A woman’s worst enemy is still a woman, no matter how smart and capable you are, once you meet someone called your mother-in-law, you have to lose a lot of your temper.
You have to take possession of the son she worked so hard to bring up in October, and it’s hard to justify it. What about the son?
They are not only a good idea, they are also a good idea.
So, if you want to get into the family, you will have to be submissive and try to please your future mother-in-law, and are you sure you can win her over?
They are not only the best way to get the most out of the world, but they are also the best way to get the most out of the world.
According to the experience of those who have been there, there are 2 secrets that you have to keep in mind in order to get through this Woodman’s Alley: one is to show that you will take good care of her precious son, and the other is to make sure that her role as the Queen Mother will last forever and no one can replace her.
After closing the door to your room, you can order your man to kneel down and be Li Lianying, and no one will care, but in front of your future mother-in-law, you have to do a good job to ensure peace and prosperity.
What strategy should be adopted to take care of the line from the hands of the mother of mercy, it depends on what role you meet the future mother-in-law, to see each other’s weaknesses, see the trick, or else, regardless of the three or seven, a water sleeve dance, but will trip over themselves, hastily defeated.
The following is a list of the 5 major factions of your future mother-in-law, and to come up with tricks for you to crack, so that you can get through and get a lover.
(a) Loving faction
She is a loving mother, and her love is as vast as the sea, therefore, one mistake will drown in it. She calls her son every day to remind him to come home for dinner; her son’s little finger, slightly scraped, she calls back to heaven and earth.
Your presence immediately threatens her position as master, and at the first sign of trouble, she suspects that you are intent on usurping the throne and putting her out in the cold, so she is wary of you at every turn.
When faced with an overwhelmingly loving future mother-in-law, it’s a good idea to play the pig to eat the tiger.
They are often reassured that they are “needed”.
So, you have to gather all your unintentional energy, suppress your true energy, play helpless and pathetic, let her take care of you, let her continue to show her motherly love and make her feel very important, and then you will be able to have a calm life for the rest of your life.
Mei, 23: “Because she dotes on her son so much, she was hostile to me at first, but since I told her about some of my troubles, like some unexplainable stomach pains that even the doctors couldn’t do anything about, plus my blood pressure was bottoming out, it wasn’t long before she was busy introducing earthy remedies and the occasional stew for me to tune up.” May’s “helplessness” makes the future mother-in-law feel that the world is still her, self-esteem was massaged to iron, on the other hand, since her daughter-in-law is so unhelpful, which has the ability to snatch the baby from her palm? In the end, of course, you will be seen as one of our own, love the house and the crow.
However, don’t forget to wear your horse’s ass a thousand times over. It’s always a good idea to show appreciation for your future mother-in-law’s loving charity, and it’s best to buy the occasional small gift or snack to make her happy.
(2) Queen Cixi School
She is the critical and indifferent Queen Cixi, even if you are proficient in all the 18 martial arts, talented and virtuous, you still can’t reach her level in front of her, so prepare to jump into the well.
No matter what, the ugly daughter-in-law has to meet her mother-in-law after all. First of all, it is better to dress conservatively because she will definitely pick the bones in the eggs, dress in plain colors and choose simple jewelry to match, so as to minimize the “bones” to be picked.
However, there is no need to be overly accommodating, lest she think you are shabby, or that you can please the woman with the nostrils, there is no need to dress up as a crystal light, and there is no need to go against your own principles and nature.
No one is good enough in her eyes anyway, and no matter how hard you try, she will always have something to say about it, so there is no need to waste your efforts and meet all her standards.
The best way to do that is to focus on what you’re good at, to impress her, and to show her that you’re not a tail-wagger.
Ying’s (26, accountant) strategy is to emphasize our common interests: “We both like art, and whenever I know I’m going to meet her at an art show, I do my homework beforehand and put on a good show.
