While men and women used to be unaffiliated, cohabitation is now becoming more common, and the age of cohabiting men and women is getting younger and younger, with many college students living together off-campus.
Some people say that cohabitation before marriage is to allow both sides to bond and see if they can accept each other’s personalities and usual habits; some say that cohabitation before marriage is to save money on going to the hotel. For those who enjoy cohabitation, it feels like heaven, for those who suffer from it, it is hell.
The initial desire of men and women who live together is good, hoping that the two can spend more time together and get to know each other better for their future married life. Many people believe that cohabitation is a marriage bonding period, because cohabitation and get to know each other better and love each other more deeply, thus making cohabitation a prelude to marriage. So, is living together before marriage destroying love or heating it up? Let’s explore.
Cohabitation before marriage is destroying love
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Studies show that most cohabitation is initiated by boys, who give it a good excuse, but deep down it’s about the convenience of making love and not having to pay for an expensive room at a hotel.
Living together before marriage looks good, but we have to face a lot of problems that can destroy the love between the two parties and make the love destroyed in premarital living together.
Possessions: When you’re in love, whether it’s a dinner date or a trip, men are generous enough to pay for it, and it gives them a sense of accomplishment to be able to pay for their girlfriends, but it’s not the same when you’re living together.
Living together is not like being in a relationship; there’s rent, utilities, internet, and the usual miscellaneous expenses that come with living together, and when a man looks at the daily bills, he’ll sweat his own wallet. As a woman, you will think that you take care of the household chores, expenses should be paid by men, but men do not think so, after all, you also have to spend money, you also have income. If it is AA, it will seem that men are too cheap and women will not accept it. It is said that poor couples are sad, is married, but also for money these small things and quarrel, let alone is living together before marriage. In the midst of constant bickering, love can fade and then perish.
Sex: There are many people who live together to settle for sex, mostly men. Some women will foolishly think that if they live with a male, they will be able to watch him every day and not let him go outside to get laid, and they will be able to latch on to him. But a lot of people who are married have not been able to be trapped, cohabitation has what power to trap him? A little inattention during sex can cause pregnancy. Although abortion technology is now very high, abortion is no longer a rare thing, but have you thought about how much harm abortion causes to the female body? Women can’t afford to be hurt!
I’ve heard many stories of women who just lost their fertility in improper abortions and can’t be a full woman, which is a lifelong regret. Will men still be with you after such a thing? Men still need to start a family, facing a woman who can not have children, even if he is okay with it, his family can not agree to your marriage. What is it that such cohabitation does not destroy love or what is it?
Living together before marriage is warming up love
Men and women who like to live together have good intentions The first thing that I want is to spend more time together, to get to know him or her better in life, to facilitate the future of married life, and not to take cohabitation as a child’s play. The men and women who live together believe that cohabitation is a bonding period for marriage, and that they know and love each other better because they live together.
There are many people who have not gone through pre-marital cohabitation, only to find out after marriage that the two people simply cannot live together, and so only end up in a hasty divorce. Pre-marital cohabitation has become a prelude to people moving towards marriage, where two people in love dominate life together, allowing each other to better see each other’s strengths and weaknesses, get to know each other’s families, education, habits, and even lovemaking positions. Only then, when the two walk hand in hand into marriage, it won’t feel like it all came too abruptly.
With different people having different views on living together before marriage, it is still beneficial to live together as long as we are honest with each other.