People say that love needs to be managed, in fact, marriage also needs to be managed and maintained, two people living together, long-term bad habits squeeze out the power of the explosion is amazing, it is likely to threaten the already slowly ordinary marriage, and these bad habits you all have?
Habit #1: The couple who makes money is in charge
Economy determines “Politics”, whoever has the money has the right to speak and whoever is in charge, is certainly true, but it should never be extended to the marital home. Many couples may not subjectively intend to do so, otherwise it would be a matter of character, and the real situation is that many couples ignore such issues.
Just by feeling to act, waiting for the resentment to build up, each other’s heart to pull bigger and bigger, at that time to find the original love will have some difficulty, couples are originally equal, there is no real sense of who makes more money, just a different division of labor, so The couple must take the initiative to think about this issue, and pay attention to the details of daily speech and action to grasp the proportion, so as not to hurt each other.
Habit #2: Couples’ division of labor is too patterned
Couples don’t divide labor according to the characteristics of their marriage. The couple is not divided according to the characteristics of their own marriage, but is stuck in a stereotypical pattern that is popular or traditional. The majority of couples are equal individuals and there is no inherent or absolutely correct standard division of labor, but based on the traditional model, most choose to have the man in charge and the woman in charge, which certainly has its reasons, but every family is not exactly the same, so who can say it is necessarily the best?
Some families are suited to a male-dominated, female-dominated model, while others are the opposite, and it has to be realistic, otherwise conflict between the couple will occur. The actual couple’s division of labor in the marriage must be combined with the specific circumstances of their own situation, to have their own personality characteristics, there is a personality is dynamic.
Ugly habit #3: Asking each other according to their own habits.
After all, husband and wife are two different individuals, and after all, they come from two different families, so they are bound to have different habits in life. The couple should be tolerant and accommodating of these differences, and can politely point them out.
But don’t just blame, especially don’t go to the top of the line and say it’s a matter of personality or taste and deny him as a person, both husband and wife, should allow each other to have his or her differences, not necessarily the other party to do according to their own pattern, to remind, point to the end The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you don’t hurt the couple’s feelings because of these little things that don’t matter.
The fourth habit: work grievances brought home
Modern society. The pressure of work is much greater than ever before, there is pressure will certainly feel annoyed, it is necessary to vent, in the unit will inevitably suffer some gas, suffer gas to also naturally want to spill, but pay attention to the work of grievances try not to bring too much to the home, do not vent outside the unhappy emotions to the home, because the tantrum will cause the whole family unhappy.
Of course, it is not that the grievances suffered outside do not come home to say, the grievances accumulated in the heart certainly need to be properly ventilated, otherwise it will lead to disease, but should find a suitable time to pour out the depression of the heart to each other, and as a listening party, whether the wife The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The fifth habit: often hang the word divorce on the mouth
Couple quarrels and quarrels is a normal thing in marriage, never blush couples should be extremely rare, couples live together all year round, quarrel can not be avoided, the key is that different couples deal with different, and the game is naturally different.
Of course, you are just a moment of anger to say, but still should try to restrain themselves, do not lightly say the word divorce, couples encounter problems to learn to resolve the big things and small things, not to divorce the word hanging mouth.
Uncommon habits: often late or sleep out for no reason
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Some people do not refuse the invitations of their friends, but rarely take into account the feelings of their loved ones at home, so that the couple has very few opportunities to communicate together at dinner, which is bound to affect the couple’s feelings in the long run.
Uncommon Habit #7: Disregarding the Time and Occasion to Expose Each Other
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Some people think that couples should feel free to say whatever they want to say, and that’s certainly true, couples should be open and honest and say what they want to say, but they must pay attention to the time and occasion.
For example, in front of each other’s friends and colleagues, in front of their children, couples must pay attention to avoid criticizing each other, and even if they want to do so, they must do it politely, so as not to hurt each other’s basic dignity as human beings and hit each other’s self-esteem, hurting the couple’s feelings.
Eight bad habits: the mother’s family in-laws are too clearly divided
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But once it comes to some specific interests, couples will have some conflicts, in this case couples must pay attention to mutual understanding, learn to stand in each other’s point of view to consider the problem, think about each other’s thoughts anxious each other’s anxieties, will heart to heart, whether the mother’s family or in-laws, encounter The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the situation.
Uncommon Habit #9: Compare other people of the opposite sex with each other
People are different.
Everyone is different, everyone has their own characteristics, their own excesses, there is no one with all the flaws, there is no one with all the strengths, the key is how you look at it.
For couples, two people who love each other, if they are not used to seeing each other, some people do not move to compare with other people of the opposite sex they know, so like “look how XXX can make money “The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
These bad habits are also a reflection of the details of your life, and often many of the little details that you don’t care about can destroy the harmony between you and your husband.