Divorce cannot be prevented 100% of the time, but we can still take steps to avoid the divorce nightmare as much as possible. If you are already divorced, then don’t be discouraged, you can still run your future marriage in the following ways.
1. Talk about important issues before you get married
How many children do you two want? How will you manage your money …… It’s important to discuss these issues before the honeymoon. Pre-marital education or pre-marital counseling can help you with this. Several studies have shown that people who go through this process have a higher level of marital satisfaction and more responsibility for their spouse.
2. It’s OK to bicker, but don’t escalate into a “world war.”
Interrupting is an integral part of a couple’s relationship, and interrupting and arguing in and of itself will not lead to divorce. But be careful about the way you argue. Researchers Gottman and Levinson say they were able to predict whether a couple would divorce by looking at the negative ways in which they argued and the extent to which they communicated constructively and positively. What to avoid in an argument: Criticism, contempt, overprotectiveness and rejection. Learn to de-escalate heated arguments with humor and kind words.
3. Have fun together
Yes, you both need to have your personal interests and hobbies. However, over-emphasis on self may lead to a life of separation, or gradual separation. Just like the husband goes golfing every Saturday, the wife goes swimming every Saturday. Learn to reunite by participating in activities that you both enjoy. It’s also important to find time to make out, even though it seems like you’re not separated for a minute. Make out in ways like massages and hugs, which will make you feel closer.
4. Share the housework
One partner does most of the housework while the other This is the “secret” to divorce.
5. Respecting each other
Sometimes we treat the people we love the most in the most rude ways treat the people we love the most, without realizing it ourselves. Check yourself: “Am I treating my friends, acquaintances, colleagues and even strangers better than I treat my significant other? Remember to say “please” and “thank you” instead of issuing orders or nagging.
6. If you have a problem, solve it
Do either of you Is depressed, does he or she have a drinking problem, is one of you intending to be a red herring …… If you or you have these problems and don’t want to work through them, the risk of divorce is greatly increased. Addressing these issues through counseling and other means can reduce your risk of divorce.
7. Marry the person you want to marry
This seems like the obvious thing to do , but many people don’t think so. If you needed to beg, sweet-talk your way into a marriage, or even rely on issuing ultimatums to get one, then you should realize that he or she may not want to get married at all. If you thought things would eventually change the moment you were put on the ring, you were wrong. Don’t get yourself into trouble. It’s better to find someone to live with who wants to step into marriage as much as you do.