Spending money is a big issue, and surveys in foreign societies have found that money-related “cases” can account for more than 80% of marital conflicts.
Everyone has their own way of managing money and family finances, and outsiders can’t interfere, but we have to say that it’s this self-righteousness that hurts family peace the most. The wind and flowers are imaginary and need to be paved, less the money and silver that falls in the real world, talking about money, which can be avoided?
Mistake 1: Talking about money is so vulgar, we never talk about it
Advice: the more open the clearer
Not now, but always later. The reality is in front of us, what if we encounter money problems? Each one counts for itself, or counts for the other? Obviously not. The best solution is to talk explicitly about money issues before they start to plague everyday life, and to agree on them, preferably in terms that specify how each person will pay for each expense.
Mistake #2: Always spending one person’s money
Advice: Set up a common fund
If one partner is left to bear the financial stress alone for a long time, he or she can become psychologically heavy, very unhappy, anxious and cranky, and feel very unfair in the face of the other partner’s carefree existence. In family life, it is very important for both to be involved. This shows responsibility for the family as well as representing both people on the same front to face any problems together. Besides, if one partner always relies on the other to contribute, they both become unequal in their family status and lose their right to be on an equal footing.
So, money worries should be shared between two people to find a way that is acceptable to everyone. For example, you can set a common fund, and one person can put up a portion of it that both can use.
Mistake #3: Big income differences and still AA
Suggestion: put in expenses proportionally
AA buys things and AA deposits the same deposit …… This AA seems fair. In fact, it is not fair. The difference between the two incomes is too great, the one with the higher income wants to buy an expensive thing, the other party is forced to have to AA, which is very difficult for him to bear, and there is bound to be resentment in his mind for a long time. In addition, the consumption concept is not consistent, is also one of the reasons for marital conflict. The best solution for couples with a huge income gap is to determine the percentage of daily expenses in proportion to their income, so that everyone can save some money, which is fair.
Mistake 4: Spending money and managing it, one person has the say
Advice: Control the big money and leave a small amount for him to use freely
In ancient times, the emperor grasped the military power, now the family grasps the financial power, it is a reason, grasping the core of the power has absolute control. The company’s main goal is to provide a strong and reliable service to its customers.
The advice to you is that it’s okay for one person to be in charge of the money, but you have to respect the other person’s freedom and respect the other person’s values, so don’t control too much, give him a little sweetness, let him have a little money to spend. This way, the man will not only feel dignified, but will also be grateful for this little sweetness, after all, any family-oriented man will not spend money indiscriminately.