From a psychological point of view, “relationship breakdown” has to go through four stages: dispute, wariness, rift and rupture.
Disputes
After the couple has joined hands in the bridal chamber, after a hot period, they enter a period of conflict, and if the conflict is not resolved in time, it becomes a dispute, and they argue in a tangled way. Generally speaking, disputes in the low cultural level and bilious, polycystic parties are mostly manifested in the external leakage, such as oral arguments, fights, destruction of objects, etc.. With good offices, it can be resolved, but afterwards it reoccurs and the civil war does not end.
In the high culture, mucous and depressed people, the problem is internal depression, no quarrel on the outside, but internal coldness and gap between each other, and mediation is not easy.
Withdrawal
Disputes accumulate and couples withdraw from each other, commonly called “sleeping together”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The two sides are on guard in terms of their financial and social relationships, and even in terms of their personal career and future, in order to prevent the other side from catching on and learning the truth.
The rift
The secrecy will be disclosed one day. The result is a vicious cycle that leads to a rift. The result is a vicious cycle that finally leads to a rift. The rift manifests itself in strong emotional dissatisfaction and mutual deviation in behavior. The first time I saw this, I was able to get to the bottom of it.
Rupture
The rift is getting bigger and bigger, and it is impossible to close the gap, and the relationship is completely broken. The couple whose feelings have broken down, the choice of the pattern is roughly three: one is to go their separate ways through the legal formalities of divorce; two is to consider a variety of reasons, inconvenient divorce, have to make do with life, to endure the frustration, the couple’s relationship in name only; three is a broken relationship, can not be reversed, just to torture each other, refusing to divorce, “drag him (her), not let him (her) pleasure “. This kind of dragging is both stupid and immoral, harming others as well as oneself.
Shape inward, then act outward. The first two are the “cause” of relationship breakdowns, which are generally in the realm of inner activity; the second two are the “effect” of outward movement, which is generally in the realm of action. The first two are the “cause” and the second two are the “effect”.