Henry and Xiaojia have been in love for more than 2 years, the relationship has been good, a few months ago decided to get married, because the two just out of society not long, not too much money to buy a house, and Xiaoheng is a single-parent family, the father died very early, the mother alone hard work to raise him to adulthood, Xiaoheng does not want to mother in his marriage to live alone, it is proposed to marry the couple and live together with the mother. At first, the three of them got along quite well, but slowly, Xiaojia found that her mother-in-law was targeting herself everywhere, saying that she was bad here and there, and no matter how she changed, she always had a reason to teach her a lesson. However, when in front of her son, her mother-in-law would act as if she was very good to Xiaojia. Xiaojia reflected the situation to her husband Xiaoheng, hoping that he could help her talk to her mother-in-law, but Xiaoheng said, “I only have one mother, she worked hard to bring me up, we should respect her. And she’s also your mother-in-law, she’s our elder, just do me a favor and I’ll accommodate her.” After hearing this, Xiaojia was disappointed with her husband, but there was nothing she could do. As time passed, Xiaojia and her mother-in-law’s grievances grew deeper and deeper, and she couldn’t communicate with her husband, so she often quarreled over it. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been one of the most common and difficult problems in families since ancient times, and in some ways, it is often the main source of family conflicts.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often one of the most important issues in front of the parties involved in order to run a marriage well and make a family happy and harmonious.
Who is hurt by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law PK?
The two women, as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, were unrelated in previous decades and became a family only because they shared a love for a man, so the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not a relationship between two people, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but a triangle that is more complicated than a love triangle. In a love triangle, there is always one who is not loved and one who will eventually quit, so it is relatively much simpler. But in a mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, both women are loved, and neither woman can quit, and they should also live in harmony. But Chinese mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts have been thriving for thousands of years, and mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have almost become “natural enemies”, leaving the man who should have the love of both women caught in the middle, suffering from the pincushion. Many men do not know how to deal with this relationship, resulting in deeper and deeper conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the light is family discord, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law grievances, the heavy is the wife and daughter-in-law, the family is broken! In the end, it hurts all parties.
What should a man do in the face of his mother-in-law’s relationship?
Way 1: Don’t have the idea that there are no parents in the world
Many men seem to have this idea and like to hang this phrase on their lips to show their respect for their parents and “obedient filial piety”. Especially after the wife suffered the aggravation of the mother-in-law, the frequency of this phrase is the highest, knowing that the mother is at fault, but only dare to say to the wife: the world is not a parent, she is wrong again is also my mother, you will tolerate it more! The wives have nowhere to express their grievances, but to secretly shed tears. The women in this kind of family, because of the lack of protection from their husbands, the love for their husbands will gradually fade until they are disappointed in the marriage, some may flee the marriage, some may turn from tolerance to counterattack, and eventually let everyone in the relationship is scarred.
Way 2: Take the initiative to help your wife integrate into your own family instead of helping your family reject her
When a woman gets married and enters a completely new environment, she will inevitably feel overwhelmed and naturally develop a sense of defensiveness. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem, and to help the company to improve its performance. This will only make your wife more and more distant from your own family, and will eventually exclude her from the family.
Way 3: Give your wife the opportunity to be good and keep the opportunity to be evil for yourself
In life, everyone likes to be good and be appreciated by others. However, when dealing with relationships, especially mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, smart husbands give their wives the opportunity to be good, such as buying things to honor their parents, or things that will please them, one all let their wives step up and flash aside themselves. Even if you do it yourself, you will tell your parents that it is your wife’s intention. Most of the in-laws will feel that their daughters-in-law are sensible and there is no reason not to like them, but their love for you will not diminish one bit.
Method 4: If mom and wife complain about each other in front of you, please don’t be the messenger
Because mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are living in different environments in the first few decades, their respective habits, values, etc. may be different, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be dissatisfied with each other on these differences, but not all But not all mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law can be honest with each other and speak directly to each other about their grievances, only to vent to the man who has both the role of son and husband. The two men are extremely smart, not only can the two women’s dissatisfaction with each other disappear into thin air, but also will please each other for the two women, so that the two women can increase each other’s feelings and promote harmony between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
How can a daughter-in-law please her mother-in-law?
Way 1: Praise your mother-in-law more for her greatness and importance
Women love to hear others praise them. The woman’s mother-in-law’s position in the family is unique, and her dedication to the family is something that our young couple will always remember ……
Method 2: praise your husband’s goodness more in front of your mother-in-law
There is no mother who doesn’t want to hear others praise her son.
The first method is to praise your husband’s career achievements, his contribution to the family, and his filial piety to his parents, and never to boast about how he loves you.
Way 3: Don’t let your mother-in-law feel that you are here to steal his son from him
Superficially, you should be more warm to your mother-in-law, and let her feel that you care and respect her, and that your union with her son will not make him lose his son, but only one more person to take care of her together. Talking with your mother-in-law often not only communicates with each other’s emotions and feelings, but also allows you to learn about her inner movements. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Way 4: Don’t be overly affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law
Especially if you are a middle-aged widowed mother-in-law. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. So, smart daughter-in-law do not show off your love in front of your mother-in-law, which will only attract the mother-in-law’s jealousy. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Way 5: Take care of your husband in front of your mother-in-law
In a mother’s heart, after all, she still wants her son to be happy and wants him to marry a daughter-in-law who is not only filial to her in-laws, but also able to take care of her son and take care of their small home.
Way 6: No matter what, we must respect the premise
The elderly are old and inevitably paranoid about some things, so learn to be more understanding and sympathetic to them. The oldest children are the ones that like to be coaxed by the people she loves. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Way 7: Say more fleshy compliments to your mother-in-law
Don’t feel that compliments are fleshy, even if they are not out of true feelings, but to maintain your own happiness, say it to her and do it to her. The company has a common saying since ancient times: “A hundred years to cultivate the same boat to cross, a thousand years to cultivate a common sleep, ten thousand years to cultivate a good in-laws.” This graphically illustrates that a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to come by. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.