Gossip in daily life serves the function of promoting a person’s socialization, so that he or she is gradually impregnated and influenced by social customs, practices, and moral standards, and becomes a socially accepted member. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of people who will be able to communicate with each other in a more personal way.
So why, from a psychological perspective, are some people so happy to “chew the fat”?
First, it’s the need to be noticed.
A fundamental characteristic of “chewing the fat” is the excessive sharing of third-party secrets. Not everyone has secrets about the “third party” for both parties in interpersonal communication, yet it is in everyone’s nature to be curious about the secrets of others’ lives. If a person after a lot of inquiry, know some or true or false news of others, he (she) said these contents can often attract a lot of listeners, so that they become the center of attention of others. Therefore, although the “mouth-breather” is often not necessarily a successful person in life, he or she can fully enjoy the feeling of being noticed and respected for holding the secrets of others, which is a compensation for the unpleasant experience of real life.
Second, there is a need to release stress.
Psychological studies have shown that a person who has too many secrets in his or her mind needs a corresponding amount of psychological energy to control those secrets, which is often uncomfortable, so the need to confide must arise. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into. The two of them are both going to do counseling at the same time in the hope that they can be relieved. For those who have someone else’s secrets, it would be hard not to tell them, so they have adopted the “chewing tongue” approach to confide in these secrets and let the pressure of the secrets out.
Last, but not least, is the need for intimacy.
Everyone who lives in the world is alone, wants to be recognized and accepted by others, and has a desire for friendship. The general development of friendship will go through joint activities, secret sharing and other stages, “chewers” in essence, is hoping to borrow the means to share other people’s secrets, to obtain the growth of friendship with the listener, the promotion of the relationship. However, it is important to note that the sharing of secrets in friendship development includes both the sharing of others’ secrets in the early stages and the exposure of one’s own secrets in the further stages. However, those who are happy to “chew the cud”, although also eager to friendship, but often in the sharing of other people’s secrets this stage of stop, good at sharing the secrets of others, but not willing to expose their own secrets, the result is precisely what we see in life, “chew the cud The result is exactly what we see in our lives. Even if the “tongue-chewers” get friendships, they are shallow friendships, and they can’t communicate with others more deeply, which is actually where the “tongue-chewers” suffer, they have no real friends in their lives.
In life, a person who is happy to “chew the fat” is often a person who is not very successful in life, who desires friendship but has trouble getting real friendships. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the actual situation.
Psychological prescription:
Improve your own quality
The old adage says that it’s okay to do harm. Pondering about others may temporarily allow yourself to relax and be happy, but in the long run, hurting others and leaving behind the root of the trouble, the harm is immeasurable. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Enrich your hobbies
Seeking normal psychological satisfaction is an effective way to eliminate back-talking behavior.
Reduce your curiosity
Learn to be normal about The first thing you need to do is to learn how to use your own personal computer to help you understand what you are doing.
Be kind
Be a human being, learn to be kind to others, be conscious of your own behavior, and consider your own behavior. Pay attention to your own behavior, consider what your words and actions will bring unnecessary trouble to others, and try to think about things from other people’s point of view. In many cases, you need to keep quiet, read more, and gossip less, because “trouble comes from the mouth” and “silence is golden”.