Both boys and girls are curious and yearning for the opposite sex, and are often swayed by the curiosity and mystery of the opposite sex, and may even be tempted to get involved. The first of these is the “love illusion”, which can easily occur during this period.
1. Admiration
Teacher-student relationships and idolatry fall into this category, where we just admire all the good things about the other person, probably because we wish we had those good things, so it’s not parallel love.
2. The desire for security
People sometimes want to have stability so badly that they must sometimes be seeking a relationship that makes them feel secure rather than love itself.
3. Physical attraction
Appearance and body attraction all fall into this category. Sometimes it is clear that the two are far apart in mind, but they can’t help but indulge in the pleasure of physical intimacy.
4. The desire to escape
When the pressure is on, we want to divert our attention, which is why we are most likely to have relationship problems in junior and senior years instead.
5. Loneliness
We all inevitably feel lonely and isolated, but it’s something we should get over ourselves, and bringing it into a relationship only makes us lonelier.
6. Common interests
Sometimes you’re just each other’s best playmates, sharing interesting things, and what exists between the two of you isn’t a feeling of love.
7. Infatuation
Glorifying each other too much, not accepting each other’s imperfections, and falling irrationally in love with each other are all part of the infatuation loop.
8. Pity
You may involuntarily sympathize with the other person’s problems, thinking you can bring them salvation and help them change, when in fact it is you who is dragging them down.
9. A substitute for affection
When family can’t give us a warm embrace, love may become a substitute, clouding your vision of who to choose.
10. The short-lived first love between young boys and girls
This sudden feeling of liking each other can also somehow disappear and does not last.
11. Revengeful romance
When we are frustrated in a relationship, we are likely to develop a new relationship in order to prove our worth, but then just hurt the other person or ourselves more and not solve the problem.