A relationship has a beginning and inevitably an end, perhaps everyone has experienced the painful period of lost love, and everyone spends this time adjusting themselves in different ways, some people get drunk, some cry, some go shopping, some overeat, some are alone, some confide in …… one of the modes is to immediately enter the next relationship, with a fresh The first is to get into the next relationship and heal the wounds of the heart with fresh love.
Does this approach actually work? Readers, do you have any experiences you’d like to share?
Love right away and forget the pain
When I first fell out of love, I was dying, crying in front of my sister and getting drunk at a barbecue wing restaurant; when I finally calmed down, I found myself in another predicament – I wasn’t used to being alone anymore. After getting used to washing clothes for one person, eating with one person, suddenly facing the life alone again, I really feel very uncomfortable, I do not like the feeling of loneliness alone. This loneliness constantly reminds me of my failures, and I desperately need to find the next person to accompany myself. –Z
After breaking up with my EX, I was in pain for a long time. Luckily, I had a good girl who knew how to be there and listen to me to help me get out of that sad period. She became my current girlfriend, and my new love has rejuvenated me, and even when I think of EX again, I won’t be so torn up. Love is a positive energy, and new love can heal the wounds of the heart. –Vaikne
With my first boyfriend since college, 7 years back and forth, for him to graduate and leave his hometown to work abroad, supporting him unconditionally in all his decisions, believing that he has the noblest and strictest sense of morality in the world… …So for a long time after being broken up with, I felt I lost the ability to trust and love others and was filled with anger, fear and hate. In between I tried all kinds of ways to anesthetize myself, working desperately, playing games desperately, eating desperately, reading desperately and crying desperately …… but it wasn’t until I met my current husband that I gradually got better. That’s why I believe that only true love can cure a sick soul. — Cathy
Life-saving relationships
Not true love
People are most vulnerable when they are emotionally frustrated, when they either become extra guarded or extra It is easy to be moved. It is easy to become attached to those around you at this time, but such feelings are just a drowning person’s need for a life preserver, not true love.
When we fall out of love, we often lose not only love but also self-esteem, especially when the person being broken up with often tends to “find a better partner immediately to appear in front of the ex”. The subconscious mind proves its charm to the ex in this way, which means that they have not finished sorting out their previous relationship and do not know their real needs, and the intimacy that occurs at this time is not on a solid foundation. — Demons
What right does someone who hasn’t completely moved on from the effects of their last relationship have to start the next one? Someone who can start a new relationship without hesitation while still suffering can only show that he doesn’t really feel grief, but is just a performative personality at work — acting out heavy feelings to the outside world and to himself to satisfy his self-evaluation, such that the look of lost love is just a ritual. –Mask