In Dream of the Red Chamber, Lin Daiyu is particularly good at expressing her feelings for Bao Yu through “jealousy”, and therefore has said many harsh words to Baochai. In order to prove their sincerity, Bao Yu took great pains. However, after the incident of the dental plaque, Dai Hairpin reconciliation, Dai Yu no longer on what the “golden jade good fortune” to make a small nature, Bao Hair also no longer caught the opportunity to taunt Bao Dai two, the world has been peaceful. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
This is the mystery of human nature. The sweetness of love sometimes comes from lovers being defensive of their rivals and taking the initiative when necessary. However, “jealous” people should master the fire, time and place. The first thing you need to do is to be proud, touched, heartbroken, and happy, and the other way around, it will be a departure from your original intention and become a fuse for endless arguments and suspicions.
Women don’t get jealous, men get hurt
I used to see some women The first time I saw my husband talking to another girl, or a slightly closer relationship, I was disdainful and thought, “I’m not going to be such a careful woman. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It has been said that hormones are the levers that control a man’s gaze and blood. Beating excess hormones by looking at beautiful women and using words comes naturally to men. Seeing your husband with an admiring look on his face and saying, “That girl is so pretty.” At first the heart is a little sour, but then think about it, admiring beautiful women is the nature of men, and again this does not mean anything ah. So, whenever I walk on the street, my husband’s eyes wandered with a certain beauty, and pushed my arm and said, “Look, that girl has a nice body, right?” I’m not going to be able to do that.
But one day, my husband suddenly asked me, “Honey, how come you don’t get mad when I compliment other girls on their beauty? Are you not in love with me?” The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you’re getting into. I thought I had given my husband a very smart answer, but I noticed a glint of loss in his eyes.
Since then, I’ve vaguely noticed that my husband has changed a bit. He used to go to the bar with his buddies and tell me, “I’m working late tonight, I’ll be back later.” Now it reads, “I’m with a colleague tonight, I don’t know when I’ll be home.” He used to call as loud as a bell, but now when he answers the phone, he deliberately lowers his voice, whispers, and sometimes even pretends to pull away from me. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. …
These odd actions baffled me, and after I pursued them, it became clear that he had neither a confidante nor a mystery online friend.
After some thought, I finally realized that his strange behavior was a polite rebellion against my “generosity. It’s not good to be sensitive and jealous about everything, but if a woman is not jealous at all, a man’s heart will be hurt. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Perhaps “jealousy” in love is a unique expression of love, in which the lover can feel your attention and concern for him.
Since then, my “generosity” has become “generosity”, and when my husband comes home late, I will make a few phone calls and eat his work “jealousy”. I’m not sure if I’m going to be able to get the job done. If he compliments any girl pretty in front of me again, I’ll pinch his arm hard. My husband, from time to time, also “complains” about me a few words, eat the “jealousy” of housework. “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market.
Psychological Review: Psychologists once conducted this interesting experiment. Several women and their loved ones were brought to a conference hall to prepare to participate in a lecture, and the experimenter arranged several women to sit there in advance on the benches in the conference hall. The psychologist observed that all the women who came into the conference hall with their lovers consciously kept their lovers at a distance from the other women. This is what Robin, an expert in love attitude theory, calls the “exclusivity and exclusivity of love”.
So jealousy is a normal psychological reaction and subconsciously a protective barrier for emotional exclusivity and fear of loss.
If there is a woman in your life who is not particularly jealous, it is usually one of two things: first, she doesn’t love the other person at all; second, she has mentally labeled “jealousy” as a Second, she mentally labels “jealousy” as a label of “shouldn’t” and balances all the dissatisfaction of her lover with reason, thus showing “atmosphere” and “generosity”. The “I” in the article belongs to the second situation. Such feelings seem to be calm on the surface, but because of the excessive suppression of the “jealousy” in her heart, she inadvertently covers up a pure feeling. This way, the husband doesn’t know how she really feels and is likely to make the wrong judgment from the wrong information.
