It is relatively easy to avoid conflicts, to settle for superficial happiness, and to make no effort to improve the realm of what needs to be improved, but it is unbearable. Experts believe that true love is divided into these realms.
Love Level 1: Lust
You may think that if two people have the same personality, the relationship will last. But don’t forget that personalities are dependent on bodies, and that the physical body is a powerful (and fun) tool to bring you and your significant other closer together. Sex is the bond between the two sexes, and it has to be used to its full potential. If sex is not harmonious, there is undoubtedly an unbridgeable chasm between the two.
A healthy sex life is not only sensually pleasurable, but also leads to a better quality of life (in the broad sense).
A couple in therapy suffering from a “sex drought” found that they often fought over trivial things and then got frustrated.
They took the expert’s advice and began to renew their physical intimacy, becoming more tolerant and loving with each other.
Love Realm II: Spirituality
Any love contains an element of sincerity, and should be a harmonious development of the spirit and the flesh. Although the meaning of a lover has gone far beyond friendship, you can still safely be friends with him and appreciate the beauty of this distance from each other. Platonic spiritual love is the purest and most beautiful, the glue that holds all other realms together. When you start to get bored with romance, when your energy has been drained by lust, then you can only rely on trust and friendship to keep the relationship moving forward.
Love Realm 3: Romance
Experts believe that true love is divided into seven realms: erotic, spiritual, romantic, practical, philosophical, lasting, and sensible. Whether a relationship lasts depends on whether you experience these seven realms at the same time. The secret of an intimate love couple is to be able to find out which realm of love has gone wrong and to fix it in time.
Even partners who are already happy can become even happier, because most of them still lack deep communication with each other, and true intimacy is very subtle. It’s relatively easy to avoid conflict, to settle for superficial happiness, and to make no effort to improve where you need to be, but it’s unbearable.
Love Realm 4: Practical
Practical love? It sounds a bit paradoxical. But think about the reality of your life, right? When you and your boyfriend are talking about buying a new Buick, or designing a trip to Hawaii, or deciding which channel to watch, you’ll be amazed at how well you understand each other if you both coincide every time. If the relationship is functioning properly at this level, differences in everyday life are resolved before they escalate. It is important to learn to respect each other and to avoid harm as life is practical and allows for different interpretations of lifestyles.
First, don’t worry about why you can’t agree on everything, but try to understand why you disagree. Second, learn to compromise and reconcile.
When was the most recent time you two spent the night together that you were the most shocked and soul-crushing? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing. The most important thing is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation.