Little things as light as air can turn into strong corroboration for a jealous person …… who thinks he is very happy, is true; who thinks he is very smart, is stupid.
Fu Laiming was a classmate of mine in middle school.
When most people still stick to the rules and go to work at the right time every day and go home at the right time, Fu Laiming resolutely gave up his position as deputy section chief and went into business. To be honest, at that time, including me, many people do not understand why Fu Laiming to give up the “iron rice bowl” under the business adventure. It was only when he became chairman of the group, with a fortune of more than 100 million yuan, that everyone turned to praise, and agreed that he had enough guts and vision!
For Fu Laiming’s boldness and vision, in fact, I have already learned about it.
I remember when we were about to graduate at County C Senior High School. He said, “I love Huifang, and Huifang loves me too. I will not marry Huifang in this life, and I will make her happy for the rest of her life.” The parents of the He family, who were not very talkative, were actually “confused” by Fu Laiming’s bold confession, and agreed to pay for the future son-in-law’s four-year university education.
Fu Laiming and He Huifang graduated from undergraduate and junior college respectively in the same year, and they got married a year later. Fu Laiming did what he said he would do, with his own strength to allocate a 12 square meter dormitory for a new room. This is a very rare thing for the general cadres in S city at that time, plus Fu Laiming really – has been taking good care of He Huifang. He Huifang really felt very happy.
Later, in the struggle of the business world, Fu Laiming and He Huifang were in the same boat, and finally achieved great success with each other. Now the Fu residence is a small three-storey house with front and back garden in the seaside villa area of S city. Mistress He Huifang no longer works outside the home, “full-time” at home to manage their baby son. She has an innate aversion to hiring a nanny, and is unwilling to leave the housework to other women, no matter how tedious it is. When her family hired six teachers: math, computer, English, calligraphy, piano, and Go teachers to come to their home to teach their children, He Huifang was there to read and practice with them. She is a wealthy wife at home, but her life is very busy and fulfilling. Although with the expansion of the company’s business, Fu Laiming has less and less time to spend with her every day. But she still feels very happy with her life.
However, a long blond hair suddenly turned her life upside down.
That day, Fu Laiming returned from a business trip to the Netherlands. His five-day trip to Western Europe brought the company another large amount of business, while Fu Laiming did not forget to bring his wife a gift – her special favorite Parisian brand-name perfume and a pair of Dutch hand-fired red glass wine glasses with gold. He went straight home from the airport, dropped off his carry-on luggage, said hello to He Huifang, grabbed his briefcase and went up to the office.
As He happily packed Fu’s suitcase, a long blond hair caught her eye. Oh! How could there be a foreign woman’s hair among his belongings? He Huifang could not help but remember just yesterday, another boss’s wife Yu Lili visit, talk about the Dutch red light district, those “window girls” how? The company also asked “how can I feel comfortable not accompanying Mr. Fu to Western Europe”?
The more you think about it, the more hateful He Huifang feels. The more you think about it, the more hateful you feel. There are too many couples in society who “can share the hardship, not the wealth”. It’s only five days, how come you can’t stand loneliness? …… He Huifang really want to immediately make a phone call to the company to find her husband to ask an understanding, but then remembered that Yu Lili said yesterday “to men have to grow a heart, don’t be confused by his sweet words” words, she reached for the phone hand and retracted. This is the first time in her life that she has secretly checked her husband’s personal things, I don’t know if she is angry or nervous. Her hand kept trembling.
Maybe it’s true that “the sky is the limit” and He Huifang finally found a brightly colored photo stuck in Fu Laiming’s notebook, showing a beautiful young blonde girl with wide, smiling eyes. A pair of talking eyes smiling. Although there was no signature on the photo, there was her familiar handwriting on the page where the photo was pinned. It was a foreign woman’s name and – a phone number that her husband had written down. The long blonde hair must be this woman’s! He Huifang thus thought that her husband must have had an ulterior motive with this woman …… She was flushed and hot, and hurriedly pinned the photo back, restoring the book and the suitcase to their original state.
He Huifang took a cold shower, tried to suppress her agitation, and ate dinner with her husband as if she didn’t know anything. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. And although Fu Laiming vaguely felt that He Huifang seems to have something on his mind, but because he was too tired, and the nasty jet lag made him fall back to sleep. He Huifang saw Fu Laiming actually to her “unusual silence” did not care, repressed emotions suddenly burst out. She leapt up from the bed, turned on all the lights in the bedroom, pulled her husband up and asked him head on: “What’s with that blonde woman? You tell me honestly!”
“What’s going on? What blonde woman?” Fu Laiming seemed still in a dream as he asked a vague rhetorical question and fell back to sleep.
“Bang–” a loud bang. For the second time in a day, He Huifang did something she had never done in her life: she smashed things to express her displeasure. She smashed a huge picture of their wedding that they had crafted only after they had become “rich and famous”!
Fu Laiming asked in shock, “A Hui, what’s wrong?” That’s when he woke up completely.
