Some time ago, a netizen opened a post to talk about the issue of virginity, which received a response from most netizens, who scrambled to follow the reply.
Must you be a virgin to find a wife?
One of the forum’s users insisted that a wife must be a virgin: “Isn’t it monogamous to say now? The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The man who loves him will not feel good in his heart …… who can tolerate his beloved woman, once standing naked in front of another man ah?” Some netizens even threw out a fierce argument: “If I found out my wife was not a virgin when I got married, I would have killed her …….”
“Even if a man is good to his wife who is not a virgin, he always still has a shadow in his heart Women you have to understand why men care so much whether you are a virgin or not.” “If you are not a virgin! Wouldn’t you have a little shadow in your heart! I am a man! Even if it is true that the surface will not say, the heart will always be unhappy! Do you want the person you really love to live in the shadows for the rest of his life?”
It’s a sadness to ask only for a woman’s chastity
The female netizen shot back that if true love is only for that hymen, it’s definitely a sadness for men. “I really don’t know what these men are thinking. They will ask to have sex with their girlfriends when they are not married. But also require their wives to be virgins. So are you? If you are not, what right do you have to demand others. Is that membrane of a woman that important to you.”
“It’s right to talk about chastity, but you can’t go too far. Ask how a virgin’s chastity can be desecrated, but there are so many men who caused it. Why not hold the men responsible for it? And why not take into account the man’s non-virginity? The inequality of society ah! Thousands of years of traditional feudal thinking is what bullies women!”
“How many men want to hear that woman tell of her first time to another man before they get that woman? You know the good lie? A history that no one knows is innocent. Men have a past and so do women, so there is no need to care about the past, the present and future is good enough. Mature people don’t ask about the past, wise people don’t ask about the present, and open-minded people don’t ask about the future.”
Virginity is not important life tacit understanding is good
There are also male netizens who hit the nail on the head: “Men, have seen virginity on the line, I do not care if my wife is a virgin, in bed with true feelings, passion, can do silent cooperation, that is a virgin and prostitutes can not do things. Give you a virgin wife, is a cold personality that is inhumane. Do not forget that most men are premature ejaculation, most women are also a cold plate, between men and women also need to be matched, improperly matched, marriage is unfortunate. Those antique types better find an antique type, ideology is also important.”
Male netizens participate: “I am a man, I think more care should be a woman’s future, not whether she is a virgin, not a virgin is also caused by those shameless men, itself for women are already a great trauma and injustice, do not let the responsibility of women to carry. Traumatized women should be the ones who know best how to cherish their feelings.”
Hymen’s vanity is satisfied by hymen repair
In response to the “virginity” of many male netizens, female netizens retorted, “Sisters! The foolish men do not want a woman’s heart, but a membrane! The majority of beauty parlors can recreate a hymen for $300 (you can bargain)! Let’s unite and make those selfish, hateful men stupid for life! After we give them the membrane, we can still give them a cuckold! They’ll still think we’re faithful! Hahahahahahaha ……”
“Look for it, look for it, go find the pure virgin in your hearts! But be careful, be careful that you are looking for nothing more than an impostor who has had a hymen repair, a procedure that exists specifically for you men, which is really sad for you men.”
Few men are on the side of women, “I am also a man of the present age, as a man who does not want his wife to be a virgin. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the real world and see how many of them are virgins on their wedding night. It is the social climate that causes the trouble. So as a man don’t be hypocritical, don’t be selfish!”
Purity for a good marriage
The fact that nearly 90% of men in China are virgins is not something that can be changed in a short period of time. The requirement that the wife be a virgin is a requirement of traditional Chinese culture, and it is important to acknowledge the popularity and unshakeability of this view in China.
Virginity can’t be judged as right or wrong. You say it’s right, but in modern society, with the emancipation of women’s minds, more and more non-virgins are emerging as a fact that can’t be avoided.
You say it’s wrong, China’s millennia-old traditional morality is certainly correct in its criticism of premarital sex, which is unjustifiable in the Chinese context. So neither of these two extreme views is entirely correct, which is why the issue of non-virginity is so hotly debated.
Since there is no way to change the virginity complex of Chinese men today, women are asked to respect and strengthen themselves, otherwise they will have to face nearly 90% of men with virginity complex, and women with sexual experience before marriage will have to look for a marriage partner among the remaining 10% of men, which makes their courtship surface very narrow and is unfair to them, rather than clean themselves for a good married life.