“There are so many lies in gender life, many women are insecure and like to get to the bottom of it, many men with the mentality of ‘more is better than less’ try to make it work, but even if it is a well-intentioned lie, it is no less destructive to the relationship than a real lie. ” Experts say an intimate attachment relationship must be based on honesty and trust, “It’s like banking, and trust overdraft will only lead to low personal credibility from here on out, and everything you say looks like a lie.”
Top List of Common Lies Men Tell
Men mostly lie to their wives. Of course, men don’t have a monopoly on this, saying, “You women tell big lies too, so you don’t have to make a fuss about it.” To give you a better understanding of men – the thinkers of many centuries – here is a list of the top 8 in the list of men’s lies, and the reasons why men lie, for true disclosure to you.
Lie #1: “Of course, honey, that dress looks great.”
Reason for lying: to avoid an argument
A man telling this “excusable, harmless little lie” can sometimes be a reluctance to hurt your ego, like when he says, “Of course You don’t look fat in this dress.” Sometimes it’s also to make their own lives easier and not get themselves into trouble.
Lie #2: “I can fix it.”
Reason for lying: to maintain self-confidence
Whether it’s the drain in the house, the washing machine, the refrigerator, or the stereo, there are always those guys who feel their must be proficient and all-knowing in everything. If a man can’t fix his tools, he must lie and say it’s completely broken and simply can’t be fixed anymore. Because if he admits failure and leaves it up to his partner to fix it, he will feel less like a man and never be able to hold his head up again.
Lie #3: “It’s fine.”
Reason for lying: Wanting to be alone and lick the wounds in silence
Sadness, frustration, disillusionment, men feel it too. For women, they can cry and talk to their beloved ones. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. This is why when a woman wants to share the worries of her beloved, the man immediately retreats into his shell. Be sure to remember that for men, it is honorable to bleed and sacred to refuse to use a Band-Aid.
Lie #4: “I called you.”
Reason for lying: self-defense
They often lament: Since we’ve given up the endlessly desirable, wonderfully enticing single life for you women, it’s just confusing how you can be so disappointed in us! When you forgive your partner more because he forgot to call you, or he was late for an appointment, or failed to get you cold medicine before the pharmacy closed, please forgive him more. You are always complaining about some unworthy faults, then he only has to cope with it by telling small lies.
Lie #5: “If you don’t want to have sex, I don’t either.”
Reason for lying: to avoid looking like a pervert
Women like to have sex too – but with someone they like, and with the right mood, the right light, the right music, and even in the right lingerie. But men’s sex is not so wordy. As long as there are no physical problems or moral constraints, men can enjoy the pleasure of sex anytime, anywhere. When you say you are not in the mood or physically uncomfortable, we can only hide our inner disappointment, lest you see us as animals who only know how to chase sex and do not know how to be tender and romantic.
Lie #6: “Baby, I’m the best.”
Reason for lying: to make you feel like you married something worthwhile
Men often overstate things a bit when describing how brave and strong they are, their adventures, or their pivotal position in the workplace. The only reason they do this is so you don’t forget that you’re kind of married to the right guy. More importantly, men whitewash their resumes to remind themselves of their dubious machismo at every turn. Men can’t stand to be at the level of conformism – working a conformist job and getting paid a conformist salary. Especially when they still see those imposing men on TV commercials every day. Talking big just to make yourself feel better. If he tells you “I forced them to fire me,” you don’t have to take it seriously.
Lie #7: “My past girlfriends? That’s all there is to it.”
Reason for lying: self-preservation
Does the wife have a right to know the truth about our past girlfriends? How good was she? How beautiful was she? When men who have a strong sense of privacy are confronted with such questions, their perfunctory approach is predictable. Men understand the importance of honesty, too, but we’re talking about the big picture. There are some questions we don’t want to answer, and we would feel stripped naked if we didn’t have any privacy after we got married. And the past is the safest place for us to be emotionally private.
Lie #8: “I would never lie to you.”
Reason to lie: So you can be happy later
This is the romantic thing a man says to put a woman’s doubts to rest, because sometimes all a woman really wants is Hollywood movie-like dialogue. But even if he wants to do it – and when we say it, we usually do – he wants to do it. Can he really do it? Does he ever lie, evade, or brag? Will he keep his promises about important things? It depends on the kind of person he is and how strong your marriage is. It may take a lifetime to find out. But one thing is for sure, he wants a Hollywood movie-style happy, perfect ending. What about you?
The truth is, honest men lie, too. But most men lie out of desperation, and many of them are of the beautiful, well-meaning variety. In the heavy pressure, people sometimes have to tell helpless lies. Behind the lie is the unbearable burden of men. In this case, fellow women should be able to be magnanimous and follow the lead, and take the initiative to share the worries …… in the age of inescapable lies, let us be kind to such lies.