Once we talk about houses or clothing tastes, I try to change the subject because, in that respect, we see things in the opposite direction.” By focusing on what we agree on and avoiding topics where we disagree, we can reduce the risk of “offending” her values.
This way, she is more comfortable that the ideas she has worked so hard to instill in her son will not be washed away overnight by her daughter-in-law.
(3) The housewife faction
She is the most typical housewife who spends her life circling around her children and can hardly wait until her daughter grows up, but by this time she is also out of touch with society and can’t get out of the kitchen and garden.
It seems easy to deal with such a kind housewife, to smile at her often, to say thank you, and not to give away that you’ve been in her son’s bed for a long time, and to make a safe transition.
In fact, it’s not that simple. For a woman who has spent most of her life in the kitchen and whose entire spirit is pinned on her children, the emptiness she feels in the face of her son’s impending independence from her is unspeakable, and very sensitive and fragile, which can upset her if she’s not careful.
She worries that her “ignorance” will alienate her from you and even deceive her, so you have to take away her anxiety and tell her often, or show her, what you have done and what you have planned, so that she feels present.
Jen (27)’s boyfriend is careless, so since he brought her home to meet her parents, she has reached out to them often. “I call and talk to his mother from time to time, and occasionally I buy gardening books and give them to her to read, and now she likes talking to me more than her son.”
(4) The flirtatious and open-minded
She is the flirtatious mother who is cheeky when you meet her and talks about the courageous things she did back in the day when she was off the beaten track and is so open that even you would sigh at yourself.
She’s more like your wild and wild dorm roommate than like a future mother-in-law, and it’s sometimes tricky to play against such an unorthodox opponent.
“His mom was a hippie, and now she’s living with her painter boyfriend.” Jenner, 29, said, “At first, it was overwhelming, and all the tricks to please my future mother-in-law, like giving tasteful gifts and acting mature and dignified, didn’t work.”
When you get the message that the usual tricks don’t work, it’s best to stay the course so your future mother-in-law doesn’t think you look down on her lifestyle.
The good thing about meeting such an open-minded future mother-in-law is that you don’t have to be too uptight and worry too much about whether your every move is up to her standards.
However, don’t be gullible, because although she pretends to be lively and cute, she is not your girlfriend after all, and even the most anti-traditional mother has a strong protective mind over her children.
So you still have to be considerate of her son; that is, even if you and she are as close as sisters, you better not criticize her son in front of her, and don’t lift up the scars of the past.
And don’t discuss his future in a serious way, because this kind of mother wants her son to be free and she will be disgusted with you once she thinks you are trying to fix him.
(5) The Thousand-Handed Goddess
She’s the Thousand-Handed Goddess, balancing career and family, and probably a stalwart of the feminist movement, doing justice for women in distress while writing books and taking time to learn how to make Japanese sushi, the model woman of the modern metropolis.
So, her future daughter-in-law will be demanding, even if you’re not a career-minded person, and when you meet her, it’s a good idea to belly up and think about how you’re going to talk about your ideals.
If you’re not a career-minded person, it’s best to think about how to talk about your aspirations; especially if you’ve already made up your mind to live on a long-term meal ticket, in case she knows you have such plans, she’ll definitely look down on you.
Since she’s a woman trying to move up the ladder, it’s best to treat her as if you were meeting your boss, with discipline and no condescension.
“Because his mother is a strong woman, when I meet her, I look at her with both eyes, my answers are direct and affirmative, I try to show interest in her work, and discuss my career with her.” Ask questions that will please her, such as how to allocate her time, and she will definitely feel that you appreciate her abilities. If she is the kind of person who likes to mentor her subordinates, then try to pitch in and let her excel at you as well. Ah, and don’t forget to praise her for her housekeeping skills.
Finally, no matter how capable a woman is, she’ll still have a little doubt about whether she’s a good mother, so in addition to showing that you’ll be a role model for her also make her feel like a great mom.