“You really love me, don’t you, or you wouldn’t have waited 40 minutes for me.”
“Then you must really hate me, or you wouldn’t have made me wait 40 minutes.”
This is a dialogue from the Korean movie “Madeleine Cake”. A quiet city morning, a late first date, and the love between two people begins. However, Korean romance movies have a filter device that can filter out the dregs of real life and only show the audience some beautiful and pure stories. But in real life, two people who don’t know each other well on a first date, what kind of impact does it have if you’re 40 minutes late?
Date time control
Imagine a job search where the candidate is 40 minutes late for the interview. What happens when a candidate is 40 minutes late for an interview? Even if a date is not as demanding as an interview, being too late for a date can leave a bad impression on the other party. As a lady, it’s okay to be on time or a few minutes late, but it’s a little too rude to be too late. If you’re not in control of your time, you can arrive early and walk around to familiarize yourself with the date and ease your nerves.
If you do encounter an unexpected situation, the first thing you should do is call the person to clear things up and apologize, rather than making the man wait and explain to him when you meet.
The precepts of meeting and greeting
The most taboo thing about dating is The “cold spot” – where neither person knows what to say or do, and the situation becomes tense at the start, making it difficult to continue with whatever is said next.
If the other person doesn’t know what to say, you don’t have to go straight to the point, but rather use a more relaxed topic to guide them to talk to you, such as “I’ve been here before with friends, how did you choose to come here? ” “When I came here, there were many people on the bus, how about you, how did you get here?” And so on. After each sentence, leave a small question to give the other person a chance to answer and give him something to say.
The Art of the First Conversation
Perhaps, you’ve never had a conversation as intimate as this one You’ll be timid, or you’ll be loquacious, but either way, you’ll have to get the measure right and work your conversational charm within reason.
In the first conversation, you must get the ratio of the conversation right, so you don’t ask questions and say nothing the rest of the time, and you don’t treat the whole conversation like your own lecture. The first time you are in the middle of a conversation, you should be able to offer some of your own opinions; don’t just interrupt when the other person is talking, and know how to listen carefully to make the conversation go smoothly.
At first, you may not be sure what topic the other person is interested in, so you may want to try to expand on it some, and always watch his eyes, his movements, to see if he really wants to get into the conversation. If the other person’s eyes dart around and turn his face sideways, then it’s likely that the topic is boring, and it’s time for you to consider changing the subject.
Again, when two people talk on a date, it’s based on equality and interaction. Therefore, you should not pretend to pretend that you are not interested in everything around you, and do not think that you have a great understanding of what is right and wrong in the red world, not to mention a high and mighty stance, teaching men the truth about love and being a man. Men are not very fond of narcissistic women, although they are sometimes of this same virtue.
Then again, while the conversation between the two is equal and interactive, too much heated arguing is not advisable. If he is an insistent and unusually obstinate person, you can ignore and reply to his radical views, and after a while, he will naturally not continue. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Also, during the conversation on the first date, you should not expect to be able to ask the man about his marriage history, family situation, property status, and other more private issues. What you have to do is slowly penetrate and gradually understand. After all, you are not talking about a “fast-food love” – today after tomorrow’s relationship and the day after the wedding. The fact that you are asking him this is too reckless and makes the man feel very insecure.
If you don’t want the conversation to be superficial and you want to get to know each other better, you need to be opportunistic and cut to the chase at the right time. For example, when talking about coffee, if you go on to talk about more drinks, tea or coke, the conversation is meaningless; but if you go on to ask him if he also drinks coffee regularly, what he likes about coffee, what he likes to drink, you can get more “about him” through the conversation.