David Givens, director of the Center for the Study of Nonverbal Expression in Spokane, Washington, and an anthropologist, has observed that 60-70% of people’s communication in their daily lives is expressed through body language, and that this percentage can even spike to 90% when expressing love.
Anthropologists and physiologists have found the following body “telegraphs” to be effective in showing affection.
Shoulder movements
The shoulder is one of the most expressive structures in the body, with its rounded shape, smooth skin, and flexible movement, allowing for shrugs, lifts, and rolls that can express subtle changes in emotion, such as slackening and sinking when one is frustrated, and becoming more flexible and powerful when one is happy. When a person is frustrated, for example, the shoulders sink and become more flexible and powerful.
So it is recommended that women wear a sleeveless top on a date and that men pay more attention to their shoulder muscles so that they can express tenderness and love better.
Imitate each other
She picks up a cup of tea, he picks up a cup of tea; she takes a sip, he takes a sip. Anthropologists call this synchronous behavior “homophilic neurobehavior.
In the animal kingdom, mimicry is an important mate catcher, and this phenomenon is also true in humans, where mimicry is an instinctive friendly act of wanting to be close to each other. The fact that you are wearing couple’s clothes and mirroring each other with your hands and feet will bring you closer.
Gaze at each other
Eye contact is a powerful tool for emotional connection, with the average person breaking eye contact after 3 seconds of gazing at each other, and conveying affection when the gaze is prolonged.
Head tilt
When talking to the opposite sex, watch the head carefully; if it is with a friendly attitude, the other person will tilt the head to show rapport. During courtship, this action also has a teasing connotation. The head close to the shoulder means harmony and recognition. A head tilt on a date makes the couple’s conversation seem more passionate and direct, and communication more fluid.
Leaning closer
Jamie Comstock, a professor of communication at Butler University in Indiana, believes that closing the distance between two people is a powerful way for the body to communicate love. When couples meet they can’t help but bring their bodies closer to each other, and this is when body language precedes verbal language in expressing affection and attraction.
Rapid blinking
The normal rate of blinking in humans is 20 times per minute, and the rate of blinking is accelerated when a person is excited and thrilled. So, blinking is also a way to communicate inner love.
A warm smile
Smiling warms up the mood of the other person, but not all smiles can express love. When couples sincerely blossom into smiling faces, the cheek muscles will be highly contracted, the corners of the mouth will go up, and crow’s feet will appear at the corners of the eyes. The next time you see your beloved, you may want to mobilize your emotions from within and have a zygomatic smile to enhance your relationship.