When a husband betrays her, why do most women not want to divorce? First of all, marriage is an important symbol to prove to become a woman, and the husband is a woman’s dependence and a stable source of livelihood, women are used to having a family to prove their value. Secondly, many women give up promotion, kinship blood, good jobs, etc. for marriage, and divorce will bring a huge crisis to a woman’s life.
Marriage is a mutually beneficial transaction. When a woman loses herself to over-commitment, once her husband has an affair, there is no choice. A woman with a family is a treasure and would rather maintain the status quo. Then again, with the difference in income and age between men and women, if divorced, women will endure financial embarrassment, worldly pressures, the distress of single motherhood, the hardship of remarriage, etc. In other words, they can’t afford to lose.
So what are the consequences of staying with a cheating husband? What kind of actions do women often take?
1. Creating a harmonious family atmosphere against their will.
Knowingly, her husband is having an affair, but she wants to pretend that the couple is in harmony. It is hard to secretly tolerate love triangles and accept that your husband is physically and mentally involved with other women, and to fake the illusion of happiness even though you are in the same bed. Over time, not only is it painful and depressing, but the psyche can also be twisted and perverted.
Confronted with her husband’s betrayal, the woman suffers twice as much in the siege as she does living single. The husband ignores her existence, and other men will not be interested in her because she is married. Therefore, this type of marriage can make a woman suffer from depression.
2. Husbands become more aggressive in cheating on you.
Some people say that when you live with a husband who cheats on you,
you may be missing out on a better way of life: a life where the man respects you and is faithful to you. Don’t expect him to cheat once and not cheat on you again. He can assure you and cajole you into repentance, or he can cheat on his mistress and say, “Divorce, please give me some time. Men are good at liking the new, not the old, and are happy to get away with both.
Remember, the foundation of all affairs is a lie.
Men are good at cajoling women. If you don’t ask me, I won’t tell you. If you don’t ask me, I won’t lie to you. And old-fashioned cheating men have less guilt, they may be smug about having several women at the same time. A wild horse that is out of control will always find a beautiful excuse for running. Then there are unfaithful sadists who are emboldened by your acceptance. Not only grumpy, but also open-minded, want to do what you want. The trump card is this: men cheat without any reason.
3. Convince yourself with self-deception.
Wouldn’t want other women to share their husbands, but women superstitiously believe their husbands’ lies and have illusions: he cheated, just a moment of confusion, just the seduction of women outside. This will all end sooner or later. Just, the husband really loves you, will do so? The sweetness of the taste he will stop? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing.
4. Endure humiliation for the sake of the children and live on.
Many women count their husbands’ infidelity, but they lack the courage to give up, often on the grounds that their children are small and afraid of hurting their hearts, and they put up with it, just to preserve a family that exists in name only. In fact, it is even more detrimental for children to grow up in such a family.
Also, children cannot replace the real relationship you have with your husband. Don’t shift the responsibility for your relationship to your children. When the child grows up, you complain: Look, it’s all because you’re too young, your father and I haven’t divorced after all this time. If the child asks back, I am now grown up, you want to divorce, just divorce. How do you answer, scold him for being ungrateful? Children are not the weight of your marriage.
5. You can’t let go and you’re worried about STD transmission.
Playboys eat pots and pans and take up bowls to balance their relationships, and inevitably have philandering diseases. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. If you are a clean woman, will you accept this fact?
6. Retaliation for an affair with an affair husband.
Well, aren’t you cheating? I follow your example and go out of the wall. To get back at your husband for being unfaithful, gamble on experiencing multiple sexes. Take retaliation in the form of an eye for an eye. You are faithful to me, I will be faithful to you; you betrayed me, I will not wait for it. Many revengeful affairs are the most foolish behavior of women.
You think you can save your husband, trigger his jealousy, come back to you, or get justice, find even on a one-to-one basis, and get back at him, but in fact you are giving him an excuse to get away. The men all think it’s a shame to keep an unfaithful woman around, they’d rather discard it, cuckolding is not that good.
7. Fighting with a third party in the dark.
Not willing to give up their husbands to other women. To give the junior color: I am the original, I just do not divorce. The little vixen, aren’t you stealing my husband? I will never let you get away with it. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
8. Accept the fact that the child was born out of wedlock.
The consequence of a woman’s procrastination in the face of her husband’s affair is that it is possible that one day he will bring you back an illegitimate child that is part of your husband’s blood and bones and indirectly the common property of your family. This thing will threaten you for the rest of your life. “When a husband has an illegitimate child outside, this fact will always remind the wife that her husband is a man who has cheated on her. The child will be a living marker of the man’s other life outside the home – a life that is the one part of being a wife that she does not want to admit.
This ‘love child’ makes it impossible for the wife to deny the fact that another woman exists. A mistress with a child born out of wedlock can be a bottomless pit that eats up all of a man’s time and money.” You have to put up with your husband spending his money and time on that woman for a long time, where your hard-earned money is also. You have to put up with that woman’s breath on your husband, and can you really ignore that presence? A woman’s intuition is spot on, but there are some things that can’t really keep your eyes closed. You want to be blind, but there are always shadows present.
The longer a woman stays in an unhappy marriage, the more she loses, and the more she ends up going separate. Believe it or not, a woman’s value goes the other way as she ages, but a man’s just the opposite.
Princess Diana once said that a marriage involving three people is just too crowded. It’s being put out in the cold, it’s hell on earth. Alas, it’s not easy to stay, and it’s even harder to leave. But even if you stay, you are still abandoned in the end, it is better to be a single nobleman happier. Divorce, what’s so embarrassing? At least it also means that there are men willing to marry you, you were chosen once, and the opportunity to be chosen again. The husband cheated on her, the woman chose to leave, or stay, or escape? Is a woman worth the sacrifice, compromise and exchange for a cheating man? That’s your right, and no one can replace you.
Women should be guided by their inner compass. In this world, in the face of a man’s betrayal, women who take the initiative to leave are, after all, a minority, and once most women are determined to go, well, I think women are really liberated, mastering the initiative of love, no longer crying Qin Xianglian, but also the best answer to her husband’s betrayal. Really, it takes more courage to leave than to stay ……