In fact, it’s not that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can’t communicate with each other, they just lack the skills to do so. As long as you can subtly change what you say, many quarrels can be avoided invisibly.
“Your mother ……”
Can you be more forgiving in front of your mother-in-law than your own mother? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
But the thing is, even though your mother-in-law doesn’t treat you like her own daughter, when she hears you call her “your mother” behind her back, she’s still a little unhappy. After all, this “your mother” has actually indicated your attitude towards her “this is your mother, not my mother, don’t expect me to treat her as my own mother”. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
“Mom, you don’t understand ……”
This is the most common phrase young daughters-in-law say when dealing with household chores or caring for small children. But want to avoid war? Then stop quickly, because this kind of talk hurts the elderly most, although it may be true that she does not understand. Modern appliances she does not know how to make, modern parenting methods she has not heard of, modern society in the world of people she can not understand, but all this does not mean that she is not capable, knowledgeable, and does not affect her own son and grandson. But your “you don’t understand” completely excludes her from the whole thing, no less than telling her plainly: “You don’t know anything, so don’t get involved.” So you might as well say “Mom, please tell me ……” instead.
“My son (my daughter) ……”
Many loving mothers often involuntarily say in front of their mother-in-law, “My son
Many loving mothers can’t help but say in front of their mother-in-law, “My son, my son, my baby is my grandson. ……” such with a strong sense of belonging to the “my son” called originally nothing wrong, but it is easy to make the mother-in-law feel a sense of crisis, as if the child and the grandparents have nothing to do, and as if so long with the
The first time I saw a grandson, I was able to get him to come home.
In the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, it is precisely these kinds of words that have a strong range of meaning that can lead to war. So it’s a good idea to say “your grandson (your granddaughter) ……”
instead.