Modern people are generally insecure, not to mention the fragile product of love. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
What kind of people are most likely to have a spare tire?
1. If you’re a romantic saint
“I wish the person I love didn’t have romantic poetry” – that’s what the wife of a French lyric poet sighed after many betrayals. She finally decided to break up with the poet, praying that the next time the man she loved would not have too many poetic sentiments.
People who are romantic and affectionate by nature are usually also very sensitive and rich in their feelings for the opposite sex. A look, a smile, a fragrance …… are just enough to trigger a love affair, which is why artists and entertainers are rich in love affairs. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2. If Ta loves the vanity of being loved
There is a type of person who does not love wine and clothes, but the vanity of being loved, and they are the mainstay of the spare tire breeders.
Perhaps all people who have a spare tire are attracted by this feeling of being loved and cannot stop.
The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
3. If Ta is extremely insecure
This is actually a personality flaw.
Perhaps because of a shadow in their childhood, or perhaps because of an unbearable history of love, they are afraid to commit their entire body and mind, to one person. The best way to avoid being rejected is to reject a person first. Similarly, in their opinion, the best way to avoid being hit hard by love is to seek self-preservation first, stealing a spare tire, leaving a secondary road or several roads of love for themselves, so they can walk more securely and properly on the main road.
4. If Ta doesn’t love you enough
Even if Ta isn’t affectionate, doesn’t crave the vanity of being loved, and isn’t insecure, it’s still possible to find a backup lover if Ta doesn’t love you enough.
12 Signs You’re a Love Backup
1. She’s Always Late
She’s late for her first date with you and keeps you waiting for a full hour. During the wait, she only contacted you via text messages, which were also rather boring. If after two glasses of water, the other party still hasn’t shown up, hurry up and text a perfunctory message, then just find an excuse to bail!
2. She doesn’t appreciate it
You’re a good sport, but the other side doesn’t buy it, and she’ll ask you if you think she can’t open the car door for her.
3. You can’t make her happy
“Hello, beautiful.” You amuse all the ladies in the room with this silly opening line, and the one you’re in love with is indifferent.
4. No intimacy
You greet her with a hug and a passionate kiss, and she responds with a lukewarm response. When you hug her she doesn’t hug you tight, she just knocks you on the back a few times, nervous like a college student on stage to receive an award; when you are ready to kiss her passionately, all you kiss is her nostrils.
5. Outsiders always interfere
Saying they are going to the bathroom and still missing for half an hour, you go looking for her worriedly, only to see her hitting it off with an outsider sitting at the front of the restaurant, and acting like they are already old acquaintances.
6. Playing disappearing
When you propose to go to a movie or a cafe for a drink after dinner, she hurriedly says she has something to do and then disappears in front of you in a flash.
7. She’s too forward
This is your first kiss. Her soft lips open gently and her tongue briskly skims your lips. She doesn’t move hard at first, but when you hold her hot body in your arms, she gets excited and then works her way down, unbuckling the waistband on your pants with great skill and putting her hand right inside.
8. The phone stays in your hand
There is no stopping the phone or texting during the conversation.
9. A member of the Appearance Association
The first time we met, she unapologetically told you, “Oh my God, you look like this? You’re so different from what I thought you’d be.”
10. You’re a sidekick
It was a private party for two people, and she called a big table of friends and family as a sidekick, during which she was talking to everyone else like a social flower, and you were treated like a total air.
11. Meet the gold-digging lady
A woman who asks you directly what your salary is, what position you’re in, and even what your parents’ jobs are, even to the point of asking which neighborhood you live in.
12. The fanatic female fan
who is fanatically obsessed with a popular actor and has the nickname of the star of her choice on her lips all day long, has posters of the star all over her walls, and even tells you before meeting you that I would be happier to meet you if you looked like so-and-so.
How do you avoid becoming someone’s “spare tire”?
From a psychological point of view, people who have a spare tire and people who become someone else’s spare tire are both, in a psychological sense, a disguised need to satisfy a lack of self in their own upbringing. The most important thing to remember is that when you are growing up, your family of origin, at the age when you need security and love the most, instead of getting unconditional love, you experience more rejection, longing, and conflict, and then you grow up seeking compensatory needs to be loved, and you are likely to become a spare tire in your unconscious pursuit.
Avoiding Preparedness:
First, accept yourself, i.e. learn to recognize, respect, and love yourself more. The paradox of strongly seeking the love of others is based on your own strong rejection and denial of yourself, because you see yourself as “small “
Second, learn to meet your own needs and reduce the temptation of material things from the outside world;
Then, learn more about psychology and gain a more objective and in-depth understanding of yourself. If necessary, you can also seek psychotherapy to find a safe, unconditionally caring environment for your spiritual growth.