Men women have different attitudes when dealing with emotions due to different upbringing, mindset and hormonal production. The most important thing is to know what is in his heart? Not only do you have to understand the six “unspoken rules” of romance ……
NO.1 Boys don’t love, just understand; girls don’t understand, just love.
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To be clear, guys are meant to be understood, not loved. The first thing you need to do is to know how to give him face when his machismo kicks in; you can hold his hand when he is vulnerable. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services that are designed to meet the needs of the market. The first time I saw it, I had to go to the bathroom.
Boys are meant to be understood, not loved. If you love him too much, you’ll lose yourself, you’ll be centered on him, and you’ll be in danger. That’s right, you do not need to understand me, just love me. And I don’t need to love you, I just need to understand you, so we can get along and each take what we need.
NO.2 The function of this product for boys is to solve problems, not to listen.
You tell him about the trouble you had today, he listens carefully at first and tells you a solution, you go on and on, he looks less and less serious, so you are angry, how come you got a boyfriend who doesn’t care about you so much?
In fact, you’re wrong, guys and girls think fundamentally differently, when it comes to problems and stress, guys focus on solutions, girls focus on confiding in people, and his offering a solution is his way of showing love. The task is done, you continue to talk, he will feel that you are not satisfied with the solution he proposed, he did not help you, he began to doubt his ability, so began to be annoyed, on the other hand, you feel that he does not care about you, so you began to fight.
When you have a problem, ask the guy what to do, you need to listen to find the girl. Just like a vacuum cleaner, you can’t fish with it and getting the wrong product function is your problem.
NO.3 If he doesn’t seem to love you very much, he really doesn’t love you.
The biggest reason guys bully you is because he doesn’t like you at all. If he doesn’t seem too enthusiastic, it’s because he doesn’t love you.
The first time we went out to dinner, he offered AA; he said he’d be in touch instead of I’ll call you tonight; he said I’d ask you out later without giving a specific date; he said he didn’t want a girlfriend right now, but he was saying you weren’t the girlfriend he wanted; he said he was too busy to have a glass of juice, but he was saying you weren’t worth the time he took out for a glass of juice. accompanied. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
In short, he doesn’t like you that much.
NO.4 Don’t blame him for taking every game seriously.
Boys always put themselves in a competitive situation, typically driving. The one who honestly goes his own way on the road and never runs red lights must be a girl, and the one who overtakes at every opportunity must be a guy. Girls drive to get themselves safely to their destination, and boys drive to leave behind those cars that set out with them.
The same goes for playing computer games. The psychologists’ survey showed that the five things guys want from girls are, in order: 1. sex; 2. attractive appearance; 3. the feeling of being admired; 4. the ability to play together; and 5. help with their careers. If he likes a particular game and you don’t blame him for getting too into it, but try to act excited, he will include you in the category of being able to play together and feel better about you.
NO.5 guys who love you play silent in front of you, guys who don’t love you don’t even give you silence.
Girls feel that if he loves them, he should express and be passionate in minutes, and can’t figure out how he can say little and play silence when they are together.
There are two reasons why guys are silent when they are in love: 1. They are born that way, and when they are with you, they occasionally wander off, missing the solitude and calmness of not being in love, and he feels that the long hours of intimacy with you have made him unable to find himself, so he wants to be alone for a while. 2. He is in trouble, and there are things that need to be solved, and this is the time for him to lick his wounds and build up his strength to deal with the problem. When he finds a way, he will come out on his own.
Don’t bother him at this time, and don’t argue about whether you don’t love me anymore or not, just find something you like to do and do it.
Usually 20 minutes to an hour, he starts to miss the sweetness of you being by his side again and coming out of his own accord.
Boys don’t love you and will run away and not even give you the chance to face his silence.
NO.6 Never look for boys to negotiate, not two people love each other, you can talk about understanding.
When you want to know how two people who clearly love each other can talk it out, watch the movie “Gone Girl”. Look at some of the arguments between Hosea and Brad, and understand that you should never look for boys to negotiate. Boys and girls adopt the language of different planets, especially when two people are holding their breath, and they simply don’t understand.
You just said here I’m especially sad today, and he said is it my fault? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re doing. Gotta get …… more noise.
American psychologists say that boys and girls have six basic love needs, respectively. Boys need forms of love that include trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition, and encouragement; girls need forms of care, understanding, respect, loyalty, consideration, and comfort. When there is a disagreement, it is more effective than lip service to lean on his chest and say nothing.
He calms down and naturally understands your heart and takes the initiative to adjust the pace with you.