“I’m the one who asked what happened to you! What happened to you and that blonde woman?” He Huifang had a bit of an unforgiving air about her.
“What blonde woman?” Fu Laiming still couldn’t figure it out.
“Fu Laiming, I have a root,” He Huifang suddenly calmed down and said word for word, “Don’t ask me for tricks, tell me what this is! What?” He Huifang took out the jade photo of the blonde.
“Oh-ha-ha-ha,” Fu Laiming almost burst into tears laughing, “I say A Hui, when did you learn to be jealous? This picture of Suzanne was given to me by Mr. Bukram when I was leaving. The photo of Suzanne was given to me by Mr. Buchanan when I was leaving. Buchanan said Suzanne had just made her debut, had a good image and low performance fees, and was a suitable model for our new products …… and left me a contact number. How’s that? Satisfied with my reply? My Miss Hui!”
Fu Laiming thought the problem was solved and was ready to turn off the lights and go back to sleep. But He Huifang snapped again, “So, you and this blonde haven’t met?!”
“Yes!”
“And what story do you have to tell me about this?” He Huifang opened Fu Laiming’s suitcase and carefully pinched a long golden hair with her left thumb and index finger, slowly waving it in front of Fu’s eyes.
It was his turn to be red in the face: “How did this …… hair get here? I really don’t know ……”
Fu Laiming really didn’t know why he had such a long blonde hair in his suitcase, and he himself The blonde had not been in contact with the blonde.
At this point, Fu Laiming, who could not speak, was deeply aggrieved by the unwarranted suspicion of his loved one; He Huifang, who could not get an answer, was angry that his loved one had lied to his face.
“I really don’t know, I really have nothing ……”
“There is nothing you can figure out for yourself, and when you have an answer that satisfies me, I will consider whether to come to this room again.” He Huifang put the long blond hair and the picture of Susanna in an envelope and took up residence in the child’s room.
For now, the cold war between Fu Laiming and He Huifang is not over.
Fu Laiming believes he is innocent and indeed knows nothing about where that long blonde hair came from. “The truth was told a long time ago, Huifang does not believe it, it is useless to explain it again, than time to prove it.”
He Huifang thought her husband, whom she always trusted, was a coward who was afraid to admit his mistakes. Although Buklang had called He Huifang at Fu Laiming’s request to confirm the introduction of the model to Fu, Huifang always had a knot she couldn’t open: how could that long blond hair be explained?”
And Yu Lili has repeatedly shown her foresight on different occasions: “I have long warned He Huifang not to trust her husband too much …… “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Doctor’s Comment: Many marriage psychologists emphasize that being constructive is a very important principle when men and women communicate with each other and solve problems in a relationship or marriage.
Constructive is based on rationality. The key to rationality is, first and foremost, having clear goals. Figure out what you really want? What does the other party want? In the case of this article, is He Huifang just venting her emotions, or does she have to prove that her husband is having an affair? Or do you want your future marriage to be healthier? If she wants to vent her emotions, she can go on, I think the emotions will always be finished, but perhaps when she finishes venting her emotions, it is likely that the couple will also suffer irreparable damage. If the husband is really wronged, he is angry to divorce, she is afraid that her emotions will be worse. If she wants to prove that her husband is having an affair, I’m afraid it’s not a good idea to make a scene and force a confession, she may be able to find out through other channels, or save a mind to continue to observe, but also to be doubly considerate of her husband, so that he has a sense of guilt even if he has an affair, and regain his heart back to his side. If you want your marriage to be in better shape, then you should stop tracing it, not only to warn your husband, but also to hold an attitude oriented towards your future, focusing on reviewing the possible problems in your marriage and their causes, and if you have them, you can change them, and if you don’t, you can mend them and strengthen the foundation of your marriage.
Some women tend to be more emotional than rational, and when emotions come up, they just vent their resentment, forgetting or not even thinking about the purpose of what they are doing. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
So, constructively, the couple is required to look to the future when conflicts arise, to be clear about what kind of future they want and what they need to do to achieve that future. The first thing you need to do is to think about how you can get that sense of security, such as the negative side of guarding against and controlling your husband’s behavior, and the positive side of putting effort into gathering your husband’s heart, etc. If she had constructive ideas, she would never bite down on a blond hair and make a big deal about it.
Psychologists have proposed a problem-solving model: the first step is to clarify the goal, to define the problem to be solved so that it is not lost in the process of dealing with it. As the saying goes, “If you don’t know where you’re going, the wind will never be a tailwind”; the second step is to list and evaluate all the possibilities, to have a divergent mind, to find out all the possible ways from the current situation to the problem, and then evaluate the pros and cons of each option; finally, to Make a final decision based on the above assessment work, determine the best solution and implement it, if you do nothing, it is impossible to have results. Of course, you may keep finding new clues and problems, then you can repeat the above process, keep the previous decisions or make new ones and move towards the goal. I think this model is enlightening not only for people who have problems in marriage, but also for everyone. (Reviewed by Yibing)