Finding a friend of the opposite sex who also likes to sit quietly in the corner and sip wine among the many laughing men and women at a bar owned by a friend who has the same last name may not seem peculiar to others, but I would consider that a romantic encounter.
That encounter nine years ago made Plum and I fall in love with each other.
Plum is four years younger than me, but the love she gave me made me feel like I was back in my childhood, feeling the solidity and warmth of lying in my mother’s arms again. Because after I understood it, I never got love again.
My home is in Hubei x. My mother was very old before she gave birth to me, and I was born in a foreign country, so my father was always skeptical about where I came from, so he never looked kindly on me. I remember when I was a child, my father would beat me for being naughty, and as long as my mother put in a good word for me, he would beat her as well. The first time I saw this, I thought to myself, “Why are other people’s fathers so kind and gentle, but my father is like this?
Growing up in this kind of family environment, I became withdrawn and indifferent, and left home at every turn. Sometimes wandering outside, picking up garbage, eating leftover buns, staying for ten days at a time, with no one looking for me.
After graduating from secondary school, I came to Wuhan to do some small business and left that home. Thank goodness I met Plum. In the eight years we were in love, Meizi gave me all her love.
She is very frugal and doesn’t spend money frivolously. We haven’t seen a movie or had a big meal. The first time I saw her, she didn’t even bother to buy expensive clothes and shoes, instead she bought me all brand names. I sleep very unfaithfully, like to stir the quilt, she bought me thick pajamas, but also hand-knitted me a pair of wool socks, afraid of my feet freezing, let me sleep wearing. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
Plum works as a tour guide. She is tall and pretty, not the sultry kind of beauty, but the kind of beauty with affinity, as kind and gentle as a kindergarten aunt. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public. These excellent men are not lacking in the pursuit of her, but she is not moved, single-mindedly follow me, she thinks I am her first, her only. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Last year on the National Day, our love finally came to fruition and we entered into marriage.
The post-marriage gap
Not long after the wedding, I was sent to work abroad for six months. At that time, our new house was being prepared for construction and decoration. When I came back, the new house had already been decorated and was very beautiful and warm. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. She was the one who did all the renovation, from design to material selection, from buying materials to supervising the work. She is very frugal, such as sweeping garbage, moving wood and other work that she can do, she will do it herself, not hire workers. It was so heartbreaking to hold her and not be there for her when she needed me most.
Later, my parents asked me to quit my job and go back to x-city to help with the business of the family store. For my sake, Plum took a break from being a tour guide and accompanied me to x-city. Before, she had never lived with my parents, and many things needed to be rubbed off. However, when conflicts arise, I always say that she is not and do not take care of her ideas. When she sat in the store, she looked dull and was not active, so I nagged her a lot. I forgot that she was originally a guide, a bird of prey who liked to breathe fresh air, not a fish who liked to be stuck in a fish tank.
That’s how we entered the post-marriage teething period. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of how to get the job done. And I didn’t give Meizi enough time to adjust, and instead just let her accommodate me, which in turn caused her some degree of harm.
The sweet world of the two of us before marriage was disturbed by many external factors at once, leaving her at a loss, and I selfishly felt that she hadn’t done enough, perhaps because I was spoiled by her. During the day I go out to buy goods, she can not even talk to a person. At night, when she wanted to talk to me, I would impatiently interrupt her and fall asleep because I was too tired.
We started arguing about this, and Meizi got angry and went back to her job as a tour guide in Wuhan. The distance washed away the trivialities of life and diluted the traces of the quarrel. We talked on the phone every day at the appointed time, chatting about the secrets and love affairs between husband and wife.
She would tell me where she had taken the tour today, what fun people were on the tour, and so on. One day, she jokingly told me that she met a particularly good businessman from Shanghai, who was very talented and elegant, and said he was very nice to her. Sometimes she was saying little things like this and that to try to see if I was jealous and if I cared about her, so I didn’t take it to heart.
Said no breakup
A week later, I noticed that Plum’s attitude slowly changed. I think it’s a good idea to have a good time.
In my gut, I knew there was something wrong with Plum, and it had to do with men.
I couldn’t get away from my business in x-city, so I called her and asked her, but she wouldn’t tell me honestly.
The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The man who made the change is the same man who said that day, the good Shanghai rich businessman.
That man was young and rich, and I think it wasn’t the money that made Meizi sway, because Meizi had been in contact with many rich people before. The first thing that made me want to do was to see the man’s poise and talent, and the kind of romantic love attack. What girl hasn’t had a dream of fairy tale love, the kind of Prince Charming and Cinderella dream?
According to Plum’s friends, the man was very rich, but he didn’t have the attitude of a rich man and treated the tour guide not as an object to be used, but as a friend.
The man even asked for a first-class room for Mei Zi, who was particularly touched.
Every day, flowers and small gifts were sent to Mei Zi. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. This kind of romantic gesture, how to call the plum not moved. In contrast, my selfishness, my lack of understanding, inconsiderate and other unpleasant behaviors towards her came to the fore, which is why Meizi’s psyche was out of balance and she became cold towards me.
At the same time, I learned that the man had a wife, and I was afraid that Meizi would be cheated, so I made it clear to Meizi. Not only did she not listen, but she also proposed a breakup, saying I didn’t care about her and didn’t trust her. She said she would not be with that man even if she broke up, but just felt too tired to be with me.
I know how she feels, and I want her to know that I have a million “I’m sorry” things to say to her, and I hope she doesn’t leave me. When we were in love, we argued, but didn’t we say that no matter what happened, we would never break up?
Now Meizi is no longer answering my calls, she is determined to break up with me. I’ve been holding her picture every day in tears. I know I did a lot of things wrong, and I really hope she will give me a chance to believe that I won’t let her down again.
Before the interview ended, I asked Van Chen to give Meizi a message. He said, “Meizi, I really miss you, and if you really want to leave me, then please make sure you look at that man first, and if he can really give you the happiness you want, then I will let go and will always be behind you to bless you.”
Editor’s Note: Hang on by the hook
“Hang on by the hook, no change for a hundred years!” This is the solemn agreement of children, and when they agree, they have to keep it with each other. Two pink fingers hooked together make adults think it’s cute and ridiculous.
But children grow up day by day, and when they grow up, they don’t hook up anymore.
The reason they don’t pull the hook is because they are afraid to.
They know that the world is changing fast, nothing is unchangeable, nothing is unallowable, let alone unchangeable for 100 years, life is not 100 years.
Men and women, even couples who have been married for years, their feelings are not inert elements in chemistry, there is no super stable structure. It’s just a good intention to say yes to not breaking up.
Is that too negative, and is there really nothing we can do about it? Yes, there is, things happen. The only thing we can do is try to maintain the relationship. The first thing you need to do is to be careful about what you are doing.
But the hero of this story was too careless to notice the subtle changes in his lover, and let a covetous person take advantage of the situation.
Be a mindful person, don’t think that if you marry someone, you put them in a safe.