What is a trial marriage? A man and a woman have been dating for a long time and are in love. One says enthusiastically, Let’s get married! The other one calmly shakes his head, I still want to try again. The other one calmly shakes his head, I want to try again. You can say that mutual understanding is not enough, you can also find a “not ready” poor excuse. In short, the trend of trial marriage is pervasive in the lives of young men and women today.
Phenomenon 1: Trial marriage, the trial is sex
Through surveys and interviews, it was found that 30% of the couples in the failed trial marriage broke up because of sexual problems. Ms. Wang is a typical example of a couple who broke up after a trial marriage because of sex.
Miss Wang chose to break up with her boyfriend after a two-month trial marriage. “He’s the third boyfriend I’ve had, and actually, to be honest, I felt a little cruel after the breakup.”
Miss Wang lowered her head and said with a red face, “The reason for the breakup was because during sex, I found out he had impotence and premature ejaculation.” Although it is said that women always want more love and men always think about more sex, the fact is that many young couples in the post-80s who are physically trying out marriage are not only trying out love, but also sex.
But the survey found that there are also many couples who are not trying out marriage in the spirit of trying out sex. “My girlfriend and I had to live together because our home was out of town and our work was in Weifang, in order to save rent. In fact, although we just lived together after working this year, we have already had sex before, so I think we can’t just simply regard living together as a trial marriage as a man wanting to ‘try sex’.” Mr. Liu, who works in the Quihua District, denied that he was trying out sex by trying out marriage.
Phenomenon 2: Trial marriage, the trial is the character
In a marriage agency in the city, the reporter met with Ms. Liu who is consulting.
The first time I saw the company, I was in love with Mr. Zhang, who is 33 years old, with the help of a newspaper.
After six months of love, the two began a trial marriage life. However, after only four days of trial marriage, the two parted ways due to personality differences.
In June this year, through a marriage advertisement, Mr. Zhang dialed Ms. Liu’s phone. The two fell in love very sweetly, six months later, Mr. Zhang proposed to get married, Miss Liu felt uncomfortable knowing too short a time, so the two discussed a trial marriage.
Just when they lived together, conflicts began to emerge. Miss Liu wanted to go shopping, Mr. Zhang refused; Mr. Zhang likes to play online games, Miss Liu suspected that he does not do housework. The first weekend the two were together, Miss Liu went out and came back to see Mr. Zhang was nestled in the bedroom playing games, recalling that for four days Mr. Zhang never shared the internal and external affairs of the house, and under a breath, it gave Mr. Zhang a breakup card.
The marriage agency’s manager Zhang told reporters that men and women in love are always trying to disguise themselves, to create a good image and good manners, with all the advantages in exchange for each other’s likes, and likewise are trying to do everything possible to cover up their shortcomings and shortcomings by any means.
And once they were living together, the pots and pans started to “play”, from the “lyric” at the beginning to the “symphony” and finally to the “rock”. into “rock music”, each other’s shortcomings in the collision little by little to reveal the true face of the mountain. The company’s main goal is to avoid the problem of finding out that the other party is not the ideal spouse after the marriage, and that it is too late to change.
Phenomenon three: trial marriage, the trial is the responsibility
In the survey, the reporter found that many couples choose to trial marriage, in addition to try sex and personality test, trial marriage test and the other party’s sense of responsibility for the marriage.
The reporter met Ms. Li and her husband at the entrance of the Civil Affairs Bureau who had just finished registering, and through the interview, the reporter learned that Ms. Li and her husband finally came to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register their marriage after two years of trial marriage.
“Trial marriage is a kind of responsibility, during the trial marriage, if the other party leaves you, then he is irresponsible, this kind of person, is not worth staying. Don’t think that in a trial marriage, a girl is the one who loses out, but in fact that is responsible for herself.”
“Marriage is a lifelong thing, the days are to be lived by two people together, I have only two requirements for my husband, firstly, to learn to take care of the family, and secondly, to be considerate and take care of people, these can be reflected in the trial marriage process, through the trial marriage to understand whether the other party has the concept of marriage, is a good way.
After two years of trial marriage, my ‘assessment’ of my boyfriend is over and he has met my requirements for a ‘husband’.” Ms. Li told reporters, “Love should be loved, do not think this is to break the long-lasting morality, trial marriage is not avant-garde, is responsible for their future marriage.”