Processing a lost love is also a very rewarding learning process.
I. You need to realize that it is inevitable to be sad and upset when you fall out of love. The first thing you need to do is to make sure you’re not in denial or suppressing your emotions, especially for men. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. When you lose your love, you cry in pain, and this debilitating injury takes some time and measures to deal with.
Second, breakups have to be brought up at the right time. I once counseled a male college student who had fallen out of love, and he and his girlfriend still had a date that night, and she said nothing, but called back to the dorm to say she was breaking up. The next day he had a big exam, and there was no signal beforehand, so he had a breakdown. So if you’re breaking up with each other, don’t be so cruel.
Three, it’s important to be thoughtful before you break up, and try to give each other some signals of preparation so that the other person has plenty of time to mentally adapt and engage in the decision. It is not fair to the other party to announce it when the decision is made unilaterally.
Fourth, the one who initiated the breakup should face it bravely and not avoid responsibility; and don’t deceive yourself by saying “we were never in love”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
5. Tell us honestly and specifically why you want to break up, taking into account the other person’s feelings and dignity. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Six, now that the decision has been made, don’t go back on your word, and don’t drag out your actions. Some people like to say, “I can still be your brother even though I’m no longer your lover,” which will perpetuate the pain and reflects their indecisiveness and immaturity.
VII. The passive party, don’t refuse to communicate. For example, some people say “I’m not listening” when the other person breaks up, and don’t answer the phone, trying to avoid it. This is a very immature approach. Instead, be brave and seek the opportunity to have a frank discussion.
Eight, the passive party, don’t be stalkerish. Some people say, “I’ll die if you don’t love me,” and if the other person isn’t moved, they will really kill themselves. This is very weak, very scary and a behavior, because life is too precious. And, stalking, as a result, becomes more annoying to the other person, making it more difficult and painful for them.
9. The passive party cannot be righteous. The first day the girlfriend broke up, the next day he looked for a prettier girl that everyone was after, to show that he was not hurt, “Look, you don’t want me, I found a prettier girl than you! ” In fact, this behavior is very childish, not helpful, and will bring more harm to yourself.
Ten, the passive party must not be inferior because of this, lost love is just a failure encountered in life, do not cover the whole thing with bias, the entire denial of themselves. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.
Eleven, it is best not to see each other at the beginning of the breakup. When you see each other, emotions are easily stirred up. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The first thing you need to do is to find the opportunity to “see” each other, which is really torturing yourself.
12. Short-term withdrawal is acceptable. For example, if you are the head of a student club at school and you feel bad about yourself after a breakup, you can tell your friends that you can’t come back for two weeks. We need to acknowledge that we are in a great emotional trauma and need to rest and calm down. But the retreat can’t be long. You have to get back on your feet as quickly as possible to adjust to your emotions.
XIII. Both men and women can initiate a breakup, not just the man or the woman.
XIV. If you can’t handle it, don’t die trying. You can find a friend, a teacher, a counselor, any person. Don’t let the chagrin and pain wear you down in the long run.