Women have an illusion about men that they are unpleasant to be around. From a woman’s perspective, it seems like men expect women to do everything.
He expects her to be quiet, but funny; to be gentle and sweet, but manly and competent; to take care of the house and kids, but also to be able to go out and make money. Women can list a list of unequal treatment, and they don’t feel they can do every requirement a man has.
Women want men to play four different roles – hero, friend, playmate, and lover. Men, too, want women to play six different roles: lover, cheerleader, mother, friend, lion tamer, and capable adult, but men’s needs vary from person to person, so let’s take a closer look at those six roles.
1. Lover
The man is sexually active, and to satisfy his physical He wants to have a hot lover who is only willing to make out with him. A man may fantasize about having sex with different women, but most men know it’s impractical, but he wants a woman to be wild and creative to make up for that lack.
2. Cheerleaders
When men are striving for personal achievement and value need encouragement from someone to keep them moving forward. Because men are less able to build intimate relationships, it is important to know that someone will have their back when they hit a roadblock.
3. Mother
A man wants someone to take care of him, someone who loves him and take care of him instead of his mother (although now that he is a grown man, he should not act like a little boy anymore).
He wants a mommy to take care of him when he’s sick, someone to help him find his keys, and (though he never says so) help him heal the trauma of male domestication.
4. A buddy
A man wants a buddy to share the the burdens of daily life, a close friend who can help him deal with problems, make decisions, and face daily challenges, and a buddy with whom he can share common likes and dislikes.
5. The tamer
Men look to women to play their interpersonal bridges that allow unruly men to interact with other people. The woman is the connector of relationships, the bridge to other couples, she is responsible for inviting, providing entertainment, and building relationships. Some men also need women to teach them social etiquette, to help them dress and decorate their homes, to make the house feel like home. Men are often torn between intimacy and detachment, and they know they should not be tied down because being domesticated means losing the ability to fight.
But men know they must harness this wildness and channel it into the right path, and their desire is stronger than engaging in denial, which is why many men rush to marry or remarry; they don’t want to be alone in a cold cave.
6. A capable adult
A man also wants someone he respects, relies on, and appreciates. The man also wants someone he respects, relies on and appreciates. Whether she is a housewife or a professional woman, she should always be competent, smart and efficient, and he wants to be proud of her. He may be proud of her knitting, cooking, degree, career achievements or ability to raise children because it makes him feel smug, proud of her and dependent on her. Having a smart, capable woman will make it much easier for him because she can share the responsibilities of life with him.