More and more women are getting confused about how well-developed the speech cells of the man, whether in the hot phase of love or in the first marriage, used to be: an hour ago he saw you and talked about your love, and an hour later he saw you again and still talked about love… …
Protesting rambling with silence
Women like to talk to build relationships and strengthen them, and at home they like to ramble to show their leadership position and express their concern for men. The company’s main goal is to provide a more effective and efficient way to meet the needs of its customers. I have a meeting”. However, women can not stand it, the more men do, the more women have something to say. Many times, because the woman’s rambling, home and outside the noisy sky is no different. Men often appear more rational than women at this time, in the face of women’s ramblings, he will not directly refute – that is undoubtedly in the home to drop a bomb; he will not be rude reprimand – that is undoubtedly a half-hearted effort to trap the beast. Many men are used to choosing silence, on the one hand, silence to express their emotions, thoughts and attitudes at the time, on the other hand, is deliberately silent to keep each other’s distance, women will feel particularly hurt by this. In this regard, women tend to say “they have no feelings, simply cold-blooded”, which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicate their feelings and adoration with their hearts. The more the woman rambles, the further the man will be away from you, although he is silent, but the heart has erected a “protective wall”.
Silence to condition the body and mind
Boys are taught from childhood to conquer the world, to stand on top, to take responsibility and so on: when they become adults, no matter how helplessly exhausted, how difficult the setback, how cruel the blow, how heavy the burden, how huge. How heavy the burden, how great the pressure …… they can not be like women can cry to vent, through the tears flushed, by confiding in the discharge. The only thing they can do is to be silent. The only thing they can do is to reflect in silence, tune in silence, build up momentum in silence, and lick their wounds in silence.
So when a man drags his heavy feet home, when he sits on the couch and doesn’t say a word, when he ignores your words, you mustn’t boss him around, make a fuss, float around, or even give him an earful. Perhaps he has just finished talking with the customer exhausted, or is facing a life and career dilly-dally, ready to hurt sleepy and tired. At this time, his silence is to recuperate, he is in silence to get a new life. You may want to give him an hour to say “goodbye” to his day job, after which he may show a surprising amount of interest in any questions you may have.
A special reminder here is that when a man is tired, if he’s still interested in watching TV, don’t turn it off while he’s watching a news broadcast and say with concern, “If you’re tired, get some rest, why are you watching TV?” It is important to know that career-oriented men are mostly concerned about politics, you such “care and attention” can only be counterproductive. But you can insert a few words of comfort in between commercials.
Silence to strategize
You will often find the man you know so well, laughing and suddenly silent, sitting on the couch while the house is hot and bothered, and ignorant of the string of words you throw at him with enthusiasm.
In fact, at this time, the silence and dullness is just the outward appearance of the man, perhaps his mind is thinking of some strange and odd idea, or thinking about some odd problem, or something has triggered his inspiration. When he enters a state of silent contemplation, it is akin to a “retreat”.
They don’t want anyone to pull them out of their silent state, and they don’t want anyone to interrupt or disrupt their silent “practice”. The first thing you can do is to ask him a question or two, such as, “What are you thinking about, and what can I do to help you? Or what do you have to say? Did you hear what I asked? It’s like asking for trouble.
To men, this is the time when all the concerned, thoughtful, well-meaning, curious questions are as disturbing as buzzing flies. At this point, you might as well be a silent follower. And the relaxed atmosphere you provide at the right time will not only make his silence much shorter, but will also make him grateful to you.
Treasuring privacy with silence
Sometimes a man will make up a lie in an emergency, and other times he will try to hide something, such as having a few beers the night before, having a fling on a business trip, having just received an extra bonus, etc. The man’s vision is that as long as he doesn’t say anything, the woman doesn’t find out, everything will be simple. And sometimes, a man’s silence is another kind of concealment. He may think that the woman is too authoritarian, interfering with his freedom and rights, she may even authoritatively arrange his daily life. So, to prevent the woman from breaking the casserole and preventing her transparent control and supervision of him, he chooses to be silent. Without the trail of traces to follow, his world could be much clearer.
When any taboo questions arise in a couple’s communication, there are a few more possibilities for a mutual relationship crisis. For example, when you repeatedly discuss with him the recent issues of sexual strength and weakness, emotional coldness, loyalty, bonuses, etc., he knows in his heart that more words will be lost, but he knows better than to say this revulsion, and the gods can not show it, so they use silence to prevent the problem.