about, raising a child is the same as giving a person a full 20 years of babysitting, their own 20 years is simply to live for others.
7. Life is so short, 20 years spent being nagged by your own parents, many people in the 70s and early 80s were born unhappy. Then 10 years to fall in love, work just had the achievement, to be followed by 20 years to raise children, so that is equal to unhappy time spent 50 years, if you live to 80 years old, 30 years of time, because you have a child, you often still worry about holding him, in short, exhausted for others, if there is no child at least 10 years of their own struggle to live 50 years of their favorite life.
Experts say that women who have children are less likely to find disease
Older generations say, “Women who have had children are like flowers blooming, all over their bodies are permeable, if not, like the flower bones are not open, not muffled out of disease is strange.” The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Easy access to gynecological diseases
If you don’t have children, the reproductive hormones in your body will be wasted, and women who don’t have children, have children too late or don’t breastfeed will not have the effective protection of progesterone and will have a higher rate of uterine fibroids and endometriosis. Uterine fibroids and endometriosis are more prevalent.
The prevalence of endometriosis is higher in older infertile women, where the “misplaced” endometrium invades the myometrium and makes intercourse painful, while most mild endometriosis resolves itself if pregnancy and childbirth occur at the right age.
Early menopause
Women who have never had children and are not in a good relationship with their husbands may experience menopause as early as 35 years of age, while women who are still married but insist on not having children may experience menopause as early as 44 to 46 years of age. In women with good marital status who have had children, menopause can occur as early as 47 years of age, and later may be pushed to after 55 years of age.
Gynecologic tumors
Women over 40 who have not had children are more likely to develop benign ovarian tumors and ovarian cancer than women who have had children, plus if they don’t find a strong spiritual support, their tempers tend to deteriorate, often manifesting as cautious, withdrawn, mean, etc., becoming typical of The “cancer personality” (also known as tumor personality). This is because there are fewer channels for emotional catharsis and negative emotions tend to be pressed into the heart, leading to a poorer constitution and creating a good environment for tumor cells to survive.
Psychological vulnerability
The psychological strength of women who have not had children is much lower than that of fertile women of the same age, because the lack of a cute baby in the family distracts them, so they will devote all their emotions to their husbands, and even see them as their only emotional support.
They are not able to control their emotions and become vulnerable.
A small reminder that research shows that the incidence of breast cancer and ovarian cancer in women who have not had children is about five times higher than in women who have had children, and that the risk factor is even higher for stressed professional women who have not had children.
Expert advice: How to balance fertility and career
It is a common problem that women are afraid to compromise their careers because of childbirth. Why does this confusion arise? The reason is that women now have much higher demands on their jobs than they did earlier. One is to take a long vacation, and the other is to take care of the baby after giving birth. So when they choose a job, they have to consider not only their ability to adapt, but also their future income, and whether they are competitive enough for the company to give the time.
1. Distill value from work experience
Although many women in the workplace have been working for years and have accumulated a lot of workplace experience, it is often difficult to convert this experience into valuable capital. This is the time to sort out your past career experiences, find out where your strengths and advantages lie, and use the accumulation of past career capital as a cushion to find your niche and know where the most suitable position is now, so you can quickly find that platform. For the employer, they are more interested in the knowledge, ability, professionalism, work experience and other competitive strengths that you have accumulated in your past experience.
2. Find a balance between your needs and your career
You need to take a hard look at your satisfaction and loyalty to your current job, and have a rational and objective analysis of your current company: whether you like the career, whether you fit in this company, and whether your needs can be realized in your current company. Once these issues are sorted out, it is not difficult to choose.
3. Both career planning and action
Many women in the workplace have been thinking about changing jobs but have been slow to take action because many of them are tired of their old environment and are confused about their new job. The company’s newest product is a new product, which will be available for purchase in the future. The survey found that there is a commonality among working mothers who have a smooth career development, that is, they have found their career orientation or planning before giving birth, and know how their career should develop, and after returning to the workplace they can comfortably return to their best condition and continue to make steady progress in their direction.
Marriage and children is a happy mission for most women that will eventually be completed in their lifetime. As the saying goes, “Those who are capable are not good at solving problems, but good at avoiding them.” Working mothers often encounter confusion of one kind or another, and as long as we take precautions in advance, we can actually avoid many of these problems.