The thing about relationships is that they are amazing, and in this world, it can be said that there is never a small thing. Most things seem like a very tiny thing, but it takes time to realize with a jolt that it was just the root of trouble for a big accident. In a moment, it can destroy your whole world to the core.
It is often said that there is a seven-year itch in a marriage, and then the expressions five, four, three years have sprung up, and there are even those who say that the itch starts after only six months. Where exactly does this itch come from? In fact, it is nothing more than a change in the trajectory of love, a derailment forward, so to speak.
The universal love itch comes from the indifferent loss of commitment and the infinite postponement of it.
Try to recall why two people like to stick together when they are in love, it’s because there is a commitment to each other that “you can’t have it”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
For example, at that time, I want to make you happy every day, come home every day to eat your cooking, spend time with you every day and so on, which is the best lubricant for each other to bond, but after marriage, or after a long period of love, the bonding between couples turns into the bonding of reality and commitment, and at this time, basically most people have to compromise with reality, in order to “Later” can realize the promise, this behavior has a nice name called responsibility. However, the reality and the promise of the friction between the two will be used for five years, ten years or a lifetime. When you feel the ability to fulfill their own commitments, the grinding period is over, but because of this grinding time is too long, one of the party has long been discouraged, and eventually lead to a breakdown of feelings. The itch in this process is all from the loss of commitment, or infinite extension.
Not to be overlooked is that mutual emotional repression and withholding can also lead to the itch of a relationship.
Most people have two phenomena when they are at odds with each other. The first one is that they have to win or lose, and they don’t give in to each other, and they argue with each other to the point of redness. The other is to compromise with each other with the mentality of “small intolerance is a big plan”. Both of them can basically destroy a perfect relationship, only in the number of times they accumulate and their mental capacity.
This is not to say that couples can’t have any conflict with each other, nor is it to be all about peace, it’s just that most people don’t know how to fight constructively and resolve conflicts politely, and how to fight and what to do to resolve conflicts has become an art in marriage, and they play a role in promoting a relationship or destroying it.
Laziness in running a relationship and not caring about yourself are the most insidious killers in a relationship.
When two people are just starting to warm up, they are trying hard to show their best side of each other, sometimes choosing to suppress themselves in order to please each other, and when they get married, their flaws are exposed to each other over time, and with the mentality of being a family anyway, they are no longer hiding their own The two of them have been in the same boat for a long time, and they have been in the same boat for a long time.
When you think about it, the most serious about feelings is when you just accept a relationship, the only time you are afraid that you are not good enough, afraid that the little tricks you use will not please the other person. The only thing that I’m afraid of is that I’m not romantic and gentle enough, so I’m trying to do everything I can, and at the same time that time is also the sweetest.
Don’t make promises lightly at any time, because you don’t know when you’ll accidentally forget about it and you don’t know when you’ll be able to fulfill it. Instead, turn your promise into a compliment to the other person, and the effect will not be diminished in the slightest. Try a better way to settle the quarrel and replace the ice and fire between you. If you feel that your love passion is slipping badly now or has faded but you don’t want to give up, then run your love with your initial passion.