After four years and over 200 women, Ron Geraci eventually survived the intensity of the dating life, and he wrote about it in his new book, TheBachelorChronicles, which not only explodes the history of New York men TheBachelorChronicles is not only a history of sex for New York men, but also a lot of dating and sex advice for women.
1. Don’t resent a man’s long black leather couch. It has been with men longer than you have known them.
2. Don’t tell a man about the intrigues and sins of your coworkers. He doesn’t know about them and isn’t interested in them at all, unless it has to do with guns or sex.
3. When you pay the bill after a meal and you’re reaching for your wallet, don’t pretend to say, “Hmm! Wait a minute…are you sure you want to pay the bill?” If you’re looking for a man to go out, be firm when you have to pay, or help pay for the drinks.
4. If you do gain a little weight, don’t deliberately find reasons to explain it to men, such as, “I hurt my foot last winter and couldn’t walk, so I got fat.” Women with attractive personalities and who don’t make a big deal out of their body shape will be irresistible to men.
5. Don’t play the “I’m mad at you, but I won’t tell you why” game. If a man provokes you, you simply dump him or say what you have to say, do not let him guess why you are angry. This is the most annoying behavior for men in the early stages of a relationship. If you start a serious relationship, he will think you are just having a tantrum, but if you do this early in the dating process, it means you will do the same thing later.
6. Don’t tell a man how long you’ll be dating before you make love to him. If you tell him, “I never have sex with a man unless we’ve been dating for at least 1 month, that’s my rule.” This does not make him think you are particularly moral. If the person is too pushy, you can just say, “I wish I had waited until we were dating longer.”
7. When a man brings up something you’re not interested in at all, don’t say something like, “I don’t watch TV, I’ve never seen that show. You can try saying, “I’ve heard about that show, but I’ve never seen it, so why is it so interesting?”
8. If a man keeps talking about himself, don’t immediately assume he’s a self-centered person. Perhaps because you answered his question too briefly, the silence that followed made the other man uncomfortable, and you can say something interesting to diffuse such awkwardness.
9. If you’re just having a light dinner, he should call you the next day and thank you for your company. But if the date was one where he spent more than $700 on tickets or did something else (theater, opera, concert, wine tasting, movie), the next day you can call or email him to say thank you. Whether you want to keep going out with this person again or not, this gesture will make you look very classy.
10. If you’re impressed with a guy, ask him a question about him or everything about his life. Asking him a question means that you have some interest in his life and are patient enough to let the person answer.