On the other hand, a wife’s “jealousy” can increase a man’s sense of pride. In ancient Greek mythology, there was a famous sculptor Pygmalion, who was obsessed with the statue of a beautiful woman he carved out. Later, the statue of beauty turned into a real person and fell in love with him. Psychology will be surrounded by high expectations and frequent encouragement, as if the person suddenly charged up, to make some incredible “feat” of behavior, known as “Pygmalion effect”. For men, women’s “jealousy” will also play a similar effect with the “Pygmalion effect”, it will invariably send a message to men that they are a lot of female attention and appreciation of people. Men thus increased the sense of pride and self-confidence. Therefore, if women are not jealous, men will think that their charm is not enough to attract women. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Master the “amount of vinegar”, eat jealousy rationally
One day after work, my husband said to me excitedly, “Honey, let’s go see the concert of singer Rulin Xiong on the weekend.”
Why did you suddenly think of going to a concert? I was baffled. It turned out that the tickets were given to him by a female colleague of their company in the Hebei branch. “Why did you send concert tickets to my husband for no reason?” I was a little sour in my heart, but I cautioned myself not to act rashly, or I would appear to be too petty to listen to what he had to say first.
Husband explained that this female colleague was a die-hard Xiong Rulin fan, so she bought the tickets as soon as the concert was announced. But at this time, her father was sick, and she thought there was no way she could make it to Beijing, and it just so happened that her husband was also a fan, so she gave him the tickets. My husband said he would go buy another ticket so he could relax with me over the weekend.
This explanation made sense, and I gladly accepted it. Although I’m not much of a fan, it was still exciting to feel the warm atmosphere of the concert.
Saturday arrived, and my husband and I arrived at the concert on a high note. “Ring ……” my husband’s phone rang.
“Hello? What, you’re coming over too?”
“Yeah, yeah, I’ll see you in a bit.”
Putting down the phone, I learned that it turned out that his female colleague was also coming. The fire in my heart shot up, and I felt disgusted with that woman to the core. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
“If you’re all set, why did you drag me here? I shouted at my husband, the surrounding eyes focused on the two of us. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
“What are you shouting for? I can’t stop people from coming to the concert, what does it have to do with me?”
My husband has always talked to me with reason and emotion, but now he has become so aggressive that I can’t stand it: “Fine, you’re so aggressive to me because of that woman!”
“You …… didn’t expect you to be so distrustful of me!” I thought my forceful attack would give him a downward spiral and make him apologize to me properly, but I didn’t expect my husband to say something back angrily before my words left him, turn around and leave, leaving me alone.
After my husband left, I wandered around the nearby garden by myself. Gradually the anger subsided, and I felt I had just gone a little too far. If my husband really wanted to go out with someone else, he wouldn’t have bought me a ticket on purpose. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
But what would it take to break the ice?
I had spent over $100 on tickets, and I didn’t want to waste them, so I just went in first.
The concert venue was packed, fans were clustered around the stage, and I sat in the farthest seat searching for my husband. I sat in the far seat searching for my husband. Haha, he was standing in the last row, holding his phone and looking around absentmindedly.
I steadied my position and ignored him for a while. After a while, my phone rang, and it seemed that this would take the edge off his anger, so let’s hurry down the slope.
I saw my husband again, and we both smiled at each other. A storm just passed ……
Psychological Review: In life, a smart woman should know how to “The so-called “rational” jealousy is to understand what purpose can be achieved through jealousy. The right amount of jealousy will make the other party feel that you care about him, and vice versa, it will deviate from the original intention and turn into an endless quarrel. Therefore, women should master the following points when they are jealous:
First, jealousy should be based on trust. Making something out of nothing and distorting the truth destroys trust and can easily hurt the other person’s self-esteem, with counterproductive results.
Second, grasp the bottom line of jealousy. The amount of jealousy varies widely, as everyone’s personality is different and their understanding of emotions is inconsistent. But in general, the following two bottom line is best not to cross: the first is not to say “absolute” words, such as “you have never loved me”, “you are a liar”, which is equivalent to The second way is not to mention the word “divorce”, the threat of divorce at every turn, just like the child who always cries “wolf”, and over time each other will lose trust.
Third, don’t be jealous in front of everyone, it’s easy to put the other person in a rather awkward situation, even if he wants to coax you, he has to show his manhood for the sake of face. The company’s “jealousy” can only be defeated in front of his self-esteem, so why make a fool of yourself?