If relationships are a game, there must be more women suffering for love than men in this world. So women need to know how to make men irresistible and elusive, and how to be an equal opponent with men in the competition for love.
Attachment but not dependence, self but not selfishness. The woman should care about whether she gives and gets in proportion, and learn to take the right amount of time in the warp of love.
Know how to set goals
Women who only have a passable face, because society does give them too many first chances, cause them to dream too high. However many end up being met with infinite blows. The more women who have the ability to know the rules of the game, the less likely they are to think too highly of themselves and demand nothing from their male partners.
If a woman sets her goals high and basically has to give far more than she gets, then lower it so that it fits the reality of the situation. Of course if one is very strong, one doesn’t set any standards for oneself, so of course one doesn’t have to lower it.
To judge men soberly
Men are certainly not perfect, and there are manly infirmities. Know what is common in men and what can be forgiven. Which ones can’t be forgiven.
A man who beats a woman can’t be forgiven, a man who occasionally gets drunk can be forgiven; a man who eats soft food can’t be forgiven, a man who has a hard time but has a strong career can be forgiven; a man who is a gambler and a prostitute can’t be forgiven, a man whose eyes glance at a beautiful woman can be forgiven. No filial piety and no virtue can not be forgiven, occasionally do a bad thing to repent can be forgiven. Waste can not be forgiven, the prodigal son can be forgiven. Bad quality can not be forgiven, just a little lust can be forgiven. The man who has no sense of responsibility can be forgiven for telling a lie in good faith, and who can not tell a lie once?
Be quick to take the initiative
This society needs opportunities everywhere. Pay attention to creating opportunities for him to find out how good you are, don’t be too revealing, this time you must respect yourself so that the effect is good, that is, bring enough backbone and let him fall into your gentle trap.
Get good at taking all sorts of approaches (except getting laid) to catch him, never just wait for him to chase you.
Be comfortable in and out
Men are like plants, too much water can kill them. So women shouldn’t give men too much of a fixation too soon, and don’t give up the chance to hang out with a female partner or practice yoga for an uncertain date. She is very self-conscious and will not give up her hobbies just to please her boyfriend. With him, she only does what she likes.
She never pries into his privacy, and even when her boyfriend takes the initiative to mention past girlfriends, she interrupts him promptly: “Honey, I’m not one of those people you mentioned. Please don’t tell me about other women.” She always laughs off his bragging about his flings, believing that when a woman is jealous with another woman, that’s demeaning and that only adds to a man’s smugness. She told him easily, “If you were the kind of man that any woman could steal from me, I wouldn’t care about that kind of man at all.” A take-it-or-leave-it stance.