To detect health problems early, people have regular medical checkups. The same goes for marriage, which also has a “subhealth” period. It’s a good idea to give your marriage a checkup to identify problems in time so that it can move in a more positive and healthy direction.
Checkup Stage 1: Romantic Passion.
Generally 1-2 years after marriage, if problems arise at this time and are not adjusted in time, it is easy to create an unbalanced situation in the marriage later.
Key medical checkups: basic values, attitude toward people.
Suggestions for improvement: Generally speaking, newlyweds tend to see only each other’s strengths in their eyes and are reluctant to expose their weaknesses to each other, which is precisely the root cause of problems that can arise later in a long marriage. At this stage, the couple should strengthen communication and exchange, their basic values, attitude towards life frankly tell each other, do not be afraid to expose their shortcomings in front of their loved ones. The company’s main goal is to provide a more balanced approach to the marriage and to avoid an instant “dive” in happiness.
Checkup phase 2: The bonding period.
Generally 2-7 years after marriage, married life is basically on track, and the preferences and habits of both parties gradually emerge in all sorts of small details.
Key medical checkups: personality, habits, ways of dealing with problems, and the bottom line of the marriage.
Improvement suggestions: Most couples in the marriage bonding period do not cheat or betray their marriage, but often have small fights. This is because the two sides do not know each other’s character well enough, can not fully accept each other’s habits, can not take into account the fairness of the marriage, do not understand what the bottom line of their respective marriages. At this point, the couple should create a fair and trusting marital environment through a regular mode of communication. The two sides should be moderately accommodating to each other after conflicts arise, and important issues should be discussed with each other first; treat both parents, the two must reach a consensus, and do not just change; household chores are best shared by the two, if one can not participate in them because of work and other reasons, but also be sure to give care and greetings to the one who undertakes, and occasionally make up with a little romance.
Checkup Stage 3: Accident-prone period.
Usually 7-16 years after marriage, mainly due to increased family burden, birth of children and third party involvement.
Key medical checkups: conflicts in the couple’s family, basic guidelines for raising children, financial thinking and family planning.
Improvement suggestions: men tend to shift their feelings to work and friends after the marriage is stable, while Women in this stage of marriage will pay more attention to children and family, while more need for men’s care. So at this stage, be sure to fully improve the effectiveness of communication. Busy life, couples are often difficult to formal communication like a meeting, may wish to use the washing, eating, walking and other trivial time to fully communicate, you can also leave a message or communicate through the network. If conditions allow, couples would be wise to take regular trips, even if it’s just to find a hotel in the suburbs for one night, which can do wonders to improve the marriage.
Checkup Stage 4: The Dull Phase.
Generally after 16 years of marriage, the family has a certain economic base, both sides have a stable career, and the children are basically grown up and left home, the two people’s feelings tend to dull, and it is especially easy to emotionally cheat at this time.
Key medical checkup items: sexual satisfaction, marital fidelity and family responsibility.
Suggestions for improvement: Couples should learn to keep their marriage fresh and try to find passion in the dullness. You may try to “go back to youth” and fall in love again. The wife should pay attention to their own appearance and internal improvement, by wearing beautiful clothes, change the appearance of the image to attract the attention of the husband. You can also develop some common hobbies and read some marriage counseling books together. You should care more about each other’s health and go out to exercise together more often to enhance your relationship from exercise.