I once received a ludicrous private message.
A woman asked me, “Mr. Park, my husband is too flamboyant and I can’t stand it anymore and I want to cure him of this problem for good. Can you tell me if there is a way that is possible to cut off a piece of him in that area, but not so much as to disable him?”
I could only reply, “I have not yet heard of such a method, but I understand that it is possible to break the law by hurting someone’s body.”
Her response was both angry and desperate: “I know it’s against the law, too! But won’t anyone be able to cure him?!”
There is no man in the world who is not lustful, and even Confucius said, “I have never seen a man as good at virtue as he is at lust.
Because this instinct of men to be philandering is written into the DNA of men from the beginning of the creation of the world by Pan Gu and God to ensure the reproduction of race and life.
However, there is a difference between the consciousness of “philandering” and “lust” and the actual action of being unfaithful to love and hunting for sex. There is still a difference. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who like to look at beautiful women, but not every one of them wants to become Chen Guanxi. The actual fact is that the actual action is not the same as the actual action.
A man’s animal nature is more than a woman’s, but he is not a beast after all. A normal man, in addition to being able to discipline himself with his own moral rules, has a loyal sense of mission and value for his family and loved ones.
And I think that men who can’t control their lower bodies even after marriage, who cheat around, or who change sexual partners frequently are strictly speaking counseling for serious psychological problems.
If you meet a man who is a “widower with a disease”, what should you do to cure him?
Some people say that with a philandering man, you have to keep an eye on his wallet, and a man without money loses his financial base to go out and spend. Sign a prenuptial agreement, if he cheats on his philandering, give the house and car to the woman and net out the family.
Some people say that you have to trust a man who is a womanizer and say to him, “I know you’re not that kind of womanizer,” and then never ask him where he goes. This is the power of waking up and looking to the man’s conscience.
It has been said that the key to keeping a man from being a woman is to raise the value of your own partner, to make it a huge loss for him to lose you, and to curb his behavior as the cost of being a woman increases.
Of course, there is the fantasy of curing the terminal disease of “philandering” by giving a man some kind of injection or surgery to reduce his male impulses.
But these methods have never been truly successful. This lack of psychological adjustment mechanism of the philandering man, whether you look at it or not, regardless of your beauty as which Bing Bing, regardless of his own money or not, even if he only has one testicle left, as long as there is an opportunity, will go to cheat.
So women feel desperate, so desperate that they can’t wait to cut men off to the ground for good.
But changing such a philandering man is simply an enduring pseudo-proposition. The first question is, why are you so interested in a woman’s heart when there are so many men in the world? Why are you particularly interested in philandering men?
Second, why do you suffer from not being able to change a philandering man when you know he is unchangeable?
Why are women so interested in philandering men? For example, rich, such as handsome, such as bed kung fu is particularly good, such as special talent. In short, whether it is spiritual, material or physical, he can make women get greater satisfaction.
Like George Clooney, he is a famous Hollywood womanizer, openly unmarried, and has been around countless women over the years, yet beautiful women are still attracted to him. He is like a Hermes handbag, a women’s item that women are eager to own. He satisfied all the women’s vanity, the brand name, the sports car, the celebrity pair, and gave women a nebulous dream: maybe he would change for me, I would be his “last one”.
That’s why it’s not terrible to fall in love with a philandering man, women are not stupid and won’t find pain for themselves for nothing. Just like the lady who sent me a private message at the beginning of the search, she said her husband was rich and playful, so women always jumped on his body. So, in fact, what she couldn’t accept the most was that she was also just one of those women who jumped on him, the luckiest one, but not necessarily the best one.
So, do you see what I mean?
The pain of falling in love with a philandering man is a woman’s own choice. And by coveting the exclusive superiority of the philandering man while imagining that you can be the philandering man’s end, you magnify that pain tenfold.
The old saying, “Eat the salted fish to satisfy your thirst,” is absolutely true.
If you insist on choosing a womanizer, don’t complain, don’t ask me how you can change him, and don’t turn yourself into a resentful woman. You can max out his credit cards, mortgage his house, sell his full set of Transformers, trade those in for high heels, and tell him, “It’s a woman’s nature to shop.”
Or do you take him to a therapist and use hypnosis or sandboxing to see what deep wounds he has inside, what desires he can’t fill that make him have to justify his existence by constantly chasing women? Examples of this are the famous photographer Chen Guanxi, whose sexual addiction was likely caused by unfathomable family trauma, and tabloid rumors that his father’s sexual orientation was a mystery.