I don’t know when there are more and more men around us who have been in love with their girlfriends for years, but never make promises easily, while he himself does not expect too much from the other side. The two people from the initial acquaintance, acquaintance, and after experiencing the passion, will soon step into a period of calm and continuous, the length of this period often five or six years or even seven or eight on ten years ranging. In his perception, marriage seems to be an accessory arising from love. This has nothing to do with his sense of responsibility or moral character, because he is perfectly willing to reward the woman with marriage if she wants it, but he can hardly do it voluntarily and willingly.
Description of the example:
Xiao Lu is one such girl, 33 years old, who is still trudging along the road to love with her boyfriend. She and her boyfriend Jian met nine years ago, shortly after they both graduated from college. For the first five years she thought the same as he did, never really wanting to get married, as long as the two of them were happy and cheerful together. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. ……” But before she finished, he interrupted her: “Xiaolu, my career is just taking off, I don’t want to get married so early to affect the future.” Out of support for her boyfriend’s career, Xiaolu chose to remain silent for the first time. The first time I saw a woman, I thought she should have a good talk with Jian, not to mention his career is now a small success. “Jian, we’ve been together for 8 years, we should get married and have a home of our own.” “…… you allow me to think about it again, marriage is after all a big event in life …… we are now together is not quite good?” “No, it’s not good for us to go on like this, we are both old enough, especially for a woman, if you still love me, you have the obligation to give me marriage and I have the right to ask you for it.” “But …… but I really haven’t thought about it, I don’t want to be tied down to marriage this early, we should both still have the right to choose!” “Choice? You still need to make other choices?” Xiao Lu cried, while Jian just desperately puffed on his cigarette and remained silent.
A year later, the news finally came that they would be getting married on the National Day, and as a good friend of the wife, Xiaolu had sent us her wedding advice early. In a word, after a year of careful preparation and coaching, it really works!” The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
In fact, my wife Snow’s advice, “Keep what he wants to keep and give what he wants to have” is exactly what I gave the sword, and the most valuable thing is that my wife conveyed it accurately and Xiaolu understood it and implemented it successfully.
The fundamental reason why a man like Jian, who has been in love for a long time, does not want to get married is that he is afraid that marriage will make him lose everything he had. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Countermeasures analysis:
One, most long-running love men are big boys who never grow up, they are born with an extraordinary naive nature, their lives are full of sunshine and happiness almost every day, they can get along with almost all their families, relatives, friends and colleagues, the main thing is that since childhood his parents are very He has a happy, healthy childhood, even 30 to 40 years old will still from time to time think of childhood friends and games, decades of such a walk, he has been completely accustomed to his family and friends around him to take care of everything in life, to marry such a man, the most impressive reason is: his girlfriend can also be like his mother can arrange all things for him, and he can have enough time and energy to play games, travel and do all the things he loves.
Second, most long-running lovebirds are intelligent people who want to be free. The first is that the person who has been in the game for a long time has a lot of talent in many areas, and he can always see things clearly earlier than others, and freedom is more important to them than life. He is used to seeing too much realistic love and believes that there will always be regrets after marriage, and thus is very reluctant to give up the whole forest so early because he has chosen a tree. The woman should try to show him her tolerance and true love, or at least tell him: I married you because you love me, but will definitely let you go because you don’t love anymore.
Thirdly, most long-running love men are very passionate about their careers, in his idea of work and career is far more than love and marriage, however, he also knows that marriage and career is very difficult to do both, so based on this consideration, they are afraid of marriage, on the one hand, afraid that marriage affects his career, and on the other hand, afraid that his career slackened the marriage. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Fourthly, a one-off, there is a kind of love long-running man who has a huge problem with quality, he only wants the woman’s body and cohabitation, not responsibility and marriage, the best response to such a man is to leave before it is too late.
In conclusion, the long-running love men are, in my opinion, better men (except for a few scum), and as a woman, if you love him and want to really get marriage from him, then you must have enough patience, love and tolerance, otherwise he will not easily give you marriage, the pros and cons of which should be weighed in your mind well in advance.