A good marriage is like a shoe that doesn’t fit, in the end, only you know, and likewise, whether or not a marriage is happy or in crisis, only you can feel to pay attention to find out. The vast majority of people will hate it when their loved ones move on or are “submarined” by others. Therefore, female friends living in a more and more insecure society, everything should be their own more than one eye, in the daily life of the subtleties of the gradual process of discovering the qualitative changes in marriage in time, so that others do not wind up passing to the world to know their own hindsight. The following are some of the early warnings before a marriage breaks up.
Usually, there is a gradual process of marriage crisis, even if it turns bad, it is not done overnight, so if one spouse is attentive enough, he or she can find the traces of it, and perhaps prevent it before it happens. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation.
1. Men suddenly start to pay attention to their appearance, or always go out after dressing up. If your lover usually does not pay much attention to their image, and recently suddenly very concerned about their image in front of outsiders, brightly dressed, hair combed meticulously, then you should pay more attention to who your lover is dressing up for, or who is trying to attract the eye. You should know that usually a person’s dress is definitely not for the family to see, many people at home simply will not pay attention to their own instrument grooming problems, home is a casual relaxation place, therefore, the vast majority of people at home is not deliberately dressed. It is only when you go to meet someone important in your mind that you think about dressing up carefully.
2. Your lover, who is usually very caring and home-loving, has suddenly become very busy with official business recently, always going out in a hurry after receiving a phone call on the pretext of having important matters to deal with. Busy with business and have no time to take care of the family, or no time no energy to take care of the home, and no longer put the main thought at home, more important activities at home no longer in mind, and often very late to go home, or will occasionally find an excuse to stay out at night, find an excuse to travel a few days are not back. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
3. Suddenly you feel that your lover’s text messages are very frequent lately, and they are secretly read and deleted immediately after reading; they are secretly replied to and deleted as soon as they are replied to, making you feel a mystery that you cannot understand. If you ask him who sent the text message, he will show a look as if nothing happened, gently tell you is a unit so and so colleagues to discuss work matters, or will say a name you have never heard of, tell you is a so and so friend, and you are doing business communication. Sometimes when you go to look through your lover’s phone, you will find nothing, in short, just trying to make it impossible for you to check the truth.
4. From time to time, you can get mysterious phone calls, and when you pick up the receiver the other person doesn’t talk, or the other person says it’s a wrong number, and, you will find that recently there are especially many of these wrong calls. However, sometimes you see your loved ones on the phone but there is never any wrong call, their calls are quite normal and talk well, only when you appear or when you ask who is calling, you will get the answer “someone else has the wrong number”. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.
5. When you are at home, you said you were fine, or you said you would be at home with you, but you often get a call and suddenly go out, or you say there is something urgent at work that needs to be dealt with immediately, or you say there is a heavyweight who needs to be received, or a friend is “missing”. Or that friends “three short of one” is waiting for him to play cards, or simply do not say anything on the go, so you feel that what is outside is more important than the home. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
6. You find that your lover seems to be spending more money recently, and you don’t see him buying anything of corresponding value back, and if you ask him where the money is going, he either ignores you or just makes up a reason to put you off, and you feel that what the other person says seems reasonable but definitely makes people suspicious. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
7. You feel that your lover has been vaguely exuberant lately, perhaps not much at home, but he or she seems especially happy and relaxed after leaving the house, and sometimes even hums a little song unconsciously, showing how happy he or she is to be alone and free. Sometimes, there is a trance at home, even if you are talking to him, either not paying attention in listening, or not listening at all.
8. Recently, they always like to pick on you or deliberately look for trouble, either by saying that the cooking is not good or that the home is not good, especially when they will play on the issue, pointing to the sang-froid and venting their inner dissatisfaction. Some will often provoke family quarrels for no reason, three days a big quarrel, two days a small quarrel, torture your nerves, destroy your will, so you can not live with him. The company’s main goal is to provide you with the best possible service.
9. As if the recent unit needs to work overtime things are particularly large, always call to tell you something boss rush to urgent, must work overnight to complete, and then, when you call his unit in the middle of the night and there is always no one to answer the phone, or even call His cell phone will be turned off, back to ask him, he always told you with confidence is in a meeting or boss is lecturing, or even directly tell you that the phone is out of battery. The first time or two, you may believe it, but regularly, you will still believe him 100 percent.
10. Always find residues of the opposite sex on your husband’s clothes that don’t belong to you, such as sniffing your own unused brand of perfume on your husband’s clothes, finding hair that isn’t your own, or even the remnants of lipstick lipstick. Or the husband’s private car filled with the smell of vixen, leaving things that do not belong to them and their husbands, and when you question him if you can clearly feel that he is blinking, or have a little weakness or even bluff, it means that between you and your husband has appeared the figure of a mistress, is the time when it should be important to arm the defense.
When social morality can no longer restrain a person’s sense of behavior, when more and more people in society no longer have a moral bottom line in their subconscious, when a person can’t use self-discipline to regulate their own loyalty to their marriage, a family, a couple needs The only thing that a family and a couple may need is each other’s mutual supervision, don’t lose the principle of being a human being for the sake of immediate petty profits, and lose the dignity of being a human being.
We don’t have much choice in the environment we live in, we can’t emigrate our family to a foreign country, but we can choose our attitude as human beings, after all, people with moral qualities are worthy of respect.
So whether it’s a man or a woman, please live a little more carefully, care more about your lover, understand more about each other’s inner feelings, find more time to spend with each other, build more channels to strengthen communication and exchange, don’t wait until the marriage is in crisis The first thing you need to do is to make up for it.