My husband and I were introduced to each other and got married less than six months after we met because both of us were not young. I basically know nothing about what happened before he got married, and he refused to talk about it even after asking him several times.
It wasn’t until a while ago that I heard some whispers out there that he was married and still spending a lot of time with XXX. The woman was alone with the child, and most importantly, the woman was my husband’s ex-girlfriend, and they were in a relationship together for 6 years, and then split up because the woman’s family objected.
The sky is always blue teacher, I think I’m still a sensible woman, if this kind of thing if other women, have long been looking for him to quarrel. I was not even how, just wanted to ask him privately. I didn’t think I could even ask, I said you do tutor the mother of the child, you did not know each other before ah? He heard me ask this question and immediately lost his temper, saying that you are too boring, suspicious all the time, if you do not believe me, why marry me? The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Then after almost ten days, I also held back from talking to him about it. But according to the woman’s intuition, I feel that the remarks outside will definitely not be empty, and the kind of expression he had when I asked him, I always feel that there must be a problem between them, so I’ll understand the situation behind the scenes. But the sky is always blue teacher, now that the situation is clear, the more I think about it, the more scared I am. The XXX year and my husband broke up, never married, the child I suspect is my husband’s, they were broken up in 04, the child is now in the second grade, the age is also very consistent. I also heard from someone that that child was originally in class two (3), and it was my husband who took the initiative to find someone to transfer him to class two (1) where he was.
I really don’t know what to do now. The more I think about it, the more scared I am, and I’m afraid to tell my family about it. My age is already very big, the first few years we have not been able to conceive, can not conceive a child, I have eaten almost a year of medicine, it was easy to conceive this year, now the child in the belly has been more than four months, so I cherish the hard-won happiness now. However, if this matter is not completely clarified, I will always have a hurdle in my heart to cross. Whenever I think of these things and touch the child in my belly, I feel a pain in my heart. The child is not yet born and has to suffer with me …… Sky is always blue teacher, I really feel very lonely and helpless, and I don’t know what to do.
Sky Forever Blue’s reply:
Hello, Aroma! With all due respect to the sky is always blue, your biggest weakness is that you are too weak. The first thing you can do is to let him have a temper tantrum and then not dare to mention it again? To be honest, I don’t know what kind of weakness you have for him to hold on to, so much so that you are so timid and afraid.
Marriage needs to be managed and requires mutual respect tolerance and understanding, but it should all be mutual and there should be a minimum bottom line. The other party’s behavior has seriously touched this bottom line, and the sky is always blue that it should never give way again.
Based on what you’ve said, I think there are at least three things that you can basically conclude, right? One, your husband is indeed tutoring XXX’s children; two, XXX is indeed your husband’s ex-girlfriend; and three, XXX is indeed single now. The sky is always blue, as long as these three points are established, your husband is very wrong, he has the obligation to discuss with you in advance and obtain your consent. If he fails to do this, it is a great disrespect to you on his part.
So, in summary, the basic conditions for you to fight for your marriage are perfectly valid, and he should be questioned and identified by you as to whether the child was born to him or not. If he still has to ignore as usual, or even lose his temper and leave home, unrepentant. The sky is always blue is really suggesting that you make plans to divorce early, there is no need to hesitate. Your hesitation and weakness today will only bring you greater pain and despair in the future. The actual fact is that you will not be able to get a good deal on your own, but you will be able to get a good deal on your own.