What women fear most after marriage is not that men don’t love her, but that the outside world is saying that men cheat on their lovers, women have this phobia after marriage, and after marriage they have been putting up a determined attitude against men having an affair. Although cheating is not so easy to be controlled, but you can rely on your clever wisdom to use the magic trick to keep your man away from an affair.
Step 1 Choose a man who has a low probability of having an affair
It is said that There is no man who does not want to cheat, but there is still a big gap between wanting and doing, between doing more and doing less. Is it possible to calculate the probability of an affair? Of course! Some men have a high incidence of affairs. These are the people to watch out for:
a) The notorious playboy – don’t think he’s done with you;
b) his job requires him to be out socializing a lot and he doesn’t see a problem with that;
c) his professional circle is full of men and teenage girls and a lot of young women who are single;
d) he is sociable, ready to accept ambiguous signals from the opposite sex, and also very pleasing to the opposite sex;
e) he has few emotional experiences and always feels regretful;
f) he is the best of men, or has a great appearance or a successful career ……
With such a summary, girls must be shocked, do they have to find a man whose grandma doesn’t love him and whose uncle doesn’t love him and who wants nothing to lower his affair index? In fact, the reason is very simple, the man who attracts you, other women are not blind, so if the requirement for a partner is absolute fidelity, you should find those other women are not very interested or more curmudgeonly uncomfortable or traditional in concept, more self-disciplined men.
Step 2 Take control of the family finances and let him know the consequences of an affair
Men having an affair tend to get lucky: “If I do it rigorously and thoughtfully, I won’t be found out.” Or say to themselves, “I’m just having fun, it won’t affect a stable relationship.” Some men even think, “Even if my partner finds out, there’s nothing I can do about it, the big deal is to break up.”
It’s difficult to know how to increase a man’s self-control over an affair and get him to put the brakes on when he’s in the mood, especially when another woman takes the initiative, and few men can resist the “pie in the sky The “pie in the sky”. But if he understands the serious consequences of an affair once it is revealed, such as “net”, “loss of house”, “penniless”, etc., there will be some resistance to an affair. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Step3 Stay alert and warn of situations
The man’s affair is like a house on fire, once the fire is diffused, it is very difficult to put out, only when the fire just ignited in time to put out, in order to minimize the damage. In fact, women’s intuition is very accurate: he began to return late or even not return, travel overtime more often, suspicious phone calls increased, distracted at home, sex less often …… these are signs.
Emotional experts divide the development of a man’s affair into six stages: the attempt period, the try period, the obsession period, the stability period, the conflict period, and the decision period. The girl had better be able to put out the fire in the attempt and try period, otherwise it will be difficult to control when entering the infatuation and stability period. Nowadays, girls, in addition to the nerves are particularly big, basically can detect certain abnormal behavior of the other party, but worried about their own pursuit to make the other party feel that they are paranoid or make the other party feel step by step and do not dare to ask questions, which gives the opportunity for the affair to continue to develop. The suggestion is that when you feel something is wrong, to dare to show their jealousy, it does not hurt to get angry. The man must be afraid of trouble, fear of conflict, you make a mess, he will be a little afraid, naturally will be outside the temptation to restrain. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a good deal on your own, and you’ll be able to get a good deal on your own.
Step 4 Communicate with him about boundaries in relationships with the opposite sex
The first thing you need to do is to be aware that you are not interfering with his normal interactions with the opposite sex. But what is a “normal relationship”? This requires you to communicate clear boundaries, for example, and colleagues together with dinner okay, but if it is and a female colleague because of non-work needs to eat alone, it is not allowed; and classmates to catch up with no problem, but not and a female classmate alone to catch up and share a room; have friends of the opposite sex is okay, but if this friend always because of personal matters to him on the phone, online chat, or even let him help do this and that, it is not allowed It is allowed …… maybe the man will say: you do not make a fuss, there is nothing between us. You can smile and say to him: Of course I believe you, but think about it, if I “interact” with other men like this, you will not feel good about it, huh, who let me love you, forgive me for being so careful. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you are not interfering with the situation unless he crosses the line.
Step 5 is to go in and out with him more often and pay attention to his tiktok
Your tiktoks don’t intersect at all? And your hobbies are worlds apart? In short, after the relationship is stable, you have nothing to do together except sleep together at night? Beware, this is a very dangerous signal, that you have lost control of his social life! To avoid this situation, first of all, to appear from time to time in his circle of colleagues and tiktok, express your territory; and then join his spare time, even if you are not interested, you can also observe on the sidelines; third, arrange to travel together, so that he has a subconscious “go out to play with you” awareness. You may say, men do not like this, they are free and easy lone wanderer. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Step 6 doesn’t neglect sex, create a world with fun for two
Girls neglecting to take their sex life seriously when their relationship is stable is an important factor, though not an excuse for men to have an affair. Sexual desire needs for most men is like a man in the desert thirst for water, sex comes like a mountain. So, girls do their best to create a pleasurable and exciting sex life that will make men grateful.
The most common reasons men give for having an affair are “not getting warmth at home” and “not having a good sex life with my wife. “So having the satisfaction of sex and emotional needs in a stable relationship can go a long way to reducing a man’s active desire for an affair and increasing his resistance to it.
Step 7 Be your best self
No one is without flaws, but do you use that as a reason to give up on yourself? A relationship enters a smooth period, in fact, it also enters a high period of affair. Especially at this stage of a woman’s 30 to 40 years old, her own appearance is gradually declining in attractiveness, if other aspects do not improve (such as professional ability, eyesight, mind, social skills, family skills, etc.), it means that her value as a person is declining, while men at this stage, but the value is often raised very quickly, so there is a gap, many affairs occur at this stage. So, try to improve your own value. Men have secret comparisons in their minds when it comes to affairs, and a valuable partner will go a long way in stopping his willingness to break up a stable relationship. Besides, if your own value is high, are you still afraid that there will be no other men to love you? If he persists, just let him go!
There are many reasons why men cheat, and the only way for a woman to trap a man is to find the right factors to start with, but of course, if your man is a real philanderer, then you should give up and find true love right away!