Men are indeed very complex and changeable “animals” that spend their lives running around. The man is constantly creating thoughts in his mind in order to reflect his value. The secret is the nanny of the man’s growth, but also nourish the nutrients of the man’s soul. Men without the secret heart will be very empty, there will be a sense of depletion. Men cannot live without secrecy. And these secrets are the subtle rules of men’s world for men’s gangs.
Rule 1 horizontal and vertical non-commitment
Scenario:
Anran and Lao Mai have been in love for two years and thought they were ripe to consider marriage. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Lao Mai said it from the bottom of his heart at a buddy’s party: “Marriage, it’s a scary thing. The idea of having to take on so much in the future makes me shudder. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product.
Old Mac’s hesitancy and his fear of giving in to life led to the constant instability of Anran’s love for him.
The day he left for England to study, leaving Anran alone and sad.
Analysis: Men often don’t commit easily in order to not take responsibility. The man does not want too much trouble, he will try to please you to win your goodwill, but he will never spit out promises, always leave themselves a way out.
Response: When you see the first signs of irresponsibility, you have to stop your romantic thoughts immediately. You can be friends with him, but you should never have any illusions about him.
A person who really wants to have a home with you will take you to his home, meet his parents and friends, and discuss your future dreams and path with you, not just blink and fudge.
Rule 2 play “evaporate” from time to time
Scenario:
The wheat felt that Zou Shi is strange, he did not reject her good feelings, always meet her very good, seemingly intimate, but they meet less and less, meet the The time they met was getting shorter and shorter.
He would also come to a complete disappearance every now and then, not answering phone calls or text messages, and when she got anxious, he suddenly appeared with a smile on his face, as if he had forgotten about the disappearance.
This is what Zou Shi said: “I’m actually not as nice to her as I used to be, but she still buys me little gifts and always calls me. I’m really annoyed that she keeps on loving me the way she thinks, and I won’t quite break her heart because I’m used to behaving like a gentleman in front of girls, and the dashing sass is not just for her alone.”
Analysis: Men are sometimes willing to be this way with women if they are not: he conquers you with attentiveness and dash, so that you can’t forget his energy and sass, and you can’t help thinking about him, but he has time to not contact you as if he has evaporated.
When he shows up again, he’s still as funny and sweet as ever. Even though you’ve heard that he has a bad reputation, you can’t help but trust him.
He responds to whatever you say in a way that makes your heart sing and makes you feel really happy to be with him.
The first time I saw a woman, I was able to get a good look at her.
He is always unique and full of wonder in your relationship world.
I think it’s a good idea to have a good time.
Because it’s easy for men to play both sides of the fence.
Countermeasure: Men are finally showing their true colors, and sometimes they are just playing relationship games. So you should never take it seriously. You have to learn to hide your desires and emotions and keep your mystery, which will make you more attractive. The more desperate the other person is, the more lighthearted you have to be. Instead of holding on to yourself, let him be anxious.
Rule 3 comes last
Scenario:
Zihao is a master of love, and he quickly loses interest in girls who rush to express their love to him, and another female painter, Xin’er, who never shows half of her emotions even though she knows she loves Zihao.
She always remained as if she were with him, not expressing her feelings in front of him. He told his buddies that he might really be in love with Xin’er. Such a girl haunted him, and he didn’t know what was wrong with him.
Analysis: Remember, always play your cards last between the two of you. Never be in a hurry to show your cards first so you can easily take the initiative without getting hurt. When a man doesn’t know how you really think, the more he pines for you. You then always give him a reason to seek you out.
As long as you leave the thought of him wanting to see you open, you always have a chance to win. If you tell him honestly at the end of the first date: I like you a lot, you start to lose.
Even if he tells you the same thing, all you have to do is smile and you’ve already won on the details.
In fact, he’s not interested in your confession, he’s interested in why you’re always half a beat behind him, why you’re always nice to him when you see him and seem to forget about him when you don’t.
Countermeasure: Don’t care too much about him and don’t rush to confess. Live your own life, have your own friends, your own hobbies, he is just a small part of your life, not the most important, maybe in such a game, you can really win it.
Rule 4 Don’t rush to call back
Scenario:
You meet, he’s all over you, you give him your card, and you’re almost certain he’ll send a big bouquet of roses to your office tomorrow. The 28-year-old reveals that “every man has a certain rhythm when it comes to returning phone calls, which means he makes her wait.
He said, “Generally speaking, if I have an idea for a girl, I’d like to call sooner, but when I realize that if I rush, she might think I’m rash or that I’m madly in love with her, so I’d better be careful for a few days.
Analysis: There’s a “call back in three days” rule in the movie “Dude” that guys are so fond of, but it’s not ironclad – it’s too easy if that’s the case.
According to our research, there’s no 10,000 spirit time limit, and the core rule is: don’t call back as long as you can carry on.
Men also sometimes put off calling simply out of laziness; they don’t have the same sense of urgency to make plans as women do, or don’t see getting your phone number as too important. A man asking for your contact information only shows that he might, not definitely, call you.
Countermeasure: Or get out of the house, or call a friend, or rent some movies to watch, in short, do something to enrich yourself and don’t stay on a phone that never rings. Remember, unless you’re a masochist, don’t torture yourself with waiting for the phone.
Rule 5 Softness Vertigo
Scenario:
“We all know that women like compliments and romance,” says Zhao, who has studied women, “and men sometimes don’t want to show their softness
“We all know women like compliments and romance,” says Zhao, who has studied women quite a bit. But we know full well that our tenderness is not thrown away for nothing, and the rewards are always plentiful.”
“I will say nice things at the right time to make her feel satisfied and secure. These unrelated flattering words or a few romantic gestures received incredible results.”
Analysis: It’s no secret that women expect men to wield their tenderness from time to time. How can you not be impressed when a man tells you that your eyes are as bright as the stars and your teeth are as white as pearls?
Unfortunately, however, our research shows that men always make up sweet words to cater to women in order to get their way.
Countermeasure: Try to distinguish the real from the fake and keep your head on straight.
If you’re looking for a way to get the most out of your life, you’ll be able to get the most out of it.
Rule 6 Cold-treatment Subsurgery
Scenario:
Maybe your relationship wasn’t perfect at first, but you thought there was at least the possibility of it going forward. But he hasn’t called for a whole week, and it finally dawns on you: you’ve been dumped. He used a dishonorable, if somewhat cowardly, abandonment tactic: hang the other person out to dry and let her come to her own senses.
Analysis: Why do men choose this type of breakup? One is because it’s an easy way to get away. Breaking up in person or over the phone is undoubtedly a pain.
Who wants to fight? Most men don’t want to get into an emotional confrontation with a woman.
For men, breakups are a million unanswerable “whys” and tons of tears from women. They’re so overwhelmed by it that they think it’s better for both sides to avoid fighting.
There are also practical reasons why men don’t want to break up with women straight away. They leave themselves open to coming back into your life when he’s lonely.
A man knows that as long as the interval isn’t too long, all he has to do is apologize for not calling, lie about his recent whereabouts in some beautiful panic, and then invite her back out for fun, then in the blink of an eye, she’s back in his arms.
Countermeasure: After you get the hint of a breakup, respect yourself and be determined not to fall in love with such a man again. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.