After meeting and falling in love, you have walked hand in hand for such a long time and are finally about to step into the hall of marriage. Every woman has fantasized about life after marriage, and perhaps you have a lot to look forward to, but I want to remind you to be careful to avoid the following 3 thoughts, which could potentially ruin your love.
Myth #1: Marry him, not marry his family
Many women The problem is that although they know something about his family when they fall in love, they don’t pay attention to it, thinking that they are marrying him and not his family, so they have the idea that his family has nothing to do with me. This point of view may seem quite reasonable, but it is important to know that a person’s life always carries traces of his upbringing, and the habits of the family are the habits of the person’s subconscious throughout his life. The habits he formed from childhood are difficult to change throughout his life. Therefore, marry a person, not marry him personally, but marry his upbringing trajectory and all of him.
Myth #2: He loves me so much and spoils me, he will definitely accept my transformation after marriage
Two people with different upbringing, different thinking and different living habits living together are bound to have conflicts over many details. Although these conflicts are some trivial things, but they are often the most consuming marriage tolerance. At the same time, the details of the insistence, reflecting the stubbornness of his ideology. The most important thing is that the woman’s husband is not the only one who can do it.
This is when women realize that if they want to transform a man, it is really a difficult task! In the face of futile transformation, women understand that men accept the transformation, and love has nothing to do with love, and his life trajectory and habits. So, marry him, must know where he comes from. To extend your appreciation from his body to where he comes from, that is, his family background. From there, you can see where he is in the present tense and where he is going in the future tense of his marriage.
Myth #3: Since we’re married, our husband should belong to our little family
Be clear that your he is not your private property, he belongs not only to your little family, but also to his parents, relatives, and friends. So, his heart must necessarily be divided some to them. Not only that, but your love has to extend to them along with him. Therefore, when you fall in love with a man and want to marry him, you must be mentally prepared that you are not just marrying him, you are marrying his habits and family background and social context. It is important to be clear that the man you are dealing with is not an individual, but the group of people behind his family environment and social interactions.