With men wanting to get it done all at once, technology has evolved and we deserve more time to fall in love, but the truth is that urban men and women are not only working longer hours, but the distance between their homes and workplaces is getting farther and farther apart. One check even thought that they had just 22.3 minutes a day to do whatever they wanted to do.
Women need 21.2 minutes to decide what to wear; men need 18.7 minutes to fix their hair and shave. The real free time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes, respectively. Of course these statements are exaggerated, but you have to admit, dating is a time-consuming affair.
To improve their hit rate, 57% of men met their significant other through a friend, 31% met at a bar or party, and 12% chose to date a workmate. Once a man wants to approach a woman, most of them will take the initiative to invite each other. It’s not a difficult step to take, and as long as you’re not shy or have high self-esteem, you should be able to make it happen in a relaxed state of mind.
72% of men set their first date at a restaurant followed by a movie; 27% are hiking or playing sports, and the remaining 1% will think of something unexpected.
For men, the first date is very important, and there are few men who have a one-and-done mentality. The first time you are in the market, you will be able to get your hands on a new woman. Thinking that men are all cowhide, have indomitable faith, it is very wrong. Not every man has strong nerves to stand up to the “brutality”, they are also afraid of being frustrated, worried about being rejected mercilessly and easily trapped in a conditioned reflex to protect themselves.
If the first date goes well, the man will think that the rest of the relationship is likely to grow well. In contrast, if a woman is not moved on the first date, he then disappears and is never heard from again. Because of the habitual assumption that there is no second chance, men tend to be thoughtful on the first date.
So if the woman accepts the man’s sincerity, she should hint accordingly. If you are paralyzed or hesitant to send the message “I think you’re good too” to the other side of the net in time, and don’t create conditions for men to act, perhaps the relationship will not progress in the end. The two relationships will not progress in the end. The most important thing is that there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at reaching out to women, and these men often look to women to take the initiative.
At a certain point in dating, men will first consider taking the relationship further. It is said that men are lower body animals, and some even say that they are always thinking about the timing of a kiss when they are dating. 58% of men thought that if we really hit it off, having intimate contact on the first date wouldn’t cut into my love for her, 21% thought 3 dates would be better, 21% more than 6 dates. In general, when they have some kind of intimate intentions, they want to know what the other person thinks first, and they also try to try to convey their good feeling network to the other person.
The first requirement for intimacy is to have a good feeling about each other. The first thing you need to do is to be able to get a woman to slap you in the face or pour wine on your face in front of a large crowd. The men are sensitive and calculating foxes when it comes to finding out what women want.
It’s common to pretend to touch a woman’s hand unintentionally while watching a movie, or to check her reaction with a slight physical contact such as a knee near her knee.
At the bar, sitting side-by-side facing the bar has the same effect, sensing her attitude through seemingly incidental shoulder-to-shoulder contact with each other. If the woman immediately pulls her hand or knee back, it’s safe to assume she has no desire to go deeper, at least not yet. On the contrary, if she does not avoid it, it means that there is a game. After confirming that, how do you carry out the action?
Lengthening the date is the first priority, proposing a post-dinner dessert, a walk together, or a ride home. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. The actual fact is that you will be able to receive a kiss, and you will be able to end up with a body? For several nights before the date, they were already simulating the course of action from that night’s date to the ultimate closing, asking for advice from their close friends, posting online, and nudging when and where to kiss.
During the date, they rack their brains for the next step in their behavioral progression, so they tend to speak distractedly and chew on edibles in their mouths without knowing what they’re doing. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The “train man” story, which is very popular in Japan, is about an ordinary man in the largest BBS in Japan, seeking advice on how to pursue women met on the Shinkansen, mobilized tens of thousands of Internet users for their advice, and then this real-life event was adapted into books, movies, TV shows, plays, which can be seen for It is not easy for men to invite women and can be a very common topic among men.
Men have been simulating date scenarios in their heads countless times:
what to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what to talk about during the meal, and then how to take the next step, and so on and so forth, revising their plans and constantly envisioning whether they will be successful, often resulting in more nervousness. No matter how much mental preparation is done, and no matter how much mock rehearsal is done, the actual date may not turn out the way they want it to.
For men and women who are attracted to each other but are in a phase of feeling each other out, the timing and mindset of each other is a rather delicate matter, and often the big moment is missed because of a misinterpretation of a facial gesture. Even if the woman is interested, once the opportunity is missed, it is not easy to succeed. If a woman says she declines a kiss or intimate gesture, what will the man do in response? Unfortunately, almost all men will not ask for it again, but simply give up.
Of course, there are some persistent men who won’t give up and try to get the other man and wait for a chance to make a comeback. But more often than not, men are exhausted from the mental preoccupation, and their self-esteem has been shattered by the rejection, and they prefer to give up in order not to be hurt any more.
So when you also have the desire to spend time with him, to kiss or have intimate contact, even if you are not fully prepared for the moment, you should try to make it clear to avoid misunderstandings. It’s a pity to miss a chance because you don’t understand the other person’s intention and lose the chance, or to give up the relationship because you think the other person is not sincere, or to make sure that your self-esteem is not hurt and you are worried about failure, and you haven’t understood the other person’s intention yet. If you show yourself a little, everything will be as you wish. Unfortunately, some men and women who have good feelings for each other end up losing everything.