He and I were both born in 88. He’s taking adult skills classes now. Learning skills. I am a freelance worker. Running my own little online store.
Meet him on April 9th. Friend of a friend. In fact, the first meeting. I feel quite disappointed. The height difference with my requirements is too much. I’m 1m7, he’s 1m73, 150 pounds, and thick and fat kind of …… would have liked to bail out immediately, but then in the face of friends, sang a song. The close contact. Feel that others are still quite sincere. And listen to friends say. He went to school in Korea for a year. Maybe it’s vanity. I felt like I was giving him a lot of points.
We had a good time that day, and the next day, a big group of them agreed to go climbing Mt. He had to ask me to join him.
I thought twice about it. I agreed. They say peer-to-peer trips are the most testing, and this was it. I agreed to let him hold my hand. It became my boyfriend.
Dating for half a month. Parents know about it too. Keep saying they want to meet him. One time, I earned more than 700 at a time. My sister yelled for me to treat her. I said yes. I said let’s call him by the way then. He was so nervous, thinking about paying for it. He said what do I need to bring? I said you can just bring your mouth to eat. He repeatedly asked the next. Really do not have to bring anything? I said hmm. As a result, he came. To a small restaurant at the entrance of the house.
The meal was quite pleasant. My family is very affectionate. Very polite to him. But when I went to the checkout. But he was standing on the side looking. In fact, this meal is my treat. But also hides another layer of meaning. This is his first time to meet my parents, I feel that you let let or necessary. I will certainly not let you pay, at least you also have this action, let me heart comfort under. He was really honest and really only brought his mouth over to eat.
With this precedent, I don’t know why, but we’ve escalated from “who’s buying this meal” to “who’s getting the money” and I’m really depressed.
I don’t know how I got to this point, where relationships are backwards. I don’t know when he used to have no money on him, but he pretended to act like nothing was wrong, so much so that when it came to the checkout he looked at me and waited for me to pay. It’s like being married and having your wife in charge of all your money.
I don’t understand why he’s so mentally challenged to ask people to go out to dinner without loading up on money.
Once we went for a snack with my sister, and on the way he said he didn’t have any money on him.
I just took 100 and gave it to him, I mean don’t embarrass me later in front of my sister, go pay for it yourself. But I didn’t say it out loud, I just said then give you 100, he lifted his butt and let me put it in his butt pocket. But what I did not expect, to pay the money, we three people standing side by side, I and my sister at the same time to pay, he actually stood still …… this is the first time sister followed us two people eat, I also gave him 100 yuan in advance, he also stood there playing dumb. At that time, my face was hot and burning.
During the two months of dating, we saw each other every day and ate almost without remembering which meal he paid for. I only remember that I once checked out in the supermarket swipe card, let him help me take the next bank card, the results he installed himself on. The next day I went back home, he called and told me that there was no money. Tomorrow lend me 100 yuan from the card ……
Because I now open a small store. The monthly income is around 7,000, and it seems that this has become the reason why he thinks it is right that I should spend the money. He keeps saying, “Wife, you support me before marriage, I’ll support you after marriage.”
More than once, I was embarrassed for him every time I heard this, and I felt like it wasn’t even something a normal person would say, and I’ve never been one to cling to other people’s light, or to my own lovers. Now it’s turning into, he’s used to spending my money.
With him, I haven’t eaten anywhere particularly expensive, the most expensive is some fast-food restaurant, about 100 each time, all paid for by me, and he seems to have completely lost the ability to pay the bill, and has practiced to the point where he doesn’t change his face.